In my almost-eight years of running Offbeat Bride and working with wedding photographers, I've heard of photographers offering potential clients discounts for all sorts of things: discounts for destination weddings, discounts for LGBT-identified couples, discounts for sci-fi weddings or elopements and all sorts of other niche weddings. But yesterday was the first time I saw a photographer who's offering a discount for couples doing an unplugged wedding. Is this a new thing?
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of Features posts.
When we want to get more thoughtful about things on Offbeat Bride, this is the spot for our feature articles. Sometimes we talk big-picture philosophies, other times we discuss wedding trends, and every once and a while we just go ape-shit over a wedding WTF?!
Since my last rant against all the "helpful" lists and articles on weddings, I've been thinking a lot about why I was getting so offended by them. Why I've been getting so offended about everything negative and wedding-related. When's the last time I got this worked up over something that I took so damn personally, and that everyone else took so personally too? And then last night, when I was reading about Dashcon, I realized it. Fandom!
For all those Bible-thumpers that cry that gay marriage will weaken our society and ruin the sanctity of marriage, my reality is that the fight for marriage equality did just the opposite. It made me believe in marriage for the first time in my adult life.
Shortly after my engagement, a friend who was also planning a wedding gently dragged me to a big bridal show in Atlanta. I knew it wouldn't be the most exciting experience for me. Still, I figured what's the harm? Maybe I'll find a booth that inspires me. Maybe it'll be a little fun, expand my horizons. Maybe there'd even be free champagne? There was no free champagne. And it wasn't fun. Instead, there were three big secrets I unearthed about the wedding industry from the one and only big bridal show I attended…
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Lori and Rachel did their own thing and got married in a friend's backyard in Los Angeles. What's especially awesome is that each bride also did her own thing with her individual look: Lori wore a smart-looking black suit with an amazing white collar, Rachel was in a yellow sundress with bare feet, and they each completely rocked their unique style.
Oh, hi there, Wedding Industry. So we meet again. Mind if we sit down? I'd like to have a little chat with you. I don't like this trend of "funny" and "helpful" wedding planning "articles." Those sarcastic, mean-spirited articles that are meant to be "helpful tips" to new brides talking about how much wedding planning sucks and if you don't feel bad about yourself and your life while you're planning your wedding, you should hate yourself. Oh, Wedding Industry, I know you think they're funny. But they're not. They're passive aggressive and mean-spirited and downright hurtful.
You all know how we feel about the word TACKY in these parts, right? You've read my manifesto from 2007, right? Well, I can't help but think that Weird Al gets us… he really gets us. As do Aisha Tyler, Margaret Cho, Eric Stonestreet, Kristen Schaal, and Jack Black, who all appear in this parody of Pharrell's "Happy."
For these fancypants types, I bring you today's post full of loud colorful formal footwear in masculine styles. Of course there's some Fluevog action in here, but I've also got some Vivienne Westwood, Alexander McQueen, and some skull-covered Jeffery-West. The sad truth is that some of these shoes are really, really expensive… but they're also really, really fabulous. Even if you're just window shopping, there are styles in here to love…
I have been thinking about the weird privilege I've held as the male-presenting person in this relationship. I believe this is because people want to honor my identity and respect my maleness, yet it feels uncomfortable and untrue… because it erases the fact that those images don't actually fit our queer relationship, and they don't include my trans-ness.
I've written in the past about the pressure put on so many brides to lose weight for their weddings (and how I suggest people handle it). I love that Psychology Today is now tackling this sticky subject with their article, Fighting the Unhealthy Cultural Push for Wedding Weight Loss…