I have sworn off all wedding-related things. Or, at least, things not related directly to my wedding. This includes TV shows, magazines, The Knot, and any other website that makes me have unrealistic expectations of my nuptials. This "wedding propaganda," as I have so lovingly been calling it, has only overwhelmed me, smothered my own voice inside my head, and made me feel inadequate in the planning and execution of my own wedding. This is unacceptable.
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When we want to get more thoughtful about things on Offbeat Bride, this is the spot for our feature articles. Sometimes we talk big-picture philosophies, other times we discuss wedding trends, and every once and a while we just go ape-shit over a wedding WTF?!
"He saw you?!" they say in a mixture of disgust and horror. Yes. He did see me. I asked him to take the photos. And yet, I don't feel as if our relationship is doomed for failure. Weird.
When you're a girl and your best friend is a guy, and that guy gets engaged, it just may fall on you to throw the bachelor party. That's where I found myself a couple months ago. My best friend Erik was getting married and I wanted to throw him a kick-ass bachelor party. One of the groomsman suggested that we throw him surprise musical roast. As Erik, and all his friends, are amazing musicians this was the greatest idea ever. Only… I've never been to a bachelor party before, and I've certainly never thrown one. I fired off a panicked email to Offbeat Bride sponsor and friend Laura from Rebel Belle Weddings who helped me pull of the coolest bachelor party/surprise musical roast ever! Here's how we did it.
My fiancé and I are both project management types — at work, and in our general personalities. So, we have weekly wedding planning meetings with agendas. This has managed to keep us sane, speaking to each other, productive, and focused on other things, like unpacking the house we just bought, getting through a terribly hectic time at work, enjoying each other, and focusing on my nearly-six year old son. Here's how we plan our wedding, Project Manager-style…
My fiance and I are getting married in Los Angeles, where we live. But almost all of our wedding guests will be traveling from out of town. What am I expected to plan for out-of-town guests? Would a brunch the day after the wedding be enough? Or should I try to plan activities?
I never realized how "Type A" I can be until I started planning a wedding. It's giving me an inordinate amount of stress to know that I can't actually be the one cuing the music during our wedding ceremony. I can't be the one decorating the tables at the reception hall. I can't sit with the DJ and make sure he picks the perfect sequence of songs. Fellow Type-A brides: How are you handling having to relinquish control of your wedding day to other people?
We all know about Offbeat Home & Life's love of putting a bird on it, and we've certainly featured a ton of bird-flavored weddings here on Offbeat Bride… but never ever have I done a shoe post dedicated to birds.
BIRD SHOES! We've got some literal, and some that go a bit more figurative, with feathers and wings. As always, I've aimed for a range of heel heights, including flats.
And owls! Totally some owls.
I want a couple's wedding shower, and most of the internet just says very vague things like "well then pick games that include men and register for tools," and that's not helpful. Besides a "decorate a mug/glass/picture frame/etc." for the couple station, I can't think or find other male-friendly games that also include conservative grandma, boozy uncle, best friends, loud aunt, quiet grandpa, etc.
"I'm not really into princess-y dresses."
"Oh, but why not?" asked Frannie, bustling behind me to unpin. "It's your only chance to be a princess for a day. Every girl wants that."
"Actually," I replied, suddenly tired of being "helped" by this well-meaning woman and others like her, "I don't like princesses."