I know this is a space for Offbeat Brides, and not so long ago I was an one, but is there any advice to be had for those of us who are offbeat bridesmaids for more traditional brides? When my most recent engaged friend asked me to be a part of her day as a bridesmaid I was thrilled! But now… some things are making my uncomfortable. How do I explain to my bride that I want to be a part of her day, but don't want to compromise myself in the process?
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I booked the reception venue, which we are only allowed to use after 6pm, way before booking the church. I did not know then that the church would only do a wedding at 1pm. So, assuming the ceremony lasts an hour, we have four hours to kill between the ceremony and the reception. What should we do with that time?
The fella and I got engaged right before we traveled home to see our families for a vacation. We both have incredibly kind, welcoming families, so I was prepared for the outpouring of joy, and I was prepared to answer the inevitable when-where-who questions, too. But then, the suggestions started rolling in… At the same time, I felt like my ideas were being dismissed out-of-hand. On our last day of our vacation, I had a minor meltdown in the car. I didn't know how to respond to the onslaught of suggestions we had received. Until I had a stroke of genius…
How do you dealing with the fact that, technology-wise, you are living in the 21st century, but your parents and their friends are not? I'm finding I'm having wedding planning complications with our evites, the online-only registries, and the concept of photo sharing.
I've come to hate the question: "How's the wedding planning going?" Because it's usually followed by someone totally shooting down my last planning decision. But here's the deal: Wedding planning is stressful enough as it is. And if I listened to and implemented everyone else's advice, then I would be planning their wedding and not my fiancé's and mine.
My future mother-in-law has decided that she is throwing me a bridal shower. My wording there is intentional — she did not ask if I wanted one, she did not ask if my bridespeeps were throwing me one (they're not, because they know I don't want one), she Just Decided.
For many reasons, I've tried to be polite and just say "no thanks," but she's insisting.
I have no interest in this event, although I realize that it is very nice of her to offer to throw me one. How do I get out of this?
There are a million reasons why someone offering to help out at your wedding will actually cause more hindrance than help. Distance, time, ability… whatever. These people are offering their help because they care about you and want your day to be as awesome as possible. So what's the best way to accommodate these helpers without pulling your hair out?
I had this whole "being a good wedding guest" thing down. Now that my own wedding has passed, I realized that there were some wedding guest mistakes I was making, despite my best intentions. These are the things I've learned about being a good wedding guest that I never would have realized until having my own wedding…
Ug. This is a post no one wants to write, but that definitely needs to be written. Most of us really do wish our weddings could be sweet celebrations of love and family, commitment and community. Unfortunately, for a whole bunch of legitimate reasons ranging from addiction to abuse, crime to communication problems, some of you are going to face the challenge of not inviting certain family members (or ANY family members) to your wedding.
It's going to suck. Obviously, no one article can work for every tangled family situation, but let's see if we can help you make it suck a little less.
My future husband's family speaks multiple different languages, but none of them are English. How do I help my husband's family not feel so left out when the whole ceremony is in English. Our wedsite is in English. And the vows are in English.