This is Offbeat Bride's archive of Features posts.
When we want to get more thoughtful about things on Offbeat Bride, this is the spot for our feature articles. Sometimes we talk big-picture philosophies, other times we discuss wedding trends, and every once and a while we just go ape-shit over a wedding WTF?!
When John and I got married, our wedding party consisted of one person each. My Maid of Honor was my best friend of twenty years, Kate. His Best Woman was his ex-wife, Katie. My biggest concern was that people would mix up their names. Since then, I have been told a dozen times, "You let his ex-wife be his Best Woman? That's so weird! I could never do that." As if it's common knowledge that all ex-wives are evil and all new wives should be jealous of them and hate them.
The internet loves snarking in general, but there seems to be something particularly digitally delectable about making fun of weddings. Sometimes it feels like nontraditional weddings get snarked on the most, but these days it seems you're just as likely to see people bitching about how all the wedding trends are played out. What I want to explore is WHY? Why does everyone love getting bitchy about weddings? I'm going to put on my sociologist/media studies hat and share a few theories…
While shopping for his outfit, my future husband goes straight for the shoes that cost twice as much as my dress did. Like an evil-but-sensible Bridezilla, I say no to the beautiful shoes. Then my bridesmaid pointed out that if it was the bride saying "I want to spend X amount on shoes because they're perfect and wonderful, and they'll make me feel just like a princess." Then everyone, including the groom, would be telling the bride to JUST BUY THEM!
One of the big perks of working for Offbeat Bride is that every once in a while Ariel and I get to go on wedding industry press trips. These usually involve visting awesome wedding and honeymoon destinations. This time I got to check out all that Aruba has to offer. Any one planning an Aruban wedding or honeymoon? You just might be after reading this…
Ok, so we've long been fans of the concept of "getting weddinged," the act of having a wedding after you're already legally married. But one of our twitter followers @ayahthetiger recently asked us, what do you call it when (thanks to the shifting marriage equality laws), couples do the reverse? If you've already had the non-legal wedding ceremony, what do you call it when you head down to the courthouse to make it official?
The best thing we could come up with was GETTING LEGALLED.
A friend is throwing me a bridal shower which will include family members and friends. I've very specifically asked for a "no gifts please" announcement in the bridal shower invite, but reliable sources have indicated that at least a few family members might end up bringing a gift anyway.
If that happens, no biggie, but I'm wondering if I need to open those gifts at the shower or is okay to wait until after the shower?
I fancy myself an individual. I mean, I reckon we all do. And while no one has been shaped by the same life events I have, the concept of truly being "unique" is one that we rest a lot of importance on. I always figured I wouldn't have a "typical" wedding. I'm a modest, geeky, tomboy of a girl, and I felt a good guideline for planning a wedding would be incorporating things that make me happy. I didn't know jack about weddings when I started out planning for all this. But if I've learned anything, it's that the things that make me happy also make other people happy.
Ali & Emily's 2010 fairytale wedding in the woods recently got some attention on Pinterest and Facebook, with several longtime readers saying it resonated with them more than any other wedding we've featured.
One commenter suggested we do a follow-up "where are they now?" post with the couple and you know what? "Where are they now" posts are actually a new feature I've been wanting to start doing — where we follow up with your favorite Offbeat Bride couples to see how their first few years of marriage have treated them. I've actually already been in touch with a few (Andy & Jeff, anyone?), but I'm wondering: which of our weddings from years past do you wish we'd follow up on?
Attention 2014 couples! You may remember our announcement a couple months back, but for those of you who don't know, we've teamed up with The Lovesick Expo to feature an elite array of local talent and unique wedding ideas appealing to indie-minded couples. Lovesick Expos are amazing — guy-friendly, same-sex-friendly and actually really fucking fun. (How fun? Read this: I went to an alt-wedding expo, and lived to tell the tale.)
Today we're finally ready to announce all the dates and cities for the 2014 Lovesick Expos! Are we going to mingle with you (…or work with you?) at any one of these sweet-ass events?