How we worded the invitations for our crowdfunded wedding

We have decided to crowdfund our wedding. It won't pay for everything, but it does mean we can focus on having a good time rather than scrimping and saving on every little thing. The tricky part was wording everything right on the invitations, so we didn't come off as stingy or cheap. I wrote a little poem to explain the crowdfunding. If anyone wants it, they can steal it…


How to write honest invitations when you're getting weddinged

We sent out our Save the Dates. We're having a pretty relaxed, but pretty big, picnic wedding in a park. I'll wear a white dress, he'll wear a suit, there may be speeches, there will be games. But we're already married. So as I put together our Wordpress wedsite, and our Save the Dates, I thought a lot about wording, and about transparency, and about inclusion.


How do you make sure guests don't get confused by your offbeat ceremony invitation?

I was recently approached by a family member who received an invitation to an offbeat ceremony. While the invitee was thrilled to be invited, the question arose… what is this event? Wedding? Elaborate costume party? Dinner theater? Nowhere on the invite was it specified. So with offbeat invites… what is the best way of making sure your guests aren't confused about the event they're attending?


Yes, actually, I DO want to throw a party with a bunch of strangers

Right now, we're at the point where we're addressing and sending out our Save the Dates. I was trying to figure out the best way to include "and Guest" on the envelope, so I searched around. You know what the answer I got everywhere was? "Ask your guest their partner's name!" and "Guess what! You don't HAVE to invite people to bring a guest you don't know! Yay!" Not helpful.

Believe it or not, we decided way early on in our planning that we are totally excited for people to bring people we don't yet know to our wedding.