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How do you deal with potentially homophobic guests at your gay-friendly wedding?

So the homophobic-tendency people are off the list, and I can live with that — but what if this happens anyway, because I missed someone on the list with views I didn't know about? Has anyone else ever had a problem like this happen to them? How did you handle it? Do you have family that is prejudiced, and how did you handle knowing about their issues, and reconciling that with your wedding guests?

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Love and compromise: how an Offbeat Bride and a traditional groom make it work

While wedding planning is lots of fun, it can also be stressful, especially when the each partner has different ideas of what the wedding should look like. While I try very hard not to subscribe to the Wedding Industrial Complex's idea of "everything is about me, me, me." Aometimes it's hard to compromise. Sometimes I get pouty and selfish, maybe even demanding, and in those moments, I am not loving my fiancé.

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Wedding junk mail: When life gives you garbage, make confetti!

With my marketing and public relations background, I really should have known that once I started calling vendors, my name would wind up on someone's mailing list. For the last several weeks, I have been receiving regular junk mail from my area's WIC staple vendors. So I've come up with several solutions of what to do with all that gross junk mail…

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The drama-minimizing guide to not inviting family members to your wedding

Ug. This is a post no one wants to write, but that definitely needs to be written. Most of us really do wish our weddings could be sweet celebrations of love and family, commitment and community. Unfortunately, for a whole bunch of legitimate reasons ranging from addiction to abuse, crime to communication problems, some of you are going to face the challenge of not inviting certain family members (or ANY family members) to your wedding.

It's going to suck. Obviously, no one article can work for every tangled family situation, but let's see if we can help you make it suck a little less.

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From pissy to pretty calm: How to plan your wedding, Project Manager-style

My fiancé and I are both project management types — at work, and in our general personalities. So, we have weekly wedding planning meetings with agendas. This has managed to keep us sane, speaking to each other, productive, and focused on other things, like unpacking the house we just bought, getting through a terribly hectic time at work, enjoying each other, and focusing on my nearly-six year old son. Here's how we plan our wedding, Project Manager-style…

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How to get bridesmaids to help (and not hate you afterwards)

We've talked many times about the challenges that can arise when your wedding attendants are helping you organize your wedding, but I'm not sure we've ever addressed how you can get help from your bridesmaids or other wedding party members. It's a delicate dance, to be sure… you want help with your wedding, and ideally you want the people helping you not to hate you after it's all done. You can totally do it. Here's how.

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How to fire a bridesmaid

Yes, firing a bridesmaid sounds shitty. Honestly, it usually feels pretty shitty. There are lots of different reasons that a bridesmaid just might not work out — some that are high drama (like a fight or a friendship ending) and some that aren't quite as emotional (life situation changes, unexpected illness or injury). Regardless, it still sucks. Here's how to make it suck less…

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The joy of NO: What offbeat-types can teach you about saying "no," even to yourself

Being on the wild end of the offbeat spectrum does confer certain disadvantages and benefits. Disadvantages in that you can't pass for mainstream — you're always a threat, always a target. People attack you for no reason. But benefits in that blocking all those attacks gives you some pretty sweet armor. You've gotten really good at deflecting or ignoring criticism, maintaining internalized self worth, and just generally saying NO. NO to feeling bad about yourself, NO to apologizing for your choices, NO to altering your life to suit the preferences of others. NO is a goddamn survival skill.

This is fucking invaluable as shit when wedding planning.