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conflict resolution

Dealing with wedding planning conflict sucks — especially when it’s family drama. These are our wedding advice posts all about helping you deal with arguments, disagreements, boundaries, and frustrations. We even have posts full of copy-n-paste responses to negative wedding feedback!

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What to do if wedding planning is sucking the joy out of life

This wedding planning thing can suck hard. Not everyone loves planning a wedding and some people downright hate it. Drama happens, things go wrong, and planning is a whole heck of a lot of work. If that’s you right now, then maybe we can help make things at least a little better with these six tips.

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How to get your wedding party involved (and not hate you afterwards)

We’ve talked many times about the challenges that can arise when your wedding attendants are helping you organize your wedding, but I’m not sure we’ve ever addressed how you can get help from your bridesmaids or other wedding party members. It’s a delicate dance, to be sure… you want help with your wedding, and ideally you want the people helping you not to hate you after it’s all done. You can totally do it. Here’s how.

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7 ways to keep “Momthulhu” from hijacking your wedding plans

Before the Bridethulhu, there was the Momthulhu: wrecker of peaceful wedding planning, stirrer of pots, and thwarter of offbeat ideas. Maybe you have one? Maybe your partner does?

If you have a wonderful-but-at-times-overbearing mother involved in your wedding planning, here are seven ways to keep your beloved Momthulhu appeased and contented:

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How to fire a bridesmaid

Yes, firing a bridesmaid sounds shitty. Honestly, it usually feels pretty shitty. There are lots of different reasons that a bridesmaid just might not work out — some that are high drama (like a fight or a friendship ending) and some that aren’t quite as emotional (life situation changes, unexpected illness or injury). Regardless, it still sucks. Here’s how to make it suck less…

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The joy of NO: What offbeat-types can teach you about saying “no,” even to yourself

Being on the wild end of the offbeat spectrum does confer certain disadvantages and benefits. You’ve gotten really good at deflecting or ignoring criticism, maintaining internalized self worth, and just generally saying NO. NO to feeling bad about yourself, NO to apologizing for your choices, NO to altering your life to suit the preferences of others. NO is a goddamn survival skill. This is fucking invaluable as shit when wedding planning.

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When your culture is counter-culture: Lovingly explaining your more traditional wedding choices

Offbeat Bride has some wonderful, “Thank you for your interest but I’ve already decided” conflict resolution posts that apply to pretty much anything. But here are some specific scenarios if you, like me, find yourself a little bit too onbeat for others’ likings.