Open thread: how do you deal with wedding body-shaming?

I just got engaged, and I went on my first dress shopping outing with my sister and my mom last weekend. I was hoping it would be a fun bonding experience, but instead I felt criticized and harassed by both of them. I'm a plus-size bride, and both of them kept making comments about how dresses would fit once a lost a few pounds, how certain dress styles would look good after my wedding diet (…that I've never once said I was doing!), how this dress covered up my arms and looked better than that dress that didn't.

What was supposed to be a good day, turned into a day where I went home feeling like I'd been a victim of wedding body-shaming. How do other plus-size brides stay body positive in the face of constant criticism?


Animal masks and costumes at this eerie-as-hell Wicker Man wedding

Creepy and awesome animal masks recall The Wicker Man and Halloween costumes and decor do the rest at this Wicker Man wedding. But the perfectly-timed gloomy fog and rain made the ceremony seriously dead-on for the theme. Don't miss the wedding party outfits, the bride's gorgeous headpiece, and the eerie details galore.


What happened when we put OUR wedding needs first…

Somehow, it is portrayed as perfectly normal to make huge exceptions for your wedding day, from going into debt to inviting too many people, to having melt-downs over canapés. Of the traditional wedding "must-haves," we didn’t want most, don’t need many, and can’t have some. We said "no" over and over — feeling like rather fussy inconsiderate people. But here's what’s happened since we’ve put our wedding planning needs first…


18 things I wish I could have told my wedding-planning self a year ago (Part 2)

With the benefit of a year of hindsight, I thought I might give some advice to my younger self. Or, failing that — why do we not have time-travel yet?! — I figured I could give some advice to those of you who are still deep in the trenches of planning. The number 18 has great significance in Judaism, so without further ado, here is part two of the 18 things I wish I could tell my wedding-planning self…