Half our guests said no: Seeing the positives to an itty bitty guest list
More than half our guest list is unable to attend our wedding. As a result, we’ve gone from having a small wedding to having a microscopic one. I keep waffling between thoughts of, “This is awesome!” and, “Ohfuckohfuck, what will people think?!” I want to kick these negative thoughts about our compact wedding to the curb. They’re untrue, and they only serve to make me feel bad. I don’t deserve to feel bad. I’m a fantastic person hosting a fantastic wedding. In the name of positivity, here’s a list of everything that can be awesome about itty bitty weddings:
Wedding backlash and being accountable for your choices
Wedding planning is all about making a crapload of choices. Even those couples who do their utmost to avoid making every single decision still have to face some choices. Dudes, some of those choices are tough ones. And we can talk forever about etiquette, or rules, or best practices, but real life comes with choices that don’t always fit into nice boxes. The thing is, when you make a big decision, especially about an event like a wedding, people have major feels about it. MAJOR FEELS. And when it comes to weddings, we often want to seek advice but we also often get unsolicited advice. In the face of that, you need to be prepared to be accountable.
3 reasons why you might want to avoid talking about your wedding at work (and 1 reason why you totally SHOULD talk about it)
We’ve already discussed How to talk about your wedding on Facebook without pissing people off, but how about the other social landscape fraught with gaping anxiety pits and hidden ditches of drama? The workplace.
Now, I KNOW how many of you are reading this at work right now (shh: no shame), so let’s talk this one through: you’re engaged, you’re excited, and you spend many hours a week in the same place, with the same people, doing the same stuff. But I’ve got three super important things you should consider before talking about your wedding at work… things that may make you not want to discuss it there, ever. And then I’ve got one super solid reason for why you totally SHOULD talk about your wedding at work.
Why I’m giving all my wedding guests +1s
Right now, we’re at the point where we’re addressing and sending out our Save the Dates. I was trying to figure out the best way to include “and Guest” on the envelope, so I searched around. You know what the answer I got everywhere was? “Ask your guest their partner’s name!” and “Guess what! You don’t HAVE to invite people to bring a guest you don’t know! Yay!” Not helpful.
Believe it or not, we decided way early on in our planning that we are totally excited for people to bring people we don’t yet know to our wedding.
Our lopsided guest list has me afraid of being a stranger at my own wedding
When I started confronting my fears that I would feel like a stranger on our wedding day, I felt like I was the only bride that ever felt that way. After all, I thought brides were always supposed to be happy, enthusiastic and the natural center of attention. But as I worked through my stranger danger anxiety, I realized that the steps I was taking were useful not only to my particular issue, but also to many types of wedding-related anxiety.
What to do when an uninvited guest RSVPs for the wedding you didn’t invite them to attend
So, we’ve talked about How to tell your guests they don’t get a +1. We’ve gone over 10 blunt-but-loving ways to tell people they’re not invited to your wedding. But what happens when a non-guest takes it a step further, and actually RSVPs to your wedding? You know, the wedding you never invited them to?