How to keep wedding planning anxiety from stonewalling your excitement

I have been a daughter, an employee, a friend, but the wife role terrified me. My preconceptions of what the wife role entailed crowded my thoughts. I am a huge romantic, and people dream of meeting the love of their life and living happily ever after. But what if it's not the way you envisioned it? Here are the things that helped me most through my engagement to soothe my wedding planning anxiety and realize this WAS meant to be and where I was supposed to be in my life…

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Are we "desperate" or just ready? The guilt of wanting to get married

Lately I've been feeling guilty. Then I've been feeling guilty about feeling guilty because I should know that I don't need to feel guilty. I've been feeling this way because I happen to be a woman who wants to get married someday. This in itself isn't a new development, but now I actively WANT it. Now "quirky engagement rings" keeps finding itself in my Pinterest search history and Offbeat Bride is gradually making its way up my most visited sites. It's literally proposal guilt.

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No dieting, no makeup, no shame: My anti-diet, equal opportunity, feminist wedding

I'm getting married this July, and like a lot of women, I'm getting increasingly excited and somewhat nervous about this. As someone who is all about equality, feminism, self-acceptance, and patriarchy smashing, there are a couple of things that my impending feminist, anti-diet wedding will not be about. For the sake of any other bride or groom or person who needs a reminder that you're going to do just fine, here it is…

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I went window shopping for rings and now regret it

I had a modest ring that I could afford bookmarked and budgeted. Then my fianc√© convinced me that we HAD to go try on rings at a big box jewelry store. The men's band and wedding set we found and fell in love with costs $8,000! And my reasonable little ring looks shabby and drab by comparison. I thought I could walk away, and I can. I just did not anticipate the other cascade of feelings…