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My son has an alcohol problem. How do I handle him with an open bar at the wedding?

I appreciated your article about how to handle a abusive/misbehaving wedding guest. I am getting married next year and I have a son with an drug and alcohol problem. I cannot uninvite him but need tips on how to handle him. He is fine until he starts drinking and there is no way that we can keep him from drinking since we are having an open bar.

I was considering hiring someone to attend to watch him and, as soon as gets boorish, place him in an cab and send him home. Where do I find a babysitter?

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Are your parents helping pay for your wedding? Have them read this.

The only rule is to talk openly and honestly about expectations clearly before accepting any money — is the money a loan? A gift? If it's a gift, does it come with stipulations or expectations? Talking about money is uncomfortable and awkward for everyone, but it's critically important for parents who might be contributing to weddings to be VERY clear about what their expectations are… and to watch out for predatory marketing that targets parents…

Mom's my BFF: Should I have my mom as maid of honor?

My mother is my best friend and I would love for her to be my maid of honour. My dad thinks that it's not appropriate because I "should choose someone my own age" and "the mother of the bride is a role that is demanding enough." What do you guys think? Should I have my mom as maid of honor?