A non-traditional, non-religious, non-boring wedding ceremony script (that involves alcohol!) #Ceremony Advice#ceremony#ceremony script#LGBTQ February 11 | Guest post by Mallory Perryman Thanks to our sponsor American Marriage Ministries for presenting this post on Offbeat Bride. They make it easy to get ordained so you or a friend can officiate weddings… Mallory and her partner Katie saying their vows. Photo by Keith Lee I scoured the interwebs to find pieces to make up our personalized wedding ceremony that was non-traditional, non-religious, and non-boring. We twisted some traditions and added our own flair (champagne toast! unity box full of letters! serenade!) to create a beautiful ceremony that I am happy to share with others. Here we go… Our wedding ceremony script Introduction OFFICIANT: Today is a celebration. A celebration of love, of commitment, of friendship, of family, and of two people who are in it for forever. You don't have to have a ceremony to have a marriage. And when you think about it, the whole thing is kind of weird, right? You're standing on a stage, looking fancy, holding flowers, and being stared at by pretty much everyone who has meant anything to you in the past twenty-something years. So why do we do it? The marriage ceremony has been an important feature across nearly every culture, religion, generation, and society. We have thousands of important moments that happen throughout our lives, but this one is regarded as one so critical, we acknowledge its special status by sharing it with others. Why this moment? A ceremony script that harnesses the power and the beauty of nature In particular, I wanted to highlight the importance of nature and beauty in my ceremony, and I couldn't find anything that addressed that. So, I decided to write those sections… Read More Because despite all of our differences, love is what we all share. It's the great unifier — our one universal truth. That no matter who we are, where we've come from, what we believe, we know this one thing: love is what we're doing right. That's why you both are standing here. That's why you all are here to watch them stand up here. We have all loved in our lifetimes, and in this moment, we're reminded that the ability to love is the very best part of our humanity All of us here today have our own love stories. Some are short, others long. Some are yet unwritten, while others are just getting to the good part. There are chapters in all of our stories that are sad or disappointing — and others that are exciting and full of adventure. [Insert your own love story here] And that brings them here. A time to pause, look back, and smile at all the moments that brought them here. And a time to look ahead at all the moments that are still to come. I'm here — we're all here — because we want those moments for you. We're here to hope with you, to support you, to be proud of you, and to remind you that love isn't happily ever after, love is the experience of writing your story. It's not one moment — not even this moment. It's every moment. Big ones like saying "I love you," moving in together, getting engaged — but mostly a million little ones that come in between the big moments. Falling asleep next to one another, making dinner together, spending holidays with your families, binge-watching Netflix shows, getting a big hug when you get home from work… These everyday moments fuse together into one big experience. And even though this experience is so incredible, words fail us when we try and explain it. That's just the way it is with love — it's meant to be felt, not described. Steal this super-simple wedding ceremony script We got married a few months ago, and we wrote the ceremony and vows ourselves. I wanted to share them with you guys in case any of you were looking… Read More But trying to describe love is one of our favorite pastimes. We use the words we have to write stories, and poems, and songs about love. And even though we describe love in different ways — and even though love can look different from one person to the next — we all know it when we see it. And we see it here. So today, we have some words about what love is, coming from some of the people who love you the most. Readings [Insert your own wedding readings if you have them] How to find and include readings in your wedding ceremony? When it comes to "elements to include in a wedding," one of the first things that many people think of are readings. And there's a good reason why -- so… Read More Our wedding vows OFFICIANT: You fell in love by chance, but you're here today because you're making a choice. You both are choosing each other. You've chosen to be with someone who enhances you, who makes you think, makes you smile, and makes every day brighter. You're about to make promises to each other that you intend to keep. You're going to vow to take care of each other, to stand up for one another, and find happiness in the other. There's a simple premise to each of these promises: you're vowing to be there. You're teaming up and saying to the other, "Every experience I am going to have, I want you to be a part of." Will you, [Partner 1], keep [Partner 2] as your favorite person — to laugh with her, go on adventures with her, support her through life's tough moments, be proud of her, grow old with her, and find new reasons to love her every day? PARTNER 1: I will. [Same question is then asked of Partner 2] OFFICIANT: Will you, [Partner 1 and 2], be each other's partners from this day forward? Will you bring out the best in one another, share your happiest moments together, and love each other absolutely — for the rest of this lifetime and for whatever may come next? PARTNERS 1 and 2: We will. Ring exchange OFFICIANT: You’ve both chosen to wear rings as a reminder of these promises. People often say wedding bands are a perfect circle, with no beginning and no end. But these rings did have a beginning. The stones were formed a long time ago deep with the earth. Eventually, a series of lucky events caused them to rise to the surface, where someone dug them up. Metal was then liquefied in a furnace at a thousand degrees — molded, cooled, and painstakingly polished. Something beautiful was made from raw elements. My secular ceremony wording: lots of equality and silly puns Like our personalized wedding logo, our ceremony is something we came up with together and personalized as well. We wanted to keep it short, simple, and light-hearted but also emphasizing… Read More Love is like that. It comes from humble beginnings, and through a combination of serendipity and effort, imperfect beings shape it into something extraordinary. It’s the process of making something beautiful where there was once nothing at all. As you look at these rings over the years, I hope you remember that. You’ve created something invaluable, and just as I know you’ll protect these rings, I’m confident you’ll protect the commitments you’ve made to one other today. Final toast OFFICIANT: I hope I haven't talked so long that people finished their drinks, because this is a celebration, and every celebration needs a toast. So to wrap this up before we all head into the reception hall for a delicious dinner and lots of dancing, I'll ask you all to raise your glasses to Katie and Mallory as we celebrate their love. [toast adapted from Blessing for a Marriage by James Dillet Freeman] May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring. May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you look for things to praise, often say, "I love you!" and take no notice of small faults. May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it loving one another. Cheers! And KISS! Want even more non-religious wedding ceremony text? Steal this super-simple wedding ceremony script We got married a few months ago, and we wrote the ceremony and vows ourselves. I wanted to share them with you guys in case any of you were looking… Read More Wedding Ceremony 101: Crafting your own wedding ceremonies from scratch This is basically the best post ever written about how to build a wedding ceremony from the ground up. While there's a bit of ritual theory, but mostly it's expert… Read More Our short, agnostic, stars and moon wedding ceremony script I wrote this ceremony script with the help of Offbeat Bride, and I am really happy with the results. My very non-religious, scientific-minded fiancé is very happy with it as… Read More Thanks again to American Marriage Ministries for sponsoring this post! Get your daily dose of Offbeat AWESOME Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Guest post written by Mallory Perryman I'm Mallory, a PhD student who lives in Madison, Wisconsin. My partner is Katie, a physical therapist who looked absolutely stunning on our wedding day in Columbia, Missouri. I'm originally from Arkansas, Katie is from southern Missouri, and we were married in front of 200 friends and family members, then we'll get legally married in Hawaii. https://malloryperryman.wordpress.com/ PREVIOUS Check out the steamiest photos at this geothermal Iceland wedding NEXT Jess & George's Hawaiian luau with a theatrical flair (co-starring hurricanes!) Show/Hide comments [ 36 ] This is absolute perfection and I think I'm going to steal pretty much the whole thing. The only thing I'm going to change is the ring part, because we're getting tattoos and not rings. But, other than that, it's amazingly and wonderfully perfect!! Thank you so much for sharing and allowing us to steal this. 30 agree Reply This is awesome and I am totally going to steal some of it for our wedding in June. 10 agree Reply I'll definitely be stealing large portions of this. It's too perfect. 10 agree Reply LOVE IT! I was just remarking how I was needing something like this. We have an officiant who has married hundreds of people but she wants us to look through some ideas and we are clueless! Also, we are living in CoMo and getting married out of state by HI! CoMo reppin! 4 agree Reply Thanks you've just made my officiants job REALLY easy!!! 6 agree Reply I adore this! We may steal bits and pieces for our own ceremony! Thank you so much for sharing! 😀 4 agree Reply Thanks for sharing! My partner and I are trying to throw a wedding that is mostly a cocktail party that happens to include some vows thrown in. This helps us get closer to making that happen. 1 agrees Reply Feel free to borrow whatever you like! On my website, you can see the full readings we used: – “Love is Friendship Caught Fire” by Laura Hendricks – “Loving the Wrong Person” by Andrew Boyd – "Captain Corelli’s Mandolin” (excerpt) by Louis de Bernières Followed by a personalized version of "I wanna grow old with you," sung by my brothers. 13 agree Reply We're having Love is Friendship Caught Fire, as well. 🙂 1 agrees Reply Oh, this might be my favorite ceremony posted here! 6 agree Reply Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! As another female (girly couple) your vows and blog have been invaluable! Look out 8th March 2015! 1 agrees Reply I love this so much! These are the truest wedding vows I've read in a while. I may steal parts of this for my wedding in June 🙂 4 agree Reply So I read this post and totally fell in love with this ceremony so my fiance and I are totally stealing it for our Hawaii wedding in June. We made some small changes, added in somethings but it really spoke to us as a couple. Thank you for sharing. I have gotten so many wonderful ideas from Tribe members. I hope I get to share all of mine with you when it is all said and done. 2 agree Reply My new husband (yay!) and I used most of this script for our ceremony this past Saturday. It was just perfect for our short-and-sweet ceremony and who we are as a couple. Thank you so much for sharing! 1 agrees Reply This is the most beautiful AND grounded ceremony script I've read in these months leading up to our wedding. Your words are wonderful and say everything we want to express during our ceremony. My fiance and I have just taken most of it for our upcoming nuptials. Thank you so much for graciously sharing with us. 2 agree Reply So gonna have to use some, ok lots of this….I know I can make it work for the 3 of us. Always looking for help….so hard to find poly marriage stuff. So glad I stumbled upon the Offbeat Bride! woot woot! 🙂 2 agree Reply I love the continual mention of it being a partnership! We are a team, and not that we need to fight the world, but if we did, it's going to be us against everything. I adore this. 3 agree Reply This is EVERYTHING. Thank you so much for a post that basically read my mind! We are so not into the church wedding/please give me $500 officiant thing, so even though I'm a writer, I struggled with how to write a wedding ceremony that lasted longer than 5 minutes. Now I don't have to worry! Done and DONE. Thank you thank you THANK YOU. 3 agree Reply Thank you SO much for posting/sharing this!! I couldn't believe how difficult it was to find a laid back ceremony. This ceremony was exactly what I was looking for 🙂 You rock!! 3 agree Reply This was awesome!!! I officiated my first wedding this past Friday and I used a lot of this script, along with some of my own wording. I wasn't sure where to start and this helped tremendously!!! The couple were so pleased! And I was offered to officiate another wedding, so it must have worked:). Thank you so much for sharing!!! 2 agree Reply Oh man. This is aces. Just beautiful! 1 agrees Reply You know, I read this site religiously – every post through my RSS feed. I'm frequently surprised how often I'm linked back to something completely perfect that I somehow missed the first time around. I love the feel of this ceremony, it's exactly the level of sweet and silly and honest that we're going for. Thanks for providing the perfect foundation! 2 agree Reply Amazeballs! I'm officiating a wedding soon and will be using lots from your ceremony! You really get what a marriage is all about. I love the laid back feel and combination of sweet loving and goof ball adventure living you represent. Thanks for keepin it real! 1 agrees Reply OMG this is perfect!!! I might steal this to use at my wedding. Although I think the officiant we might be getting might not mind going off this. That and I'm sure he would do something VERY similar. Thank You!!! 3 agree Reply These texts sounds great! I think that all future newlyweds should be inspired, it's the truest wedding vows I've read… Thanks for sharing! 2 agree Reply This is beautifully written. I wanted to thank you–I've been scouring the internet for wedding ceremonies as I write my own, and this one was a huge inspiration to me. I particularly liked (and will be stealing/adapting) the part about love as a uniting force across differences, which is something I was trying and failing to put into words in my ceremony. I wish you and Katie many happy years together. 3 agree Reply thanks for sharing, this is great! 1 agrees Reply I found this script last summer while my husband and I were planning our wedding. We used this as a basis for our own ceremony, making a few changes here and there. (Our rings are both gold, so I inserted a few lines about gold being created in a super nova, and THEN being dug up and made into a ring.. lol.. Geeky I know, but so are we….) This script worked perfectly. Thank you for posting it! 3 agree Reply This is beautiful! We will be stealing some bits and pieces for sure. Thank you for sharing 🙂 Reply Yep! We used some bits and pieces of the ceremony and vows! Thank you for sharing your beautiful work here! Reply Thank you for sharing! We will think fondly of you on June 11, 2016 when the beautiful words and thoughtful structure of your ceremony become part of our own. You'll never know how stressed we were about figuring out this part of our wedding and how grateful we are to have found your post. 2 agree Reply Greeting me and my boyfriend/ fiance is looking for ideals for our wedding and we are wanting to do either a Halloween Wedding or an Autumn Wedding. I am shouting for a wedding close to Mabon, but it is what he and I are wanting to do to make our love know to all those around us. That our love is Strong and Wonderful. Reply This is incredible. THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!!!! Reply I have been having trouble coming up with a ceremony that will suit us and I think I have just found it! I'll have to see what he thinks of this as a base but I think he will like it too. Thank you so much for sharing this. It is a huge help! Now to find the perfect wording for our invitations that works with our Alice in Wonderland theme…… Reply Hi! I just want to congratulate you Mallory for your inspired writing, you are truly gifted. And I also want to thank you so much for sharing it with us. I definitely will credit you in our wedding. I'm getting married next November in a little town in south Brazil. Just so you and Katie know how far your love and inspiration have reached. 🙂 Reply I may or may not use exactly this. What a beautiful script. Thank you for sharing such a big part of your special day! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. 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