Lauren & Johnny’s rockin’ seaside aquarium boda #Real Weddings: Western US#aquarium#beach#california#couples of color#DIY#eco-friendly#goth#non-floral bouquet#outdoor#santa cruz#succulents#tattooed bride October 7 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride Photos by Brian Murphy Harker and Dean Aaron The offbeat bride: Lauren, Massage Therapist Her offbeat partner: Johnny, Spanish-English Interpreter/Translator Date and location of wedding: The Seymour Marine Discovery Center-Long Marine Lab, Santa Cruz, CA — August 14, 2011 What made our wedding offbeat: The planning process was DIO (do it ourselves) and DIC (do it for cheap)! I had fun dodging the wedding industrial complex by coming up with DIY and inexpensive alternatives. We also went the eco-friendly route by keeping it local, using biodegradable flatware and plates, drought-friendly succulents, local wildflowers, and reusable tea-lights. We enlisted the help of our friends and family, and everyone generously gave us their time, energy, and amazing skills! For wedding gifts, our friends provided the entertainment, photography, cake, and presided over the ceremony. I came up with the idea of renting out a local research-based aquarium, The Seymour Marine Discovery Center. Not only was the venue well-priced and within our budget, they provided tables, chairs, AV equipment, and at the end of it all, our money went back to marine research, conservation, and education — something that is very important to us living in Santa Cruz so close to the ocean. They also have two amazing whale skeletons outside, which made for some really awesome wedding photos. The reception had a taco bar (an homage to my husband's Mexican roots) and unassigned seating. Because we are avid Burners (attendees of Burning Man), art and fire are integral to our lives, so my best friend welded me a flaming copper flower bouquet! This was one of the first ideas I came up with and seeing it come to fruition was almost more exciting than finding my wedding dress. Obviously, we bucked tradition (to prevent injuries) and didn't have a bouquet toss. My husband proposed to me during our vacation in Xocimilco in Mexico City. He is Mexican-Salvadoreno, and I am Puerto Rican-Italian. It was important to us to incorporate Mexican food and Latin decorations into our ceremony and reception. Our friend Stacie, who designs posters for bands like Animal Collective, Sleepy Sun, and Ben Harper, custom-made a Dia De Los Muertos-inspired image for our wedding invitations. We also blew up the image to poster size so people could see it when they walked through the door to the reception. At our taco bar buffet, we had traditional mole made from scratch, tamales, and many types of salsa. We used Sacred Heart decorations made by a cooperative of women in Southern Mexico who are fair trade artisans paid a living wage. Music is very important to us, so we had a live '60s-style garage rock band, The Groggs, play, as well as a DJ who spun '80s new wave, '70s punk, and '50s and '60s rock 'n' roll. At the end of the night we hopped in our friend's '58 cherry red Chevy and checked in to a local B&B. Our friends partied into the night and we heard stories for weeks to come. Tell us about the ceremony: Our ceremony was unrehearsed and we only exchanged the wording with our officiant via email. The officiant of our ceremony was a punk-rocker back in the day and long-time friend to my husband and brother-in-law. Our ceremony was non-traditional and nonreligious and we wrote our own vows. Mine had a distinctly feminist undertone. Our ceremony took place outside, overlooking the Pacific Ocean. My mom walked me down the aisle, between naturally occurring drought-tolerant foliage. The ceremony was only ten minutes long. After the kiss, everyone looked at us for what to do next, and not knowing what to do, I yelled, "Let's party!" Our biggest challenge: My husband's parents are devout in their religion, which dictates that they shouldn't interact with people outside of their religion. Leading up to the wedding, my husband was really worried that they would not be present. After some negotiations, they agreed to come a day early to meet my family, and decided to stay for part of the reception. Having them come to the wedding despite everything really showed us how much they care and made the day even more special. My favorite moment: My mom raised me pretty much by herself, so having my mom walk me down the aisle was definitely meaningful to me. My grandfather offered, but it was really important that my mom had the honor. Also really meaningful was when my husband's father, a trained singer, dressed up in full Mariachi and sung several songs in Spanish for us once the sun set. His voice is incredible and everyone totally freaked out. My husband couldn't keep his tears back. Unfortunately, because of his religious beliefs, we were asked not to photograph him, but I can tell you the image will always remain in the minds of those in attendance! During Papa's song If that wasn't enough, my 15- and 10-year-old sisters busted out their ukuleles and sang the most heart-warming rendition of "You and I" by Ingrid Michaelson. My funniest moment: The toasts by our friends and family were hilarious. My brother-in-law had us rolling by comparing the merging of our families to a Puerto Rican dish called, "mofongo." The word alone is funny, but this turned out to be the word of the weekend, and the fact that he referenced it in his toast had my husband and I cracking up. My bridesmaids also told embarrassing Burning Man and Vegas stories during their toasts which made the other guests giggle. Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? We were unable to rehearse the ceremony, so I was worried about how it would play out. We totally "winged it" and nobody could tell the difference. Even the music that had been cued for the bridal processional ("Poison Cup" by M. Ward and "In a Manner of Speaking" by Nouvelle Vague) came on at the exact right moment. Also the Seymour Center doesn't provide help with set-up or clean-up and I wasn't sure who to ask, knowing that everyone I knew would be in attendance. Luckily, my mother's and my friends came through to help set up and decorate. I also found a local events coordinator who came to the rescue. Four servers assisted during the reception, and were amazing during the break-down and clean up process. We ended up splurging on this, but it was totally worth the money spent. My advice for offbeat brides: The Virgo in me always advises to make lists and cross things off when you accomplish them. I would say start early, but I know people have pulled off amazing weddings in very little time. At least make decisions early if you can. Come up with a plan and make decisions about what you want the wedding to look like, even if you aren't able to execute it until a few months before the actual day. Spend the time to seek out creative and inexpensive alternatives. Start local! I went to my local boutique wedding dress shop and was surprised to find amazing deals, as well as unique dresses, while supporting the local economy. Also, if you are DIYing your wedding, delegate responsibility the day before and day of to someone else; you really don't want to be asked where the extra plates are, or who's in charge of the gifts while you're dressed up in your wedding clothes. What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Even if you think you have everything covered, you probably forgot something. Let the small stuff go. Do everything you can before the wedding day and delegate what you can't. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photography: Brian Murphy Harker and Dean Aaron Dress: BG Haute purchased at Jewels on Pacific in Santa Cruz, CA (831) 420-1441 Bride and bridesmaid feather hairpieces: Custom by Etsy seller UtahAhern Decorations: Koyal Wholesale Extra flowers: Bee in Harmony Farms Plates/Bamboo cutlery: Green Feet Rentals: Alexis Party Rental Invitations and poster: Stacie Willoughby Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! Get your daily dose of Offbeat AWESOME Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Vintage snack: cake noms and 60 years of bliss NEXT Geek Girl Con: See you this weekend! Show/Hide comments [ 9 ] There are so many weddings on OBB that I think are super nifty. However, I am beyond in love with yours! Seriously drooling over the amazing bouquet! And the Dia De Los Muertos custom image, beautiful. How wonderful that your husbands family could come, and that you had so many personal songs, toasts and stories from your loved ones. Congratulations! Reply Awww, it looks like an amazingly beautiful and fun time. LOVE the fabric on your and your husband's outfits – looks like if you rubbed it together it would go "jzzhhoooop-jhhhooopp". I hope it's not too pry-y,but I'm really curious as to what religion your husband's parents belong to? I have a number of Jehovah's Witnesses in my family and they have some interesting tenets to follow, but aside from Mennonite/Amish sects, I'm not familiar with many cloistered and/or photograph eschewing religions. 3 agree Reply Hi Katie! Actually, yes, jzzhhooop is exactly the sound it made! 😉 They are indeed JDubs. They are definitely allowed to take pictures, it was more the interacting with us "heathens" that was a bit touchy. All in all in worked out though. Reply Eep. I hope the family members who refer to themselves as Jdubs did not make you feel as though you were heathens – while they may have certain feelings towards your wedding and happiness, not all of us would react in the same fashion. I, a Jdub, would certainly not want people to think we all feel that way about the alternative lifestyles depicted on this site – even if some of them are not lifestyles we may not personally engage in. I think your wedding was lovely, and am happy for such a positive experience for you. 🙂 Reply So many personal touches, and I love the family involvement and serenades! Congrats, you two! Reply Loving this wedding, the guys tash is pretty cool too. Reply Love your wedding! I used to work at that aquarium (Banana Slug alum)! Beautiful art. So glad the whale skeleton got cameos in your pictures. ^.^ Reply We just reserved our 2012 date with the Seymour Center last week. Catching up with my Offbeat Bride reading today, I was scrolling through this entry and exclaimed, "Hey! A whale skeleton! Hey! This is the Seymour Center!". Needless to say, it's exciting to see what another offbeat couple did with the venue. Congratulations, Lauren and Johnny, your wedding and reception looks like it was very personal, and a lot of fun! Reply Thank you for the kind words everyone! It was an amazing day…though it went by soooo fast! And, I was really thankful for all of the amazing resources and ideas I gleaned from OBB. Hope your weddings are spectacular! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Participate in this conversation via emailGet only replies to your comment, the best of the rest, as well as a daily recap of all comments on this post. 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