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5 things to do when your best friend said no to being in the wedding

About three days after getting engaged, I texted my best friend to quickly confirm that he would, indeed, be in my wedding party. His response was… not what I was expecting. Here's how I dealt with it.

In a sadness tailspin, I reached out to my future husband, who was in the midst of a two hour work meeting. So I reached out to my ex-husband (who knows our relationship the best of anyone) and he had some awesome advice for anyone who has a best friend that said no to being in your wedding party…

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OPEN THREAD: are there in-laws name alternatives instead of just "the in-laws?"

Monster in-laws, the evil in-laws… it's absolutely true that society has demonized the term in-laws into something that isn't exactly reflective of reality. I'm all for embracing terms with formerly negative connotation and reforming them with positivity, but sometimes it's just not practical for daily use. Do any of you call your partner's family by something other than the in-laws?

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Kicking 'em out: how can we word our "zero argument" drama-free wedding rule?

We are no strangers to family and guest drama at weddings. Hell, we've got whole archives for family advice, family drama, and conflict resolution. People are people and people can bring the dramaz. You're totally on the right path by nipping it in the bud early and diplomatically addressing the issue on your wedding website. Wedding websites are the best place to explain anything you want explained: dress codes, ceremony rituals, accommodations, and of course, any specific drama rules that you'll be putting in place. Let's talk about how to word it.

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How do you decide which events your bridesman should attend?

With more and more wedding parties going the way of the coed, it's becoming pretty common and no big deal, especially around these parts. Sometimes couples even have a shared wedding party, especially if they have a ton of shared friends. The point is, there are no set rules for gender-blind wedding parties as long as you're honoring the feelings of your friends. Let's talk about asking dudes to join you at your pre-wedding parties and planning events.