Which states have gender neutral marriage certificates?

I'm non-binary, and she's binary trans. Neither of us have done anything to medically or therapeutically transition and probably won't be any time soon. We were both born and currently live in Tennessee, so even if we did medically transition, I'm pretty sure we're out of luck when it comes to changing our birth certificates. It would be ideal to have a marriage license that uses gender neutral terms like "partner" or "spouse."

Are there any states which have gender neutral marriage certificate language?

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This gender fluid wedding dress photo shoot gives zero fucks about the "gender binary"

If you're a frequenter of Vine, YouTube, and other social sources, you may know of Jeffrey Marsh, the inspiring, perfectly styled, gender fluid viral sensation telling us to just be ourselves. They have recently been involved in a gender fluid wedding dress photo shoot that gave us major heart eyes AND gave a big middle finger to the gender binary. Let's take a look at this shoot that gives zero fucks about our artificial notions of gender and fabulousness.

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Cake tasting and spitballing: 6 tips for planning a wedding TOGETHER

When we went cake tasting, the wonderful woman who was working with us expressed her surprise that the groom was there. When we went to a venue, the coordinator spoke to me only and generally pretended my fiancée wasn’t there.

My fiancé and I decided to plan our wedding together. Our relationship has been a partnership, and we plan for our marriage to be a partnership; foisting the work on me for the wedding planning is out of sync with our relationship values. While the amount of talking can get exhausting, we’re committed to doing this together. As we continue the planning process, we’ll take some of the lessons we’ve learned so far and apply them forward…

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"I looked like a princette" My experience as a non-binary bridesmate

My best friend got married recently, which was exciting and amazing. I was in her bridal party, which was also exciting and amazing. The only issue was that I’m non-binary — that is, I’m transgender and not a man or a woman. I know that many other trans, especially non-binary, people find themselves pressured to present in a way that makes them feel awful at weddings. Through my experience I think I really learned a lesson about presentation and how much small details and accessories make you feel as a non-binary bridesmate.

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You may now kiss each other

Every once in a while, a couple comes up with a wedding alternative I've just never thought of before. Lo and behold, Dagny and Charlie came up with this super simple twist to a traditional ceremony script:

"It was also important to me that our first kiss as a married couple was something that both of us entered into. Traditionally, people say, 'You may now kiss the bride.' We opted instead for, 'You may now kiss each other.' For many, it seemed like a silly, small thing, but for me it was a big deal."