I first wrote about unplugged weddings way back in 2011, with a two-post series. The posts went crazy viral and in the three years since then, the idea has picked up major steam. The Huffington Post noticing the trend in 2012, and New York Times picking up on the concept in 2013. I'm happy to say that the concept is now popular enough that it's no longer seen as "offbeat" in any way.
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of Features posts.
When we want to get more thoughtful about things on Offbeat Bride, this is the spot for our feature articles. Sometimes we talk big-picture philosophies, other times we discuss wedding trends, and every once and a while we just go ape-shit over a wedding WTF?!
I am a Caucasian, cisgender, homosexual woman. My fiancé is transgender. Xe was assigned-female-at-birth but identifies as genderqueer and uses the gender neutral pronouns xe/xyr/xem. No one ever uses xyr correct pronouns unless they are explicitly told to use them and even then some people flat-out refuse. So what do we do about it? I am done sitting in my bubble of privilege. I am popping my bubble, donning the outfit of a warrior bride (think chainmail veil), and taking my vocal sword into the crowd and to my wedding!
Random rice throwing, out-of-place formalwear, and children carrying expensive things… all things that totally fly at weddings, but are weirdorama in real life. Let's get creeped out together and get a midday rib tickle with this Buzzfeed Video…
The New York Times recently ran an article called Your Hand in Marriage, and Offbeat Bride got a nod for our DIY posts. That's cool, but what really caught my eye was this quote from a bride named Lauren Ireland:
"I felt like there's such a movement to homogeneous wedding styles with Pinterest and Etsy, which are wonderful tools but do seem to make things seem very similar," she said.
Her wedding, she added, represented "not an effort to be unique, but an effort to be us."
Your cousin is freaking out. Can you please explain to me what you're wanting her to wear?" I sighed heavily at my aunt's text before copying and pasting pictures, and explaining, for the umpteenth time. And refrained from adding, "Not. That. Hard." as I face-planted into a pillow and muffled a scream. I don't care which shade of teal they are! If I'm not stressing, why is everyone else stressing? Their stress is stressing me out! I expressed the latter to my wedding planner and she, most beautifully and perfectly, laughed along with my sentiments before gently reminding me, "they are all here on the common goal of supporting you and your happiness." And just like that, my perspective changed.
We'll hopefully be profiling the full wedding soon, but I have to stop first to give some snaps to Rob here and his impeccable gothic-tinged suit, complete with one of the most beautiful red jackets I've seen in a long time. Oh, and the buckled red vest? Amazing. The detailing, you guys… THE DETAILING. And the accessories! And his bride, Liz. Just wait…
It's been too long since I dedicated a shoe post to my beloved offbeat grooms. So grab your favorite dapper-dresser and let's get looking…
A little while ago, Laura of Rebel Belle Weddings and I attended a Star Wars-themed birthday party. I went as Luke on Dagobah. Laura broke out her Jedi robes and went as a Rebel wedding planner, complete with a binder labeled "Rebel Weddings: Leia and Han." The binder was filled with detailed wedding plans for Han and Leia's future wedding aboard the Millennium Falcon (of course)…
I'm excited to get married and I'm excited to throw a big party. That being said, I'm more than just a bride-to-be. I am not the first, nor shall I be the last, to feel frustrated about gendered bias. So what can I do? How can I battle these questions and expectations? This is my plan.
When my love and I decided to start wedding planning back in January, we had NO IDEA what we were getting into. I honestly thought that as a new bride, the "collective community" would gently take my hand, congratulate me on this sacred time in my life, and ask me questions that would invoke my heart space to create my wedding day.