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Philosophizing

How do you feel about your wedding? What does it all mean? How does wedding planning a metaphor for the rest of your life?

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Why do cis-het men’s vows suck lately?

Was this the year of wedding vows from hell? Like mean, horribly inappropriate, want to die of secondhand embarrassment kind of wedding vows? A comedy teacher reacts to the latest wave of “wedding roasts” and what to do instead.

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Why wedding diets are NOT on my guestlist

I’m engaged, but I am NOT on a diet. When my partner proposed to me in October, I was disturbed to observe that alongside my joy, the first thoughts to creep in were tainted with worries about my body…

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Resisting marriage for 20 years: why we waited to get married

We didn’t plan on getting married. When we had been together for 20 years, though, we wanted to celebrate. Gradually, we realized that the celebration we wanted was a wedding.

Don't call me Mrs. Miller: last names, Lucy Stone, & why I'll be keeping my name

Don’t call me Mrs. Miller: last names, Lucy Stone, & why I’ll be keeping my name

Since getting engaged, I have been bombarded with well-meaning friends and family members congratulating the “soon-to-be Mrs. Miller” on her engagement. While my external response is generally, “Haha, thanks,” my internal response is, “Mrs. Miller? Who is she? Do I know her? Please pass on my congratulations.” Because that isn’t me, and never will be. […]

Why I'm putting down the wedding clickbait

Why I’m putting down the wedding clickbait

It’s not too long now until the love of my life and I get married and promise to tolerate one another until one of us dies, and I have reached the conclusion that I need to stop reading wedding clickbait. They’re making anything other than a courthouse wedding seem ill-advised. You know that I wasn’t ready for?

“What’s your wedding hashtag going to be?”

At Last: a sweet wedding reading that honors a life lived before finding love

4 myths about being an older bride (aka where’s my Life Alert registry gift?!)

By the time I get married, 40 will be staring me in the face. This isn’t very old when it comes to first marriages, but it is older than the average in the U.S. I anticipated that it would be a little different getting married later in life (what with the Ensure cocktails and shuffle board reception), but it is taking some surprising turns. Here are some myths about being an older bride that I have discovered…