I can’t handle addressing these wedding invitations. Everyone says I should address it to “mr. & mrs. man’s-name last-name” but it pisses me off — addresses like this completely blow past the female component of a relationship. Any ideas for how to be true-to-self without trying to make an in-your-face statement?

I’m not sure what etiquette would advise, but my solution was to skip last names completely on my invites. I addressed them with first names and affectionate titles, ie “Dad & Andrea” (for my father and his gf), “Auntie Cherie & Dave” (for my aunt and her bf), and “Dallas & Erin” (for my married friends). I usually listed whoever I felt like knew better first, i.e. “Susannah & Michael” for my best friend from high school and her husband.

Obviously, your mileage may vary with this technique and it’s probably not up to any sort of etiquette, but it felt like the simple, straightforward solution to me.