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How to survive a long engagement (without losing your shit!)

I was engaged for about four years before my wife and I tied the knot. Long engagements can be stressful, regardless of the reason why you’re stretching out the timeline. For us, we treated our engagement as a time to set the foundation for our newly formed family, rather than exclusively as a time to actively plan a wedding. When it came time to get married, our small civil ceremony was put together in about a month. So how did I not lose my shit while being engaged for longer than the WIC standard? Here are my tips…

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At Last: a sweet wedding reading that honors a life lived before finding love

Not unlike Etta James' classic love song "At Last," this particular reading narrows down those feelings of having lived life, been beaten by it a time or two, and still being joyful that you found lasting love. Considering how many weddings are second marriages or older-than-average couples, the sentiment is really lovely and really realistic. Here's a sweet wedding reading that takes into account a life lived prior to the wedding…

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Are your parents helping pay for your wedding? Have them read this.

The only rule is to talk openly and honestly about expectations clearly before accepting any money — is the money a loan? A gift? If it's a gift, does it come with stipulations or expectations? Talking about money is uncomfortable and awkward for everyone, but it's critically important for parents who might be contributing to weddings to be VERY clear about what their expectations are… and to watch out for predatory marketing that targets parents…

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7 questions to help you create a super personalized wedding ceremony

There's not much guidance for thinking about the ceremony itself. What even is a wedding? What's it for? And how do you go about planning the part of your wedding where you actually get married? Having guided a lot of couples — not to mention my fiancée — through the process of planning a wedding, here are my top seven questions to get you going on a personalized wedding ceremony that reflects your relationship…