There are a million reasons why someone offering to help out at your wedding will actually cause more hindrance than help. Distance, time, ability… whatever. These people are offering their help because they care about you and want your day to be as awesome as possible. So what's the best way to accommodate these helpers without pulling your hair out?
This is Offbeat Bride's archive of Friends & Family Advice posts.
We've got it all for you: compromising on guestlist issues, managing family expectations, negotiating wedding party dramas, rising to bridesmaid challenges, and OH so much more.
I had this whole "being a good wedding guest" thing down. Now that my own wedding has passed, I realized that there were some wedding guest mistakes I was making, despite my best intentions. These are the things I've learned about being a good wedding guest that I never would have realized until having my own wedding…
Ug. This is a post no one wants to write, but that definitely needs to be written. Most of us really do wish our weddings could be sweet celebrations of love and family, commitment and community. Unfortunately, for a whole bunch of legitimate reasons ranging from addiction to abuse, crime to communication problems, some of you are going to face the challenge of not inviting certain family members (or ANY family members) to your wedding.
It's going to suck. Obviously, no one article can work for every tangled family situation, but let's see if we can help you make it suck a little less.
My future husband's family speaks multiple different languages, but none of them are English. How do I help my husband's family not feel so left out when the whole ceremony is in English. Our wedsite is in English. And the vows are in English.
I've realized, though, that the place where I would love to have the reception is over half an hour away from the church. I'm guessing this would be a big drive, especially for the out-of-towners (and there are a lot). Is that too much of a distance to ask my guests to travel? I don't want to be "that wedding we went to where we had to drive so far to have dinner!"
For those who financed their weddings themselves (AKA no parental financial help, or help from anyone other than you and your beloved), how did you go about gift-getting for your parents? Did you even give gifts to your parents? If so, was it something sentimental, bought, or otherwise?
I've always thought of myself as pretty unsociable. While my husband is Mr Sociable. In fact, my initial vision for the wedding was a very small gathering — the two of us, our parents and brothers, a total of 11 people. Obviously this was never going to fit with my other half's plans and we ended up having about 100 people there. This was the cause of enormous and paralyzing anxiety to me in the run-up to the wedding day.
My wedding is on my mom's birthday. I struggled with how to acknowledge her birthday and make her feel special (as she should!) on a day that was supposed to be all about me and my man. Chances are good that a lot of readers have people celebrating special occasions right around their wedding day. How are other Offbeat Brides handling things like anniversaries, birthdays, etc?
I have worked in hospitality — at hotel front desks, bars, and even housekeeping — for years. Over those years I've picked up a few tips to make the wedding-and-hotel experience go a little smoother. Here are my tips on booking a block of hotel rooms for your wedding guests.