Category Archive

LGBTQ

At Offbeat Wed, we celebrate all queer identities and have subcategories for lesbian weddings, transgender weddings, gay weddings, and bisexuality & pansexuality, as well as genderqueer and non-binary gender identity issues.

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Why we had a very, very gay wedding (not “just a wedding”)

One of the arguments we hear a lot is that weddings aren’t “gay” or “straight,” they’re just weddings. Of course, that’s true… but our wedding was also very, very gay, and that was one of our favorite things about it!

In the fight for marriage equality, there’s a risk that the thing that makes queer lives different will get lost in the shuffle. We wanted to celebrate the gayness of gay weddings and the importance of our broad family-of-choice to our lives. We ended up writing the following passage and printing it in our wedding program:

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Val & Krys’ Americana-style blues party

Two extremely organized ladies who know how to rock an Excel spreadsheet are bound to know how to prioritize their wedding needs. And that includes a fab open bar, natch. Add in the adorable guest book wedding quilt, the tiny tuxedo-ed pooch, hilarious drag king officiant, and snazzy wedding garb, and you’ve got this adorable San Fran wedding.

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What’s a bride to wear if you like playing with gender expectations?

My fiance loves to wear a bow tie and suit jacket, and equally loves to wear little dresses — and she’s at an absolute loss as to what to wear for our July 2014 wedding! She’s got a faux-hawk with the sides of her head shaved, and loves playing with gender expectations. Sometimes she’s soft-butch, sometimes she’s femme.

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Dean & Matt’s classy “gaymer’s crash a gastropub” wedding

Retro video game photo booth props, a Mario cake, Plants Vs. Zombies cupcakes, and a chic gastropub in New York City… it’s a GAYmer wedding gone sophisticated! After a big snafu just getting to the venue, it was smooth sailing for the rest of the night (even if a TON of tears were shed). Get your achievement by clicking on this wedding and finding all the adorable gamer details.

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Geoff and Michael’s globally-focused but intimate San Francisco wedding

For their intimate wedding, Geoff and Michael wanted to bring together their families — one side hailing from New Zealand, the other from Toronto. The two opted to get hitched in San Francisco, a kind of halfway point for everyone. These two met in London, and have traveled around the world. It was important to them that they include their shared love for all things global in the wedding, …wait until you see how they integrated photos from all their travels!

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Kitten, Brynn, and Doll’s rainbow garden of poly love three-bride wedding

A gorgeous forest setting, lovely Pagan symbolism, and of course, three fabulous brides in long white gowns! They may have had to find a balance between different backgrounds, religions, and pre-conceived notions, but the end result was a kick-ass wedding that everyone could enjoy. Just learn from these blue-tongued ladies that a rainbow cake sometimes has it’s side effects…