With my marketing and public relations background, I really should have known that once I started calling vendors, my name would wind up on someone's mailing list. For the last several weeks, I have been receiving regular junk mail from my area's WIC staple vendors. So I've come up with several solutions of what to do with all that gross junk mail…
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of Features posts.
When we want to get more thoughtful about things on Offbeat Bride, this is the spot for our feature articles. Sometimes we talk big-picture philosophies, other times we discuss wedding trends, and every once and a while we just go ape-shit over a wedding WTF?!
One of the arguments we hear a lot is that weddings aren't "gay" or "straight," they're just weddings. Of course, that's true… but our wedding was also very, very gay, and that was one of our favorite things about it!
In the fight for marriage equality, there's a risk that the thing that makes queer lives different will get lost in the shuffle. We wanted to celebrate the gayness of gay weddings and the importance of our broad family-of-choice to our lives. We ended up writing the following passage and printing it in our wedding program:
Even though our wedding is planned for October, we had yet to get "officially" engaged. My boyfriend was getting more and more stressed due to what he perceived to be the pressure of creating "the perfect" proposal. I realized that I was letting him do it because I wanted the story, something cool to tell my friends. It occurred to me that I was putting other people's reactions and opinions ahead of my love's well being. So I decided I would take matters into my own hands.
This is Zam. Lily from Wild About You Photography photographed Zam and his bride Athena in Hong Kong, and I think we can all agree that he totally freaking ROCKED his groom gear. He claims that his style has been heavily influenced by NBA stars (HA!) but we think he's totally got his own thing going on — you're going to lose it when you see his shoes.
Well, technically my fiance didn't "lose" anything — both severed finger tips are in the back of our refrigerator. I spent one sleepless night trying to decide how I felt about still having our wedding, knowing that the medical payments are going to be a part of our lives for a long time. But now it feels important, necessary even, in a way that it never really did. Now more than ever, I want to celebrate my relationship with our friends and family. Daniel is the most incredible person I have ever known, and I can't wait to call him my husband.
My fiancé Will and I celebrated our engagement with a shoujo manga (Japanese girls' comics)-themed party, complete with DIY manga decorations, a magical cake, and all of our wonderful friends. Like many brides-to-be, I spent a ridiculous amount of time scouring the internet for ideas on how to decorate our small venue on a non-existing budget, as well as incorporate our nerdy little theme. Here's a little recap of the decorations…
I hear it said that "everyone has pre-wedding jitters" — what ifs and cold feet. But I had a full-on panic. Like, "I woke up crying and told my fiancé that I wanted to cancel the wedding" kind of panic. I came home that same day to a living room full of camping supplies. My fiance said that he had to get me out of here. Too tired to fight it, I allowed myself to be scooped into a car packed with blankets and hot dogs, and driven two hours out into the wilderness. It saved our wedding.
Largely because I grew up in the south, I feel almost as much like it's as expected of me to have monogrammed, or personalized napkins as it is for me to change my names. I'm doing neither. Besides, what's the deal with monogrammed stuff and newlywed folks, anyway? Then I realized… it's all re-branding!
There's a lot of talk in the alt-wedding world about the "wedding industrial complex," that runaway freight train of wedding industry grossness that's always pressuring you to do things a certain way because supposedly that's how things are done.
Lots of us hate the Wedding Industrial Complex, which some people abbreviate as "The WIC." I feel y'all on the loathing of an industry that can be insidious and damaging. I think it's also important, however, to reiterate something I've written about several times before: Offbeat Bride is absolutely part of the wedding industry.