Cake tasting and spitballing: 6 tips for planning a wedding TOGETHER
When we went cake tasting, the wonderful woman who was working with us expressed her surprise that the groom was there. When we went to a venue, the coordinator spoke to me only and generally pretended my fiancée wasn’t there.
My fiancé and I decided to plan our wedding together. Our relationship has been a partnership, and we plan for our marriage to be a partnership; foisting the work on me for the wedding planning is out of sync with our relationship values. While the amount of talking can get exhausting, we’re committed to doing this together. As we continue the planning process, we’ll take some of the lessons we’ve learned so far and apply them forward…
We’re ALL struggling: How I realized “the picture perfect relationship” is a lie
We were married three months and already talking about divorce, seriously?! There were times when I just wanted to give up and walk away, broken. I felt like I was failing this imaginary test.
It seems as though there’s a weird phenomenon that happens to some of us after marriage. We act out, and hurt the one we love most because we don’t know what else to do. It happened to me, my friend, and I know it’s happening to many other people out there. That’s why I wanted to write this. I wanted to let you know, if you are going through a rough patch after your wedding, you’re not alone. The pressure of this “idyllic marriage,” that’s what happened.
I’m not marrying my soulmate – and it’s likely you aren’t either
The concept of soulmates is dangerous. A soulmate is a static abstract theory, but humans are ever-changing. How can your partner ever measure up to an abstract ideal? I have no idea if Hyatt is my soulmate. It’s irrelevant to me. Because for those who are agonizing over whether someone is their “soulmate,” they would do better to wonder, “Am I willing to put up with this person’s unique set of problems?” And I know this is not the message that most people want to hear.
Your Brain On Love: even wedding bloggers need relationship advice
Look: even wedding bloggers have relationship challenges. As part of some work I’m doing in my own relationship, my counselor recommended an audiobook called Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships by Stan Tatkin… and it blew my mind.
What Joss Whedon & Army wives can teach you about being a future military spouse
My fellow Army Wives, Echo and Kilo (who helped write this post) and I, are political progressives, feminists, and romantically involved with soldiers in the US Army. It’s a crazy effing life. One might even say round pegs for the square hole of the US Armed Forces. We are absolutely committed to telling it like it is as professional women with complicated sexualities, careers, aspirations, non-traditional religious affiliations, and cultural clashes with the military… as well as the love, support, and strength we draw from our significant others, ourselves, and our close and ever evolving friendships. And yeah, we had a couple o’ gaps in our zeitgeist that we hope we can help you with.
Do you hide your wedding media before you’re actually engaged?
I was wondering if anyone has tackled the question of having wedding paraphernalia (e.g. magazines, etc.) in the home of a pre-engaged couple, if said couple has talked about marriage. Just curious if there are thoughts on etiquette. I have two camps of friends Those that think I shouldn’t hide anything and if I feel the need to, there’s something wrong. And those that say “Don’t show him! You’ll scare him!” I’m curious to know everyone’s thoughts on this topic.