If you've been reading for a while, you know that we've teamed up this year with the Lovesick Inc boys to spread guy-friendly, gay-friendly, offbeat-friendly wedding expos across the US. The Lovesick Expo is heading west, starting this weekend in my hometown of Seattle…
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of Features posts.
When we want to get more thoughtful about things on Offbeat Bride, this is the spot for our feature articles. Sometimes we talk big-picture philosophies, other times we discuss wedding trends, and every once and a while we just go ape-shit over a wedding WTF?!
Did you just get engaged? Congrats! Now it's time to celebrate. If you want to throw an engagement party, but you're not sure what that entails… Or if your family is begging to throw one for you… Or you think engagement party = stuffy and awkward… Don't stress! Here are some ways that you can throw a kick-ass engagement party that will make everyone excited to RSVP "yes!"
I've been told my entire life — by movies, books, and trashy reality shows — that your wedding is just a magical event. Well, I've been engaged a few months now, and I'm ready for my magical moments to start happening. Getting engaged is pretty much like every other adult situation in your life: no one knows what they are doing and literally everyone is faking that they do. So that future generations don't succumb to the same delusion that I was blissfully in, I've compiled a list of things that nobody tells you about getting engaged.
When my fiancé Elliot and I got engaged, we didn't have any plans to take engagement photos. But when we started our wedding research, we had a bit of a chuckle seeing the same series of photos again and again. As a joke, we started talking about doing spoofs of the photos… and then we did it for real.
My future mother-in-law has decided that she is throwing me a bridal shower. My wording there is intentional — she did not ask if I wanted one, she did not ask if my bridespeeps were throwing me one (they're not, because they know I don't want one), she Just Decided.
For many reasons, I've tried to be polite and just say "no thanks," but she's insisting.
I have no interest in this event, although I realize that it is very nice of her to offer to throw me one. How do I get out of this?
With my marketing and public relations background, I really should have known that once I started calling vendors, my name would wind up on someone's mailing list. For the last several weeks, I have been receiving regular junk mail from my area's WIC staple vendors. So I've come up with several solutions of what to do with all that gross junk mail…
One of the arguments we hear a lot is that weddings aren't "gay" or "straight," they're just weddings. Of course, that's true… but our wedding was also very, very gay, and that was one of our favorite things about it!
In the fight for marriage equality, there's a risk that the thing that makes queer lives different will get lost in the shuffle. We wanted to celebrate the gayness of gay weddings and the importance of our broad family-of-choice to our lives. We ended up writing the following passage and printing it in our wedding program:
Even though our wedding is planned for October, we had yet to get "officially" engaged. My boyfriend was getting more and more stressed due to what he perceived to be the pressure of creating "the perfect" proposal. I realized that I was letting him do it because I wanted the story, something cool to tell my friends. It occurred to me that I was putting other people's reactions and opinions ahead of my love's well being. So I decided I would take matters into my own hands.