When you don't belong to the "my wedding is a party" club, you might feel like you're missing out on some of the cool wedding stuff — centerpieces, decorations, venues, et cetera. In my experience, elopement weddings are at once amazing, full of awe and love, affordable, and totally relaxing yet incredibly thrilling all at once.
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How to craft a ceremony that actually reflects you and your partner.
We got married a few months ago, and we wrote the ceremony and vows ourselves. I wanted to share them with you guys in case any of you were looking for something short and simple.
Jayme and Sondra found inspiration in the "So you're going to sit through a wedding" program, but customized it to include some same sex wedding-related questions that were inevitably going to arise. They titled it, "So you're going to sit through your (first, probably) two-bride wedding." They addressed the ceremony legality, ceremony length, and of course, where are the rainbows?!
Since my husband was nervous about having to write something eloquent, we agreed that in our ceremony instead of "vows" per se we would have a line that said, "[Name], if you have anything to say to [Name], you may say it now." I prepared and prepared. The problem was, when our officiant looked at me and asked if I had anything to say, I forgot the entire thing.
I wrote this ceremony script with the help of Offbeat Bride, and I am really happy with the results. My very non-religious, scientific-minded fiancé is very happy with it as well. My mom, who has always told me that we are made of star dust, is absolutely in love with the Carl Sagan reading we selected for her. I am really excited about the music sections, and to share my ceremony with you…
When we started thinking about writing our own ceremony, both my husband Clayton and I felt that there was something that wasn't really feeling right for us about putting a ring on each other's finger. It could be that we're punks, it could be that we're feminists, it could be for a bunch of different reasons. But even the idea of us saying "please take this ring" instead of "with this ring, I thee wed" or something like that, was just not feeling right for us. So I thought that instead of exchanging rings, we could just put the ring on ourselves.
Wow, it's been an amazing couple of weeks since our surprise elopement! Now I'm ready to download on the whole experience of eloping for my own piece of mind, and hopefully to help others considering it! Here are the eight lessons I learned from our elopement…