My name isn’t “Mrs”: On changing my mind about changing my last name
Changing my mind about changing my last name was undoubtedly really confusing for my husband, because I had clearly stated my intention to take his name once we were married. But when people started calling me “Mrs. HisLastName” I didn’t like it!
I’m changing my first AND last name after marriage
Did I want to keep having the same tiresome, negative conversation with every new person that I meet? Not really. Is changing my entire name going to be incredibly inconvenient? Most certainly, in terms of process, costs, and social confusion. Is my happiness worth the inconvenience? When I asked myself that question, the answer was a resounding YES. Additionally, I now have no problem taking my partner’s (delightful) last name when I will also be taking my own first name, on my own terms.
Thinking Bride: How Offbeat Bride helped me be more authentic
I actually found Offbeat Bride through a site (that shall remain nameless but not blameless) where the writer was mocking it. The tone of the mockery was, “Look at these weirdos who think they’re so special and different!” But here’s the thing: I WANTED my wedding to be special and different. Now, over a year later and as my wedding date quickly approaches, I shall literally count the ways in which Offbeat Bride has helped me. If it weren’t for Offbeat Bride, my wedding would have been a lot more…
The wrong way to make a bouquet? Learning to accept help and relinquish wedding control
I haven’t been asking for help, I haven’t been delegating, and I’ve been overwhelmed and drowning in an endless sea of paperwork and DIY projects. I’ve been so worried about letting people help because I feel like only I know what the end result is “supposed” to be, and I’m scared that if someone else makes something it won’t be “right.” This is where my thinking needs to change…
High-femme-queen or a little bit rustic? Sometimes I feel like a kid “playing Bride”
My fiancée and I were talking the other day about our wedding, and it kind of feels like we are playing pretend. Ok, y’all, we actually are grown-ass people. We are both 34 years old. I will be 35 in not-that-long. We have both been married before. We know what we’re getting ourselves into. But I still feel like a kid playing Bride.
How escaping Scientology weirdly relates to wedding planning
Whenever people are like BOO MAINSTREAM WEDDINGS BOO WIC I HATE THE WEDDING INDUSTRY RAH RAH RAH, I’m always like “I get your frustration there, guys — but stop fighting so much against what you don’t want, and start proactively working to determine what you DO want. Construction is always more difficult than demolition!” Here’s why creation is more interesting to me that reacting.