Philosophizing | Offbeat Bride

This is Offbeat Bride's archive of Philosophizing posts.

Sometimes it's just about the big picture stuff. How do you FEEL about your wedding? What does it all MEAN!?

Most Recent Posts About Philosophizing

The wedding ceremony and the following reception seem to be the last social events in our country to change even in the slightest. If you dare to ask what the big deal is about a white dress, people will ask you why you'd want to look like a harlot. If you suggest having canolis for dessert and skipping the cake-cutting ceremony, people will balk as if you've just asked your guests to eat their own toenails. You don't want a bridal party either? Well apparently you have no friends and no respect for tradition. It’s clear that when you deviate from the preordained structure of a “classic” wedding, you’re a rebel, a renegade, an outlaw.

Stressful as wedding planning can be, doing so after the loss of loved ones brings up so many more painful questions and emotions. Melissa, who lost both of her parents before her wedding, dives into this, sadly, universal issue. Begging the question: how DOES one juggle grief and wedding planning?

Offbeat Bride (both the book and the site) changed me a lot. I became more comfortable with who I am. I discovered fashions and subcultures that I had never known existed, but now love. I learned how to deal with stress, with family, with my own doubts. But because of this fabulous place, I also developed one of my biggest doubts about the wedding: was it going to be offbeat enough?

Y'all might remember ThisisHalloween from her previous guest post The dreaded dress lust. Now she's back with another thoughtful guest post about what she learned from going through the harrowing task of canceling one's wedding.

Somewhere in the wedding planning process I gave birth to a beast: you, Wedding-Planning-Me, you were born. And now we have to have a little talk.

Wherein Ariel (but not that one) gives us all a little reminder that simple weddings are just as wonderful as over-the-top detailed weddings.

We already broached the question of "should I shave my armpits of my wedding day," but let's hear about it first hand from a bride who chose not to shave on her wedding day.

I realized that if I was going to be "bridal" in their eyes, I was going to have to change who I am. I am proudly disabled …and I will not change to meet what the Wedding Industry believes is bridal.