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Our wedding was a financial wake-up call (and our lessons learned!)

After catching up post-wedding and entirely overhauling our finances, I can see all the places we went wrong. Whenever people ask how we knew it was time to restructure our finances, I answer with one thing — our wedding. This one event clarified a world of issues with our financial well-being, or lack thereof. And so, in addition to the standard simplifying and DIY projects that helped me through the process, here is some invaluable advice with which we walked away…

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I never imagined having a wedding until we did: how to throw a "non-wedding"

No one ever thought I would get married. Except I actually love weddings! I watch bridal shows and browse the stories and DIY projects on Offbeat Bride. When friends get married I'm super happy for them. But I can't stand the thought of having a big wedding party for myself or see myself as a princess in white. We decided to get married anddecided to throw a party. Therein we have our challenge…

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A wedding postmortem: what I'd change about our wedding

After a wedding is over "they" say to remember the good and forget the bad. There's no point harping about things that went wrong because there's no way to change them. However, with the benefit of hindsight, there are some things that I would do differently that might benefit you to know…

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Fear and loathing and wedding planning: working through your shit during the engagement

The engagement period, the period between "Yes" and "I do," is transitory — a life-changing transition. We spend a lot of time focusing on the actual day. It is, after all, supposed to be the "best day of your life." There are magazines, websites, and blogs dedicated to this monumental moment, but few people talk about the importance of simply being engaged. Marrying another person is a big deal. A lot comes with that commitment.

Here are my lessons learned…