I am a Caucasian, cisgender, homosexual woman. My fiancé is transgender. Xe was assigned-female-at-birth but identifies as genderqueer and uses the gender neutral pronouns xe/xyr/xem. No one ever uses xyr correct pronouns unless they are explicitly told to use them and even then some people flat-out refuse. So what do we do about it? I am done sitting in my bubble of privilege. I am popping my bubble, donning the outfit of a warrior bride (think chainmail veil), and taking my vocal sword into the crowd and to my wedding!
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of gender queer posts.
I went to try on dresses. Me — in all my genderqueer/butch/transmasculine glory — in a traditional bridal salon, trying on wedding gowns. I found "The Dress." But I didn't buy The Dress. I'm not going to wear The Dress or any other dress. That's not the point.
Nicole and Melissa's Washington wedding at Nature's Connection Place is one for the books! For starters, they crafted "gride" and "broom" signs for their chairs and were wed by a bearded be-glittered member of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, who officiated while rocking a massive rainbow sequined headdress. There were hints of purple in everything from the couple's matching boutonnieres to the violets cascading down the side of their wedding cake.
When life throws you lemons, you make delicious intimate wedding lemonade! This pair was planning a larger wedding, but we love the results of their change-of-plans: a chic restaurant, 15 of their nearest and dearest, and a funny moment during the ceremony.
Whether you're looking to make your own menswear accessories, or your own femswear accessories, we've got you covered. Suspenders are so chic, can be easily personalized, and are so easy to make!
Inspired by "Dapper," Offbeat Bride's new androgynous header illustration, I present my curated collection of wedding shoes for dapper brides and offbeat grooms.
…Because the masculine-inclined need cool shoes, too, and not just rentals from the tux shop. These are a mix of women's and men's shoes; I've had great luck wearing men's oxford and boots, although I don't know if it works the other direction.
We all know that Converse are the un-official shoe of the Offbeat Groom, and that's awesome. We're fully in support of All-Stars. They're sweet shoes, and imminently affordable. But what about for the discerning dude who wants something a little more formal, a little less athletic? Something that's going to be fancy as hell and can be resoled?
Well! Today I bring you my current favorite crop of men's formal footwear.
Corsets, sword canes, cat cupcake toppers, and a stylin' gender-neutral party of "wing people." That's the fun in store with this celebration of throwing caution and gender to the wind. Plus, there's a heaping helping of gothic Victorian fashion.
Bex and Cort planned a fab outdoor ceremony complete with lots of traditional and alternative takes on Jewish traditions, and were both fashion plates on top of it. Lots of laughter (including dad's "presentation" speech and mad emcee skills) and lots of personalization made this day all theirs.
With a budget the size of one month's rent, this thrifty couple capitalized on the talents of friends and family to create an intimate and musical wedding with vegan flair. Their outdoor ceremony may have been rained out, but the indoor alternative amplified the music and they preferred it in the end. Crisis averted.
This worldly couple manages to elegantly combine traditions from Buddhist, Jewish, Filipino, Catholic, and Chinese into one heckuva wedding. And you don't want to miss the a-dor-able video of Juno surprising Noah with a choreographed dance number!