I won't dance, don't ask me: a laser tag reception cures a no-dancing party

Sinatra wouldn't dance, don't ask him. And we know some of you feel the same way. We love us some reception dancing alternatives like lawn games, Dance Dance Revolution, scavenger hunts, tabletop games, and lip sync battles. Reader ChicagoGal gave us another rad dance alternative idea: a laser tag reception! If you've got a local laser tag joint that can accommodate your guest list size, you can book a few hours of non-dancing reception fun pew-pewing at each other or just watching the fun unfold. Let's see what she had to say about it.

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Cake tasting and spitballing: 6 tips for planning a wedding TOGETHER

When we went cake tasting, the wonderful woman who was working with us expressed her surprise that the groom was there. When we went to a venue, the coordinator spoke to me only and generally pretended my fiancée wasn’t there.

My fiancé and I decided to plan our wedding together. Our relationship has been a partnership, and we plan for our marriage to be a partnership; foisting the work on me for the wedding planning is out of sync with our relationship values. While the amount of talking can get exhausting, we’re committed to doing this together. As we continue the planning process, we’ll take some of the lessons we’ve learned so far and apply them forward…

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We're ALL struggling: How I realized "the picture perfect relationship" is a lie

We were married three months and already talking about divorce, seriously?! There were times when I just wanted to give up and walk away, broken. I felt like I was failing this imaginary test.

It seems as though there's a weird phenomenon that happens to some of us after marriage. We act out, and hurt the one we love most because we don't know what else to do. It happened to me, my friend, and I know it's happening to many other people out there. That's why I wanted to write this. I wanted to let you know, if you are going through a rough patch after your wedding, you're not alone. The pressure of this "idyllic marriage," that's what happened.

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I'm not marrying my soulmate (and I don't think you are, either)

The concept of soulmates is dangerous. A soulmate is a static abstract theory, but humans are ever-changing. How can your partner ever measure up to an abstract ideal? I have no idea if Hyatt is my soulmate. It's irrelevant to me. Because for those who are agonizing over whether someone is their "soulmate," they would do better to wonder, "Am I willing to put up with this person's unique set of problems?" And I know this is not the message that most people want to hear.