I'm both maid of honor AND best woman at my best friends' wedding

My friends Beth and Eric (formerly Beth and Katrina!) are getting married, and I'm both the maid of honor AND the best woman. Yeah. Even for somebody completely qualified to fulfill these roles, this is a daunting task, and I am probably one of the least qualified people to be given such an honor. Balancing both of these roles is challenging no matter how much I care for both of them. Especially when they come into conflict. Here's how I'm handling it…


How wedding planning coffee rituals can de-stress your planning sessions

Planning a wedding, especially an offbeat wedding, can be fraught with stress and conflict. But if you establish some rituals beforehand, you can avoid a lot of strife and set up some basic relationship rules that will last you into your marriage. With a planning ritual, good boundaries, and knowing when to step away, you can create wedding planning coffee rituals to save your sanity. Let's talk planning…


Kicking 'em out: how can we word our "zero argument" drama-free wedding rule?

We are no strangers to family and guest drama at weddings. Hell, we've got whole archives for family advice, family drama, and conflict resolution. People are people and people can bring the dramaz. You're totally on the right path by nipping it in the bud early and diplomatically addressing the issue on your wedding website. Wedding websites are the best place to explain anything you want explained: dress codes, ceremony rituals, accommodations, and of course, any specific drama rules that you'll be putting in place. Let's talk about how to word it.