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I'm getting married this July, and like a lot of women, I'm getting increasingly excited and somewhat nervous about this. As someone who is all about equality, feminism, self-acceptance, and patriarchy smashing, there are a couple of things that my impending feminist, anti-diet wedding will not be about. For the sake of any other bride or groom or person who needs a reminder that you're going to do just fine, here it is…

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I've been photographing people in love for over a decade now, and the┬ánumber one question I get asked as a photographer (by far!) is actually the wrong question to ask…

"Can you make me look good?" The only way to answer this question, is to bring it all the way around to body image. When the question, "Can you make me look good?" is asked, I learned that that's not really what they're asking…

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OPEN THREAD: I'm getting body shamed by anti-body shamers

I am getting married this year and, while I love my curves, I want to feel comfortable in my strapless dress — having never showed that much skin in my life. So I made the personal choice to join a gym and eat better. Now I now find myself the recipient of passive aggressive comments from self-proclaimed anti-shamers. I don't feel like I'm getting support for my choices from the people I need it the most: my fellow curvy brides. How do I express to them that I feel like they are actually shaming me?