29k

5 ways to throw a kick-ass engagement party

Did you just get engaged? Congrats! Now it's time to celebrate. If you want to throw an engagement party, but you're not sure what that entails… Or if your family is begging to throw one for you… Or you think engagement party = stuffy and awkward… Don't stress! Here are some ways that you can throw a kick-ass engagement party that will make everyone excited to RSVP "yes!"

10k

4 things that nobody tells you about getting engaged

I've been told my entire life — by movies, books, and trashy reality shows — that your wedding is just a magical event. Well, I've been engaged a few months now, and I'm ready for my magical moments to start happening. Getting engaged is pretty much like every other adult situation in your life: no one knows what they are doing and literally everyone is faking that they do. So that future generations don't succumb to the same delusion that I was blissfully in, I've compiled a list of things that nobody tells you about getting engaged.

10k

Reconciling marriage as a feminist: Does everything about the wedding have to be a feminist battle?

I feel that each of the choices we make for our wedding need to be conscious choices. We need to weigh the comfort of tradition against the statement (overt or otherwise) that it may make. Not every feminist wedding is going to look the same — and certainly one can be a feminist and have a more "traditional" wedding. I don't decide who is a feminist and who is not — I only get to determine how my feminism manifests itself.

8.0k

Why is my wedding making everyone ELSE insecure about their bodies?

As soon as my fianc√© and I announced our engagement, there were a number of questions and comments we heard over and over and over again. But I was very surprised to hear this comment repeatedly: "Uh-oh, if you're having a wedding that means I really have to start changing my body so I can be there!" I've done a lot of thinking about why people just attending a wedding feel the need to change their bodies. Understanding their reasons has helped me figure out how to best communicate to my friends and family that I love them just the way they are, and that they shouldn't feel the need to change for me…