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The weddings that weren't

I'm going to a wedding this weekend and I'm feeling just a little jealous.

It's been over two months since my wedding. It was everything my partner and I could have asked for, in four hours of pure awesome. The professional photos are stunning and capture how was very "us" it was. The wedding I'm going to this weekend is also very representative of the bride and groom — a guitar-themed, tequila-shooting wedding.

But a guitar-themed, tequila-shooting wedding is definitely not me… so why am I having wedding envy?

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Planning a wedding while dealing with the emotions of being a domestic abuse survivor

I have gone from being a young bride, to a survivor of domestic abuse, a divorcée, a fiancée, and now I find myself planning a wedding again. A wedding is supposed to be a happy experience. For me, this doesn't seem to be the case. With my looming nuptials I can't help but feel emotionally and physically drained. I remind myself every day that "he isn't my first husband."

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Offbeat Bride Tribe withdrawals support group thread

The Offbeat Bride Tribe (our private online community for couples actively planning their weddings) is currently down for maintenance until December 30th. While our lead developer is hard at work rebuilding the Tribe's tools and functions from scratch, we can gather together in the comments here to drown our sorrows, ask questions, and give each other advice… Together, we'll make it to December 30th.

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You need to do over your proposal

I avoid talking about the "proposal" part of our life because a lot of people don't understand it. We are in the age of "ommggg look at this YouTube flash dance wedding proposal that went viral and is now being featured on Good Morning America!" Our story just doesn't fit into that American narrative. It was simple, I was a part of the conversation, and it was nothing big and romantic.

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Goodbye, micromanaging bride: How a Latin exam helped me calm down for the wedding day

As the day of the exam approached, Professor Rigg sat us down and told us that the day before the exam, we should not open our books. We should have a good dinner and get a full night's sleep. "There is nothing you can do in the last twenty-four hours that will change how well you do on the exam," he said. "By the time you've reached that point, either you know Latin well enough to succeed, or you don't. No amount of cramming will help you." The point of this long metaphor is that this has been my attitude towards wedding planning…

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I'm a combo platter of femininity and masculine traits: where's my wedding suit?

I tried on a couple of the dresses and felt more uncomfortable than I have felt since the fifth grade, when I allowed a girl to put makeup on my face for the first time. I saw the beauty in it — it just didn't feel right. Why did I want to wear a dress? All I could think about was my desire not to fulfill a stereotype that I actually fit into — the dress/pants lesbian wedding. Was that worth the discomfort that I knew I would encounter on what is supposed to be the best day of my life? NO. Time to look for a new plan.

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"Colin Firth in a wet shirt" has nothing on this gorgeous, surprise Austenland-themed bridal shower

When Michelle asked me to be her Maid of Honor, I knew that the one thing I had to do was throw her a surprise Austenland-themed bridal shower — re-creating an outdoor tea party like the one depicted in the movie, complete with its mashup of vintage and modern contraptions. For all of us geeks who romanticize period films, here how you can throw your own Austenland bridal shower…

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8 of America's most unique wedding venues

This January and February, the Lovesick Expo is once again embarking on a nationwide tour, alongside our professional besties at Offbeat Bride. When we first dreamed up this idea, the most important thing to us was that we could find a host venue that also celebrated the independent spirit. We wanted a space that felt a little bit punk rock, a little chill, and most importantly, doubled as a kick-ass wedding venue. Since you may be on the venue hunt, and we've already done the legwork by scouring the country, we thought we'd put together this little profile of eight of the best venues we’ve found across the nation!