Unless you're going ring-less, your wedding rings are going to be something you wear for a very long time — it may be on your hand all day, every day. So shouldn't your ring get at least as much thought and care in shopping as your wedding outfits? I used to work at a jewelry store, and I could tell you some interesting stories. So, here are my tips for getting what you want, and at the best price.
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of Fashion Advice posts.
What to wear, and how to wear it.
I went to try on dresses. Me — in all my genderqueer/butch/transmasculine glory — in a traditional bridal salon, trying on wedding gowns. I found "The Dress." But I didn't buy The Dress. I'm not going to wear The Dress or any other dress. That's not the point.
You love your tattoos, your partner loves your tattoos, but your family isn't always so approving.
I know for me, and I suspect a bunch of you out there, wedding dress shopping brought up a whole host of body issues and insecurities. Now that I've been there, done that, I thought I would share my experience and show you that it can be a very happy and positive experience. First off, I am overweight, there's no denying that. Sometimes I feel great about how I look. Other times I let a bad body image get the best of me. For a little perspective, I am 5'6″, weigh 220lbs, and wear a street size 18 or 20, depending on the cut. Here's my guide to plus size dress shopping…
My fiance loves to wear a bow tie and suit jacket, and equally loves to wear little dresses — and she's at an absolute loss as to what to wear for our July 2014 wedding! She's got a faux-hawk with the sides of her head shaved, and loves playing with gender expectations. Sometimes she's soft-butch, sometimes she's femme.
The idea of wedding dress shopping was something I had always found challenging. As someone who is short, round, and very busty, I hated the idea of being clamped into an off-the-peg sample dress four sizes too small. I looked at dresses aimed at curvier brides and saw that most of them were ugly, and seemed to be about hiding your body, not celebrating it. I knew any dress I bought in a bridal store would have to be massively modified to fit me. So instead of dealing with all that, I started thinking about having a dress made-to-measure.
For a lot of women, their first experience with a structural shaping garment other than a bra is a corset-back wedding dress — and they quickly learn that a corset is a bit more complicated to wear than a bra. (What, you mean I have to reach in and shift stuff around to get it sitting right?) When you compress the average torso in a corset, the person's back skin tends to fold a bit on itself. This is commonly referred to as "back cleavage" or the "Venus Fold." Let's talk about it.
Things I love: Fluffy wedding dresses, staying hydrated, my bridesmaids. Things I don't love: Having the third help me handle the first in order to deal with the consequences of the second. This is how you can ditch the team of bathroom bridesmaids with the aid of a trash bag.