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WTF weird wedding shoes

My taste in shoes always runs toward the loud, but today I'm just going to throw caution to the wind and do a post that's all really weird wedding shoes, all the time. Because sometimes you want a collection of comfortable wedding shoes, and sometimes you just want… weirdness. Despite the odd-ball nature of all of these shoes, they're all real shoes available for real purchase.

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Priscilla & Christopher's dark and gorgeous Wiccan handfasting

Skull details and spooky music set the tone for this dark and gorgeous Wiccan wedding. A little Lana del Rey, some old timey Disney music, and high priestess ceremony officiant rounded it all out. Don't miss the World of Warcraft cake topper, the bride's hidden purple and black tights, and their amazing highlights video.

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Cajun food, umbrellas, and a Rihanna fake-out at Mona & Tammy's New Orleans wedding

This wedding celebrates all that makes New Orleans awesome: the food, the music, and the gorgeous venues. They may have met from a distance, but their love brought them together with amazing support from their community. Don't miss the two gowns, the umbrella fake-out first dance, the beautiful cake with "Mrs. and Mrs." on top, and the Converse-filled dance in the streets.

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How to look (and feel!) amazing in your wedding photos

Wanna know how to look amazing in pictures? I can help you with that! Since I'm a wedding photographer, I photograph a lot of regular people — people that are not used to being photographed, and usually are clueless as to what to do. Hell, even if you aren't getting married, and you just want to know how to look amazing in pictures, keep reading as this applies to everything…

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Lose yourself in the fantasy of a Renaissance Faire wedding

This is a Renaissance Faire wedding for the books, you guys. Cera and Gerrick said their vows last October in a medieval-style castle in New Hampshire. Of course, Gerrick wore a sword, and Cera had a beautiful corset made by her sister. But my jaw dropped when I saw that all their guests dressed to the nines for a Renaissance Faire wedding. We've got a jester and a knight and… is it weird that my favorites are the older ladies dressed in elaborate gowns and hats? Hell, that's what I want to wear when I'm 60.

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Lose yourself in the fantasy of a Renaissance Faire wedding

This is a Renaissance Faire wedding for the books, you guys. Cera and Gerrick said their vows last October in a medieval-style castle in New Hampshire. Of course, Gerrick wore a sword, and Cera had a beautiful corset made by her sister. But my jaw dropped when I saw that all their guests dressed to the nines for a Renaissance Faire wedding. We've got a jester and a knight and… is it weird that my favorites are the older ladies dressed in elaborate gowns and hats? Hell, that's what I want to wear when I'm 60.

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Edgy vs. preppy: this first look is a surprise for bride AND groom

Jason told Brettnee he didn't want her to see his suit until their wedding day last September. Brettnee was planning her own rocking outfit with a leather jacket and a Zac Posen mermaid gown, so fair enough! While their personal aesthetic is a bit different ("Jason's more preppy where I'm more edgy," Brettnee said), the style trust between these two is real. "I knew it was going to be different and sharp."

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This sweet electric blue wedding will make your teeth ache

Just look at that HUUUGGEE grin on Chris, will you? I love it when grooms show how over-the-moon they are on their wedding days. He and Priscilla said "I do" in California last August. All right, so Chris' grin is totally one of the reasons I was drawn to their photos. The other is this fantastic electric blue wedding they've got going on! It's everywhere, from Priscilla's shoes to their candy buffet (want that blue rock candy) to the bouquet wrapping.

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Bringing the glam with tattoos, plugs, and purple hair at a backyard wedding

If there's one thing that makes our eyes light up at Offbeat Bride, it's deliciously colored hair. Jessica had this amazing dark purple flip going on for her October wedding to Robbie, and I could eat that color with a spoon. Robbie stepped up to the plate too with an impeccably trimmed beard (always a heart stopper) and gold ear tunnels. Mmm, but I think Jessica might have pulled ahead a bit in the style game with her 1920s-style lace wedding hat. Hats should be loads more common than they are — they look so damn cool.

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A high-low dress at a rainy wedding keeps things sexy, not soggy

Sasha and Albert have known each other since high school. They live in New York City, their families live in New Jersey, and everyone traveled to Vermont for the couple's wedding last August. North Hero was a favorite vacation spot for Sasha and Albert, and it certainly doesn't look to me like they minded braving a chilly, rainy day at the lake! And how absolutely spot on is Sasha's dress for a tall bride on a drizzly day? Showing off the legs + not worrying about a soggy hem = winning!

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Priscilla & Christopher's dark and gorgeous Wiccan handfasting

Skull details and spooky music set the tone for this dark and gorgeous Wiccan wedding. A little Lana del Rey, some old timey Disney music, and high priestess ceremony officiant rounded it all out. Don't miss the World of Warcraft cake topper, the bride's hidden purple and black tights, and their amazing highlights video.

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Cajun food, umbrellas, and a Rihanna fake-out at Mona & Tammy's New Orleans wedding

This wedding celebrates all that makes New Orleans awesome: the food, the music, and the gorgeous venues. They may have met from a distance, but their love brought them together with amazing support from their community. Don't miss the two gowns, the umbrella fake-out first dance, the beautiful cake with "Mrs. and Mrs." on top, and the Converse-filled dance in the streets.

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Angela & Chandler had a sweet Oregon elopement with an Idaho reception

This pair was able to plan an elopement long-distance to a place they'd never been just for the adventure. After that it was a Basque-themed reception in Idaho for their friends and family. Don't miss the bride's multiple dresses, the adorable photos after the ceremony, and retro details everywhere. Oh, and wait until you hear what happened to their cakes!

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Rainbow meets steampunk at Jen & Clynton's South Africa wedding

A steampunk cake with a rainbow middle totally encapsulates this wedding. Think rainbows everywhere with old clocks, feathers, copper and silverware, telephones, inkwells, and anything their imagination could invent. Borrowing from friends helped keep the budget down as did some creative thinking. Add in a few sword photos, awesomely mismatched centerpieces, and an amazing rainbow dress, and we're all in.

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Red, white, and Lord of the Rings: Marlene & Graham's sweet handfasting

A little bit geeky, a little bit classy, with a whole lot of awesome diplomacy. This bride's "bridechilla" attitude was actually a double-edged sword in the end. But no matter, this adorable couple knew exactly how to craft up an amazing wedding with a cool color scheme, lots of Lord of the Rings references (especially in the vows!), and some truly tear-jerking moments.

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Red and black rockabilly for days at Jessica & Tim's wedding

DIYed centerpieces never looked so fine with red and black accents. Add in the rockabilly fashion, the custom Converse, gorgeous high-ceiling venue, and hand-painted wine ceremony box, and you've got a modern chic rockabilly vibe. Don't miss the last-minute cake cutting tool and the sweet, emotional flower girl. Tears!

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How to look (and feel!) amazing in your wedding photos

Wanna know how to look amazing in pictures? I can help you with that! Since I'm a wedding photographer, I photograph a lot of regular people — people that are not used to being photographed, and usually are clueless as to what to do. Hell, even if you aren't getting married, and you just want to know how to look amazing in pictures, keep reading as this applies to everything…

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We couldn’t agree who should officiate, so we had a self-uniting wedding

We couldn’t agree on anyone to be our officiant — each person we thought of “belonged” too strongly to me or to my husband; no one belonged enough to both of us. We aren’t religious, so there was no minister in our life, and we didn’t want to bring in someone we didn’t know. So using resources I found here, including Wedding Ceremony 101 and a few wedding ceremony scripts that I collected from my family, I wrote our ceremony, divided up the text between me and my husband, and we officiated our own wedding…

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8 body-positive tips for plus size brides

Being plus sized (or fat — I like the word fat) can add an extra layer of pressure onto the normally stressful stuff of life. But let's lay all of that stuff out on the line right here and now. I want to give you my body-positive plus size bride advice. These eight tips will save you tons of stress and help to make your special day actually special instead of stressful…

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Ceremony script with unicorns and space travel

Our officiant wrote most of our ceremony, and really knocked it out of the park. But my partner and I each picked out a reading, and I took a bunch of Daily Odd Compliments and put them together in a way that flowed. Then we wrote the unity ceremony part, and used a unity ceremony we found here on Offbeat Bride. I'm mostly in love with it, so I want to share it with you…

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Instead of a dollar dance, have a dollar selfie

If you haven't heard of a "dollar dance," here's the scoop. Guests donate one dollar to get a dance with you at your wedding. Pretty simple concept, but totally customizable to the selfie generation (of which I fully support!). Instead of dancing — since not everyone loves that anyway — guests can contribute a dollar for a selfie with you instead.

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6 ways to stay positive with a tight wedding budget

My fiancé Ryan proposed to me the day after he graduated with his bachelor’s degree. We have been together for seven years, and both of us are eager to start our life together. But we also knew that with him working part time and job hunting, we would have to keep ourselves on a tight budget. Throughout the wedding planning process, we’ve learned six lessons that have helped keep our cash, and our goals, in check..

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How to write a kick-ass wedding speech

What if you've been asked to make a wedding speech and you have stage fright, or are getting writer's block, or are having nightmares about the experience — you know, the one where you're standing naked in front of the crowd — and kind of want to back out? Well, grab a drink, calm down, and read this advice…

Recent Features

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I had an anxiety attack right before my wedding: What it meant, what it didn't, and how to cope

In an attempt to stave off further anxiety, I decided to do what any good writer would do and research. I searched “I'm anxious before my wedding,” “How do get through the wedding when you're anxious,” “How to not be anxious for your wedding when you're an anxious person in general.” Similar to how googling an illness automatically tells you you have cancer, every search I made indicated that my marriage was doomed. That awful little voice in my head was telling me They are right, even though I knew they weren't. Wasn't there someone out there who suffered from anxiety and could relate to what I was going through?

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Tacky weddings: How to not like things, and not be a dick about it

Way back in 2011, I wrote about the shock some folks can experience when their wedding goes viral. The sad truth is that this a perennial topic, because, well, the internet loves to snark about weddings. Even if your wedding doesn't go the full Buzzfeed viral, there's always the chance that members of, say, a board focused on wedding etiquette might be mortified, and link to it, and the comments might get flooded with negativity.

This happened a few weeks ago…

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I proposed to my boyfriend with the help of sharks and Cthulhu

At first there was always the assumption that he would be the one to propose because he’s, ya know, the man. In retrospect I’m a little embarrassed that it took me so long to realize that I could propose instead. Spoiler alert: I proposed. MORE SPOILERS! He said yes.

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Obvious and outdated: is my work here done?

The Offbeat Bride book was first released in December of 2006, with a second edition in January of 2010. The wedding it described happened in 2004, and I wrote the bulk of the book ten years ago. The fact that people still buy the book at all is only because of this here website, but somehow people do continue to buy it… and sometimes review it on Amazon.

A negative review came in a couple months ago that blew my mind in the best possible way.

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WTF is "scrumming" and how can it help you actually ENJOY wedding planning

Our wedding planning process was smooth and enjoyable in large part due to my husband’s and my day jobs. He’s a software developer and I’ve been a “Scrum Master.” It sounds like a made-up title, but it’s actually a real thing. “Scrum” is a popular methodology used in software development and manufacturing, and my husband and I found it was perfect for wedding planning as well.

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How escaping Scientology weirdly relates to wedding planning

Whenever people are like BOO MAINSTREAM WEDDINGS BOO WIC I HATE THE WEDDING INDUSTRY RAH RAH RAH, I'm always like "I get your frustration there, guys — but stop fighting so much against what you don't want, and start proactively working to determine what you DO want. Construction is always more difficult than demolition!" Here's why creation is more interesting to me that reacting.

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WTF weird wedding shoes

My taste in shoes always runs toward the loud, but today I'm just going to throw caution to the wind and do a post that's all really weird wedding shoes, all the time. Because sometimes you want a collection of comfortable wedding shoes, and sometimes you just want… weirdness. Despite the odd-ball nature of all of these shoes, they're all real shoes available for real purchase.

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9 pairs of Victorian-flavored boots for your pointy-toed or steampunk wedding

We recently shared a post on Facebook that featured a photo with the boots above as the illustration. Immediately a reader was like "Whatever about that post — WHAT ABOUT THOSE BOOTS." So perhaps it's time to share a small collection of Victorian boots. These could be great Neo-Victorian or steampunk wedding shoes, or maybe you just like booties with lace and pointy toes? Regardless, if granny boots are your thing… this is your post.

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"Getting naked does stuff": finding yourself with body positive boudoir photography from Jezebel VonZephyr

Boudoir sessions almost always flip on a confidence switch that we just LOVE. That's why we always love partnering with fantastic and body positive boudoir photographers like Jezebel VonZephyr Boudoir in downtown Bothell, WA. Let's talk about what a boudoir session with Sara from Jezebel VonZephyr can do for not only your confidence, but also your soul. Yep, it can be that transformative. We'll also see why "Getting naked does stuff."

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19 affordable wedding shoes under $50

Think your economical shoe budget can't get you big footwear fashion? AU CONTRAIRE! Under $50 is no problem. A small caution with super cheap shoes: some of these are going to be designer knock-offs. Some of them might not be the most comfortable or well-constructed. Some of them are available in limited quantities or are only available in limited sizes. For this post, I prioritized price point over all other interests. So if you're looking for fabulous, offbeat bridal footwear that's going to make your feet look sweet for the afternoon you get married, this is your post.

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3 ways San Francisco-based 43rd Ave. Photography will bring out your wedding's inner mojo

Finding photographers who are open to your ideas (offbeat or otherwise), can capture real moments in your wedding that aren't just staged group shots, and know how to interact with you and your guests is SO valuable. That's why we especially love Nicole and Stephen from 43rd Ave. Photography. Let's talk about our top 3 ways these guys totally rock your wedding journalism-style to capture all of its (and your!) personality.

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