We sent out our Save the Dates. We're having a pretty relaxed, but pretty big, picnic wedding in a park. I'll wear a white dress, he'll wear a suit, there may be speeches, there will be games. But we're already married. So as I put together our Wordpress wedsite, and our Save the Dates, I thought a lot about wording, and about transparency, and about inclusion.
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of invitation wording posts.
I was recently approached by a family member who received an invitation to an offbeat ceremony. While the invitee was thrilled to be invited, the question arose… what is this event? Wedding? Elaborate costume party? Dinner theater? Nowhere on the invite was it specified. So with offbeat invites… what is the best way of making sure your guests aren't confused about the event they're attending?
Right now, we're at the point where we're addressing and sending out our Save the Dates. I was trying to figure out the best way to include "and Guest" on the envelope, so I searched around. You know what the answer I got everywhere was? "Ask your guest their partner's name!" and "Guess what! You don't HAVE to invite people to bring a guest you don't know! Yay!" Not helpful.
Believe it or not, we decided way early on in our planning that we are totally excited for people to bring people we don't yet know to our wedding.
Here's your challenge: how to share your good news with people without making them feel like A) they were excluded from the good times, or B) you expect anything from them. In other words, you want to share the good news without bragging or making it seem like you're fishing for gifts. We've got copy 'n' paste ideas for you!
What do you do if you DON'T want to "cordially invite" people to your wedding? What if you want to just ask people to come party with you? You know what? You totally CAN!
So you're trying to keep your wedding small. How do you tell your friends that they don't get to bring a guest?
"My fiance and I are considering eloping, with then a small-scale party at our place when we get back. Is it still kosher to say on those invites that we're registered?"
"I am planning on having an informal family-only wedding at my dad's church. I'm considering doing a potluck wedding but was wondering if that was tacky to ask our guest to dish something up for everyone to share in?"
We are planning a small ceremony during the day with a limited number of guests. Later that evening, we will have a party/reception for everyone to come and celebrate whether they were at the ceremony or not. What is a polite way to word the invitations to the reception-only people so that they know that the ceremony was kept small so that no feelings are hurt?