In my almost-eight years of running Offbeat Bride and working with wedding photographers, I've heard of photographers offering potential clients discounts for all sorts of things: discounts for destination weddings, discounts for LGBT-identified couples, discounts for sci-fi weddings or elopements and all sorts of other niche weddings. But yesterday was the first time I saw a photographer who's offering a discount for couples doing an unplugged wedding. Is this a new thing?
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of Wedding trends posts.
I see a looooot of weddings in my work with offbeat bride. Here are a few of the trends that are catching my eye.
About a year ago, I attended a friend's wedding and spent the whole ride home wondering why the wedding had felt so… not them. It was as if we had walked into anyone's wedding, and aside from some very sweet vows, it felt like we were celebrating a watered-down version of the geeky, gamer couple that I knew and loved so much. I want to make this wedding about us, and the geeky things things that brought us together. But… can we [enter geeky reference here] without ostracizing our guests?
I first wrote about unplugged weddings way back in 2011, with a two-post series. The posts went crazy viral and in the three years since then, the idea has picked up major steam. The Huffington Post noticing the trend in 2012, and New York Times picking up on the concept in 2013. I'm happy to say that the concept is now popular enough that it's no longer seen as "offbeat" in any way.
Largely because I grew up in the south, I feel almost as much like it's as expected of me to have monogrammed, or personalized napkins as it is for me to change my names. I'm doing neither. Besides, what's the deal with monogrammed stuff and newlywed folks, anyway? Then I realized… it's all re-branding!
With the rising popularity of gender-blind wedding parties, and weddings without bridal parties, we need terms beyond "bridesmaids" and "groomsmen" to refer to the people who are helping you with all your wedding duties. Here are a few of the creative alternative names for bridal parties that our readers and Tribesmaids have come up with
I fancy myself an individual. I mean, I reckon we all do. And while no one has been shaped by the same life events I have, the concept of truly being "unique" is one that we rest a lot of importance on. I always figured I wouldn't have a "typical" wedding. I'm a modest, geeky, tomboy of a girl, and I felt a good guideline for planning a wedding would be incorporating things that make me happy. I didn't know jack about weddings when I started out planning for all this. But if I've learned anything, it's that the things that make me happy also make other people happy.
I see this attitude a lot, about weddings, where everything is "supposed to mean something." Before we got engaged, I had this grand notion that every little choice that we made about our wedding was going to be somehow representative of us. Now I can't imagine doing that without going crazy from the stress.
So last year I did a presentation at this massive mainstream wedding show in Las Vegas, and after my presentation I did a little interview about wedding trends with a guy who works for an Australian wedding invitation company. In it, I talk about a few of my favorite Offbeat Bride wedding trends, which blogs I read, and which wedding tools I like using.
We all have at least one friend we follow on Pinterest who is guilty of obsessively over-pinning wedding stuff. Her non-stop hoarding of the typical wedding/spam pins have made me realize a couple of things.
1. Unfollow that shiznit, pronto, before you burst into an epic feminist-esque rage.
2. Excessive pinning to a non-secret board is annoying.
Enlightenment #2 made a light bulb go off in my head…
You know there are people in your life who are SO not invited to your wedding. You know you can just picture them salivating over your spread of delicious eats, pawing over your pretties, and ogling your awesome like a kid in a candy store window, knowing they aren't allowed in. Cherish that feeling. You are a special snowflake, and you get to be a bit chilly. Here's how…