Dedicate your bouquet instead of tossing it

Lollipop bouquet
Photo from Melanie & Justin's colourful carnival love affair wedding by Matthew Ryan Photography

After I stopped gawking at Melanie's insanely awesome purple hair, I ran across something pretty damn cool that she wrote in her wedding profile:

I vetoed the bouquet toss. Instead, I dedicated it to my grandma who passed away two months before the wedding. That was fairly emotional and one of my favorite moments.

Now, I'm all for tossing a bouquet (or a stuffed blue turtle shell) at people after a wedding, but there's something really sweet and loving about Melanie's alternative. Would you want to dedicate your bouquet to a loved one's memory instead of tossing it to your friends? You could just quietly leave your wedding bouquet in front of a loved one's photo at your reception or save it to place on a grave or at a shrine.

And you know what? No one's saying people in the wedding party couldn't do the same, with a bouquet or a boutonniere or a corsage. Gorgeous.

  1. Doing this! I'm going to give the bouquet to a friend who is attending. Her late partner was one of the first people who tried to talk us into getting married years ago. We better provide lots of tissues!

  2. We were in our mid 30s when we got married and most of our friends were married or taken. I secretly decided to dedicate my bouquet to my bridesmaid who was also my best friend. She was the only one of my bridesmaids who wasn't married and I thought it would make her feel special as she recently became single. During my speech, I said I wasn't going to toss the bouquet, but instead, wanted to dedicate it to someone who I hope will be the next to get married someday. She was so surprised and emotional – we hugged and it was beautiful. She keeps it in her living room (it was a fake bouquet) and she says it brings her luck!

  3. This is a wonderful idea, but do you think it would be too offbeat bride for me to give it to my mom? She and my father have been divorced for years, but she is my rock and most of my friends are married already. I am not doing a bouquet, so I can't do a toss anyway.

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  4. I knew I wasn't going to be doing any kind of toss, but I'd been thinking about what I was going to do with my bouquet when I stumbled on the idea of leaving it at the grave of a loved one. The one-year anniversary of my grandmother's passing is about a month before our wedding. She was in love with my fiance and over-the-moon excited for the wedding – possibly more than either of us!

    As it turns out, we're actually going to the cemetery the day afterwards for the unveiling anyway, so it works out well and I won't have to do it alone (my FH said he thought it would be too much for him to go with me). I think it will be nice to have our closest family and maybe a couple of friends with us as we honor her in this way.

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  5. I will be giving my bouquet to the winners of the anniversary dance – the couple that has been married the longest. Honestly, it will probably be my grandparents, but it's still a fun alternative to tossing the bouquet. Not to mention, it's very inspiring to start our new life together watching all of the couples that have been married for decades out on the dancefloor.

  6. I'm going to be displaying my bouquet at the the place card table with the names or pictures of people that have passed who are special to us.

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