Pinkee & Pony's Dia De Los Muertos, cemetery bash #Real Weddings: Western US#black dress#cemetery#church#corset#dia de los muertos#diy wedding#economical wedding#feathers#fluevogs#goth#lesbian weddings#los angeles#mohawk#short hair#tacos#tattooed bride February 18 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride Photos by Jonathan Weiner The Offbeat Bride: Pinkee, video marketing Her Offbeat Partner: Pony, manager of adult store Location & date of wedding: Forest Lawn Cemetery/Rec Center Studio, Los Angeles, CA — 11/01/09 What made our wedding offbeat: Firstly, we planned the whole thing ourselves. We utilized our amazing group of talented friends for photography, DJing skills, coordinating abilities, and helping hands to help us hang lights and set up tables the morning of. Our tribe pulled through for us and made it spectacular, and we couldn't be more grateful. Secondly, neither of us had ever even BEEN to a wedding in our adult lives. I think this is really what gave us the freedom to play with the "tradition" element, as neither of us really knew what that meant. To us, the most important thing about our wedding was making it distinctly, unmistakably and uniquely OUR OWN. Looking back at it, I think it was a complete success. Our ceremony was in a chapel on the grounds of a cemetery, a la Dia De Los Muertos. We nixed the sit down dinner for a taco stand vending vegan and non-vegan street tacos. The alcohol flowed freely, and people DANCED. Everyone was dressed to the nines, looked beautiful, ate cupcakes. To round out the evening, we had Aztec dancers come in as a tribute to Pony's heritage and in honor of the Day of The Dead. Afterwards, all we heard from our friends was how much FUN they'd had, how it had been perfect for who were are as a couple and SO unlike what they'd come to expect from weddings, with all the fun and none of the stuffiness. Tell us about your ceremony: In the spirit of Dia De Los Muertos, inspired by the chapel on Olvera St., as guests filtered into the ceremony venue and took a program, we asked them to approach the altar where we had about fifty pillar votives set up. They then one by one lit one of the candles we had set up there in the memory of someone who had passed on. What was your biggest challenge?: The biggest challenge was definitely wearing both the "planner hat" and the "bride hat," especially the day of! I was up on a ladder the morning of, hanging things, on the phone with vendors and setting tables up. At one point, the hour to change hats was there and I just had for FORCE myself to let go and delegate while I got my makeup done. It was definitely more stressful than say, going to the spa, but I was so proud of all we did together. What were the most meaningful moments of your wedding?: What was really amazing about the way it turned out was that we didn't plan any of the "wedding moments," they just kind of happened organically. For instance, the father/daughter dance, which seemed kind of hokey in theory, just happened at one point in the night and nobody planned it or forced it to happen, and it was really special. Instead of throwing a bouquet, we decided to toast to our friends, Walter and Paul, a couple who have been together for over thirty years. From before being married was even an option. They've loved each other for more than each of our lifetimes, and when we recognized the incredible power of that relationship, nobody of the four of us could keep from crying. My advice for other offbeat brides: Something might not go as expected. We totally had like three minutes of "dead air" at our ceremony when we waited for the "ring blessing" to end so we could continue to the next point in the ceremony. I could have gotten really upset about it, but instead just looked around and realized we were surrounded by friends, and we just laughed. Things will go wrong, things may get tripped up, especially if you are DIYing it. When I look back it was ALL perfect, even in it's imperfections. Embrace it! Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?: Photographer: Jonathan Weiner Hair: Kristen from Sirens Salon The corset skirt was custom made by the lovely Simone at Exquisite Restraint Corsetry Pony's outfit was from skingraft Both of our footwear was Fluevog The amazing wedding cake topper was custom made by an etsy artist J.T.Nee Pinkee's headdress was from Satanica The cupcake tower was also from Etsy Nobody saw them, but Pinkee's garter gear: Dark Ladies Gear And pony's vertebrae necklace: Catacombs of London Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!: Get your daily dose of Offbeat AWESOME Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS How to DIY your own tri-fold table card centerpieces NEXT Buckled bridal shoes Show/Hide comments [ 35 ] I forgot to mention my amazing photographer Jonathan Weiner, http://www.jweinerphotography.com Reply no problem, I just added the info! Reply thanks!! Reply This is actually the first wedding where I went through the whole slideshow 🙂 AMAZING! 1 agrees Reply Me too! This looks so gorgeous, I wish I had been there! 1 agrees Reply Simply fantastic! 1 agrees Reply I love this! Man you both are cooool 🙂 Congratulations on your wedding – the bit about the toast to your friends had me welling up a bit! That is very special indeed and how wonderful to honour their love as part of your wedding. Everything about this is WICKED! PS Pinkee: is that a Maori design on your dress? Looks like the "koru" or fern symbol often seen in New Zealand 🙂 1 agrees Reply Beautiful wedding! One of a handful that I really truly love. 1 agrees Reply Beautiful! 1 agrees Reply you both are gorgeous. i love the dress. and pretty much everything else. 1 agrees Reply I am an LA bride, and while my fiance and I are not religious, his family is. I would love to honor that by getting married somewhere similar to where you got married. What part of Forest Lawn did you get married at ? I also love your candle idea as both of my parents have passed away. I think this would be a great way to honor them. 1 agrees Reply THE MOST INSPIRING AND BEAUTIFUL WEDDING OF ALL TIME!! YAY PINKEE AND PONER! 1 agrees Reply Wow! This is so not my style, but unlike some of the other 'not my style' weddings, I think I might be officially obsessed. I wish I was at this party! This is some damn fine wedding porn. Aaaah, I love OBB where i can just gawk at beautiful awesomeness such as this. 1 agrees Reply They are both so beautiful. The ceremony looked amazing. Everything is just so damn lovely. Gah. 1 agrees Reply Finally, and ExRes bride! I <3 Simone, and I <3 your gown! Reply Wow! Looks like an amazing wedding! Reply Gorgeous! I love it all 😀 And Aztec dancers? Just awesome! Reply I only saw the picture at the beginning of the post and chills ran down my spine! And then I read it….absolutely gorgeous! I am in true awe of what you both accomplished, it looks so beautiful! I love it! I love it all! Congratulations to both of you! FABULOUS!!! 1 agrees Reply Thank you all so much for your kind words! Sabrina- the design was a concept I brought to Simone, who designed the dress, and she really ran with it! I can't say if the maori design you saw was or wasn't an inspiration, but I like that it reminds you of it! Pocahotness- We got married in The Wee Kirk O' The Heather, a small chapel on Forest Lawn (Glendale) grounds. There are four or five chapels there, you should take a field trip and check them all out. They aren't TOO expensive to rent (The wee kirk, the smallest, was $600 for 2 hours) and the grounds are really gorgeous. Crystal- isn't Simone just amazing! <3 1 agrees Reply Thank you so much for sharing this – I am especially proud that you had Aztec dancers in the true fashion of the culture. I have so much respect for both of you for honoring the richness of the Aztec culture and heritage. What a beautiful wedding – congrats to you both! Reply Wow! I'd like to officially nominate these two for C.L.I.F. – couple I'd like to fuck! Badass wedding and hotness! Reply I cant help but notice how such a badass, tattooed and pierced couple looks SO happy and completely harmless, haha! But seriously, you guys look awesome, the dancers are awesome…basically in love with it all =) Reply I absolutely love this wedding! What a gorgeous couple, and I daresay I've never seen a more AWESOME groom! Love the traditional cultural elements of his outfit, and the facepaint is beautiful. Great hair and feathers! And the bride's corset..it looks so smashing on her…and their tattoos! Amazing! What a HOT couple!!! I love this wedding. The photos are so a honest…I love that you can SEE their love for each other. Such romantic and fun shots. Everyone is so rocker-chic with their fashion..really a stylish bunch! I love it so much. They are perfectly gorgeous together. <3 Reply My first visit to this blog and this wedding caught my eye. I eloped and based that decision on the fact I'd been a bridesmaid at my older sister's wedding, and she hated her wedding! She told me not to do a by-the-book wedding if I didn't want it, don't do a wedding a certain way because people tell you that's "what should be done". Now THIS wedding of Pinkee & Pony's, that's what a wedding should be! Something that's fun to you and means something to you. They nailed it on the head. Great job! Reply Beautiful Wedding! I thought it was so awesome to see that much joy in your faces.. especially in the casual pictures. But what I really want to know is… which 'Vogs were you wearing? I myself am leaning towards red Bondgirls ( with a formal red dress, lol). As for gauged ears, I was thinking of either putting a whole pearl in the hole (i've done it before) or white bone carved tribal ones… a la http://images.marketplaceadvisor.channeladvisor.c… Reply It's too bad there were no pictures of them, but I went with the Bellevues Libby Smiths in Black/pink… http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour/0000002… super comfortable, but not too clunky! Reply Gorgeous pictures and even more so, a gorgeous, gorgeous couple. I really loved this, because it appeared to be so uniquely Pinkee and Pony. I'm not one for pomp and ceremony and upholding traditions that pretty much mean nothing to the couple, and I think that because you guys recognised this about yourselves, and used it as an opportunity to take a great big fat artistic licence with the ceremony, the end result is something so personal and beautiful. I adore the pictures, I'm sure everyone in the pictures had the most amazing time – you can see it! (and you can't fake that kind of joy for the cameras! 🙂 ) Reply Thats so cool! have a lovely lie together, You had begun in a great way! Congrats from a Hungarian goth:) Reply Heee, so awesome! Found this through the 'corset' tag. Love! Reply Loved your wedding!!! Can you please share where you hired the Aztec Dancers? Reply Would love to know where I can hired the Aztec Dancers.:D Reply Ran across this while looking for Dia De Los Muertos tattoo ideas. It sure looks like it was one helluva beautiful wedding. Best wishes to both of you for continued happiness! Reply lOVE LOVE LOVE the style of both the bride and groom, they look INCREDIABLE! Reply OMG I KNOW MONA FROM WHEN WE WERE CLUB KIDS 18 YR OLDS 🙂 I MISS YOU MONA.. FIND ME… megaabel on FB 🙂 xoxo miss you.. email@example.com Reply Beautiful wedding , thanks for promote Dia de los muertos 1 agrees Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Participate in this conversation via emailGet only replies to your comment, the best of the rest, as well as a daily recap of all comments on this post. No more than a few emails daily, which you can reply to/unsubscribe from directly from your inbox. 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