It's not just about the bride: The Wedding Industry puts pressure on bridesmaids too!

Somehow the lines of friendship and being a bridesmaid have been blurred by the wedding industry. "Requiring" bridesmaids to throw over-the-top bachelorette parties, or instructing brides that all of their bridesmaids must have matching monogramed robes as gifts, are ways to get people to open their checkbooks just a little more. Wedding websites, magazines and Pinterest are filled with lists and suggestions that can make one feel like, if they aren't throwing a lavish bridal shower, they aren't doing it right.


My name isn't "Mrs": On changing my mind about changing my last name

Changing my mind about changing my last name was undoubtedly really confusing for my husband, because I had clearly stated my intention to take his name once we were married. But when people started calling me "Mrs. HisLastName" I didn't like it. It was as though my first name was "Mrs," my last name was "HisLastName," and no identifier of who I was previous to getting married was left. It made me especially angry when we would receive something addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. HisFirstName HisLastName" as though I was not even worthy of a first name anymore. As though I am just a wife. I love being his wife, I love that we're married, but I want to define my marriage. I don't want my marital status to define me.


I'm ready to get married… but my life situation isn't

My partner's been proposing to me, almost as a game, on the semi-regular since we both realised that we were "it" for each other. I want to say yes with every fiber of my being. The problem is, I'm sick — the sort where you don't get completely better. And it's unclear when I'll be able to re-enter the workforce.


Why I will not be wearing an ounce of make-up at my wedding

Based on how many people have asked "where are you getting your make-up done?" — without ever pausing to consider the possibility that I won't have it done professionally — it's clear that choosing to have no wedding make-up goes against what many people think a "normal" bride should do. On my wedding day I will not be wearing an ounce of make-up. Why?…