The end of marriage as we know it, or: Why I won’t be making it legal
We do not currently live together, we have three cats between us, only one of us (me) has US citizenship, oh and she doesn’t fly… During those many anxious months, we were often asked if we’d get married so that she could immigrate. Every time it came up I had such vehemently negative response. I recognize that at some point I may have to sign papers, because the state has a nasty way of making itself necessary. But I’d prefer not to and I plan to avoid it if at all possible, and here’s why…
My relationship is not a statement: Stop viewing our wedding decisions as some sort of socio-political performance
It started with the oh-so-popular taking of my husband’s last name question. The reason I really wanted to keep my own name had nothing to do with feminist ideals — I simply like the sound of my own name. Needless to say, this was just the first of MANY questions I’ve answered with similar responses.I’ve learned that no matter how I respond, someone will view it as a statement. All we’re really trying to do is throw a beautiful and fun wedding with all of our friends and family. Our relationship is a relationship… not a statement open for critique.
I blow my nose on dirty socks: why my wedding won’t reflect who I am
My wedding — as an event — will not represent me as a person, because that person rarely brushes her hair, would rather sleep for five more minutes than shower, and can’t cut paper in a straight line. I’ve always secretly dreamed of unleashing my long-suppressed inner fancy bitch for the “big day,” princess style.
How can you include [enter geeky reference here] without ostracizing your guests?
About a year ago, I attended a friend’s wedding and spent the whole ride home wondering why the wedding had felt so… not them. It was as if we had walked into anyone’s wedding, and aside from some very sweet vows, it felt like we were celebrating a watered-down version of the geeky, gamer couple that I knew and loved so much. I want to make this wedding about us, and the geeky things things that brought us together. But… can we [enter geeky reference here] without ostracizing our guests?
How Disney princesses throw a bachelorette party
I’m a Disney FREAK! I love the movies, I love the land, and I love Belle from Beauty and the Beast! So my amazing bridesmaids planned a Disney-themed stagette. All the ladies dressed up as their favorite princesses/Disney character!
I promise not to let being the center of attention go to my head: My vows for wedding planning
Wedding planning getting you down or feeling overwhelming? You might to exchange wedding planning vows with Offbeat Bride Brigitte Fires. Yes, we said “wedding planning vows” — maybe the second most important vows you’ll ever make.