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My crop top wedding dress will not be timeless… and that's totally okay

During my current brief stint in the apocalyptic landscape that is the contemporary wedding industry, an insidious pressure has latched itself onto my consciousness. The pressure to be Timeless, Classic, and Elegant. But on many months of tortured reflection about being my Most Beautiful Self, here is the terrifying secret I've come to discover. And it all comes back to my crop top wedding dress…

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How we decided which wedding traditions to uphold or scrap

Sorting through wedding traditions is a Sisyphean task. American wedding traditions are a conglomeration of hundreds of different cultures, not to mention the endless traditions from our individual backgrounds. Traditions, especially ones associated with major life events, connect us with our past, reinforce our cultural values, and hold our communities together. We want to make sure we include elements of both of our families' cultures, but how do we figure out what to include and what not to include? Here's how…

Lost ships: When election results strike fear in your wedding planning heart

It's safe to say this recent election has brought increased tension to the (often already-dysfunctional) dynamics in many families throughout the nation. As the weeks go on, many of you (especially on the not-winning side of the election results) may now find yourselves feeling lost at sea in turbulent political and emotional waters. And if your shipmates in this metaphor are the family members with whom you most butt heads, it can feel like there's mutiny afoot.

Oh, and all your seemingly-mutinous shipmates? They are invited to your upcoming wedding.

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Fear and loathing and wedding planning: working through your shit during the engagement

The engagement period, the period between "Yes" and "I do," is transitory — a life-changing transition. We spend a lot of time focusing on the actual day. It is, after all, supposed to be the "best day of your life." There are magazines, websites, and blogs dedicated to this monumental moment, but few people talk about the importance of simply being engaged. Marrying another person is a big deal. A lot comes with that commitment.

Here are my lessons learned…