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I had an anxiety attack right before my wedding: What it meant, what it didn't, and how to cope

In an attempt to stave off further anxiety, I decided to do what any good writer would do and research. I searched “I'm anxious before my wedding,” “How do get through the wedding when you're anxious,” “How to not be anxious for your wedding when you're an anxious person in general.” Similar to how googling an illness automatically tells you you have cancer, every search I made indicated that my marriage was doomed. That awful little voice in my head was telling me They are right, even though I knew they weren't. Wasn't there someone out there who suffered from anxiety and could relate to what I was going through?

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Tacky weddings: How to not like things, and not be a dick about it

Way back in 2011, I wrote about the shock some folks can experience when their wedding goes viral. The sad truth is that this a perennial topic, because, well, the internet loves to snark about weddings. Even if your wedding doesn't go the full Buzzfeed viral, there's always the chance that members of, say, a board focused on wedding etiquette might be mortified, and link to it, and the comments might get flooded with negativity.

This happened a few weeks ago…

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I proposed to my boyfriend with the help of sharks and Cthulhu

At first there was always the assumption that he would be the one to propose because he’s, ya know, the man. In retrospect I’m a little embarrassed that it took me so long to realize that I could propose instead. Spoiler alert: I proposed. MORE SPOILERS! He said yes.

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Obvious and outdated: is my work here done?

The Offbeat Bride book was first released in December of 2006, with a second edition in January of 2010. The wedding it described happened in 2004, and I wrote the bulk of the book ten years ago. The fact that people still buy the book at all is only because of this here website, but somehow people do continue to buy it… and sometimes review it on Amazon.

A negative review came in a couple months ago that blew my mind in the best possible way.

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WTF is "scrumming" and how can it help you actually ENJOY wedding planning

Our wedding planning process was smooth and enjoyable in large part due to my husband’s and my day jobs. He’s a software developer and I’ve been a “Scrum Master.” It sounds like a made-up title, but it’s actually a real thing. “Scrum” is a popular methodology used in software development and manufacturing, and my husband and I found it was perfect for wedding planning as well.

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How escaping Scientology weirdly relates to wedding planning

Whenever people are like BOO MAINSTREAM WEDDINGS BOO WIC I HATE THE WEDDING INDUSTRY RAH RAH RAH, I'm always like "I get your frustration there, guys — but stop fighting so much against what you don't want, and start proactively working to determine what you DO want. Construction is always more difficult than demolition!" Here's why creation is more interesting to me that reacting.