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So, is now the right time? …HOW ABOUT NOW?! Photo by Whitney Lee

I am a girl (I'm sure one of many) who is waiting for the day when I will actually be engaged and feel more legitimate about my daily visits to Offbeat Bride. I have been living with my boyfriend for 2 of the almost 4.5 years we have been together, and I'm torn. My girly emotional side is constantly thinking, "OMG when are we going to get married?" but my practical side is also constantly thinking, "We just finished grad school and don't have real jobs lined up and don't know where we're going to live yet, we can't possibly get married right now, and why would we get engaged if we're not ready to get married?"

My question is, if your relationship and emotions are ready for marriage, is it just stubborn to put it off until "your lives are in order" (whatever that means)? Does anyone ever get to a point where they feel their life is truly in order? Or am I doomed to forever be saying, "We'll get married after we finish grad school." "We'll get married after we both have more stable jobs." "We'll get married after we save up [insert completely arbitrary amount of money]"? -Lexy

I love this question, which is a different version twist on Offbeat Mama's most popular post of all time, "When is the right time to have a child?" Yes, getting married and having children are different decisions, but in some ways the factors to big life decisions are similar: you have to craft a balance between your emotions and your resources, like money and time.

A bunch of my friends got just got engaged, and now they're all planning weddings. As a happily un-partnered woman, of course I'm excited for them, but I can't help it … I feel left behind.

Sure, some couples wait many years (or even decades) to get married. But is there such a thing as waiting too long?

Offbeat bride reader Sarah, shared with us this cute story about how, with the help of a some good friends and a top-secret plan, she popped the question to her man.

I am 19 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We are very much in love and have eventual plans for marriage, but nothing set in stone. An old friend recently commented that we were "too young" to be engaged. How can I diffuse future situations where others judge our love to be "too young" for anything serious?

OBT member Caitlin wrote this post on how it feels to be girl engaged to another girl surrounded by girls engaged to boys.

Last week's Why you should propose to your boyfriend post was a big hit, so I'm continuing on with Part 2: HOW to propose to your boyfriend. Of course there are as many ways to...

Girls, STOP WAITING! If you're into questioning traditions, start by questioning the very first assumption about weddings: that a woman's role is waiting for a man to pick her.