Cecil & Paul's animals, vuvuzelas, and NERF war wedding #Real Weddings: Western US#austin#first look#food truck#marriage equality#mixed-gender wedding party#paper flowers#rock-paper-scissors#short dress#tacos#tattooed bride#texas June 27 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride Photos by: Juliane Masciana Photos by Juliane Masciana The Offbeat Bride: Cecil, Network Mobilization Manager for a non-profit Her offbeat partner: Paul, Network Technician Date and location of wedding: House on the Hill, Austin, TX — August 11, 2012 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We had lots of DIY projects and small changes to traditions that made things our own. We had cupcakes made by friends instead of a wedding cake, tacos catered by a food truck, and locally grown, organic flowers for the few bouquets (my grandmother arranged them the day of!). We also had butcher paper instead of tablecloths, bright blue and orange paper flowers in 79 cent Ikea vases on each table, and each table had a different animal theme. Paul made a list of the "coolest" animals and I collected toys which we put on the tables. The guests had name cards with table assignments on them such as "turtle table," "mongoose table," etc. We didn't do a bouquet or garter toss, but instead we ate, drank, danced, had an epic NERF war, then swam in the pool into the wee hours. Tell us about the ceremony: Instead of bridesmaids, groomsmen, etc. we had bride's ladies, a chief bride's lady, a groom's dude, a groom's lady, and a chief groom's dude. My aunt, Susan, was the officiant. She used The Lorax as her book to hold her notes. Paul and I wrote our own secret notes to each other, which we read. But before we read our notes, we played rock-paper-scissors to see who would read first. I won! Also after the exchange of rings, Susan said, "You may now update your Facebook statuses." At which point our uncles handed each of us our iPhones. We laughed. Susan is a Shakespeare scholar who founded a feminist, all-women theater group called the Weird Sisters. Paul is also a Shakespeare buff, and we have lots of lovers of the Bard in the family and among our friends. So she read Shakespeare's Sonnet 116: Let me not to the marriage of true minds Admit impediments. Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove: O no! it is an ever-fixed mark That looks on tempests and is never shaken; It is the star to every wandering bark, Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken. Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks Within his bending sickle's compass come: Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, But bears it out even to the edge of doom. If this be error and upon me proved, I never writ, nor no [one] ever loved. (Note the feminist revision in the last line: man -> one.) We are also big supporters of marriage equality, and felt that our wedding was a place where we wanted to show that. We pinned White Knots to the programs with a note explaining that wearing them is an expression of support for marriage equality. We also asked Susan to work something into the ceremony: Cecil and Paul would like for you to know that they think marriage is an ultimate expression of their love and commitment to each other; they look forward to the day when that right is granted to all couples in this country. Susan also wrote the vows. We loved them: Paul/Cecil, do you promise to love Cecil/Paul, comfort her/him, honor and keep her/him through all life's joys and tempests, and to respect her/his individuality? Paul/Cecil: I do! Our biggest challenge: Staying true to our vision (and our budget). We knew that we wanted our wedding to be fun, really silly, and informal but stylish. However, sometimes the nagging of the what-will-they-think demons got to me and I spent hours looking at chair covers and table cloths I couldn't afford and didn't even want. In these situations I would just remind myself of what was most important to me. Were chair covers on that list? Nope. Then I could refocus my energy on other things. My favorite moment: I loved when Paul and I started walking down the aisle holding hands and everyone applauded. I couldn't jive with the whole "giving the daughter away" thing. I had anxiety about this choice, especially because my dad was a bit hurt. I thought that some people would whisper and wonder what was wrong with my dad or me. Instead our guests were 100% supportive and they broke out in applause as we emerged. Just after the ceremony, a group of family and friends ran outside with vuvuzelas (we're big soccer fans) and tooted away as we milled about waiting to take family photos. Total surprise! My funniest moment: The NERF war! We weren't sure exactly how it would go down. A while after the reception and while we were dancing, the photographer said she was going to have to leave in about 30 mins, so I went and got all the NERF guns and brought them to the dance floor. Everyone went bonkers running around shooting each other. My advice for Offbeat Brides: Communicate with all invitees in an organized fashion to limit no-shows and unexpected guests. I've worked on political campaigns, so I employed some volunteer management methods to handle our RSVPs. I assigned each guest a number on a scale of one to five: 1 = definitely not coming, 2 = most likely not coming, 3 = unsure, 4 = most likely coming, and 5 = coming, barring an act of God. I called all the twos, threes, and fours in the two weeks before the wedding and had a little chit chat. I made sure to work in the hard ask: "I'll see you there, right?" Since I did this, we had exactly zero unexpected guests. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photography: Juliane Masciana Bride's Dress: Sue Wong from Bloomgingdale's Hair and makeup: Delaney from Method Hair Salon Groom's suit: Calvin Klein Groom's shoes: Aldo Bride's and groom's ladies hair pieces and earrings: Charming Charlie Catering: the peached tortilla and Silver Sage Catering Biodegradable/compostable dishes: sustyparty.com and branchhome.com Online ordination: American Marriage Ministries Rudimentary sound equipment for DIY music station: Rock 'N' Roll Rentals Envelopes for invites: The Paper Place Butcher paper for tables: Amazon Registry: Honeyfund Paper flowers DIY: Instructables Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! Get your daily dose of Offbeat AWESOME Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Offbeat bachelorette party ideas: the second coming NEXT How I made my own green Victorian-inspired wedding dress Show/Hide comments [ 10 ] How fun! I love the Nerf war and I love your idea for tracking down RSVP's! I may have to employ that! 3 agree Reply That location is amazing! And my husband and I *almost* updated our facebook status during the ceremony (we talked about using that exact line) but I knew I didn't want to mess with my phone (I think my aunt had my purse….) LOVE the white knots and the expression of support during the ceremony. We did our expression of support on our programs. 1 agrees Reply I had goosebumps while reading this! Looks like everyone had a blast, and the pictures are absolutely gorgeous! 2 agree Reply Awesome! We have a large collection of nerf weapons that we're planning on bringing to our wedding. I hope our nerf war turns out as great as yours! 2 agree Reply Love the Nerf war! We did this in our hotel the night before, after our gam night rehearsal, and it was a blast! 1 agrees Reply I cannot even tell you how awesome this is! Your whole wedding was extremely touching and beautifully done! My fiance wants the nerf war so bad [like, has been talking about it before we even got engaged, bad] and we've been trying to figure it out. Can I ask if you were able to buy in bulk to save cost? Reply I don't know what it is about chair covers that makes brides go crazy! I have to keep talking myself off the ledge about not having them, even though I have never in my life noticed or cared if a chair was covered. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone! Your wedding looks like so much fun. I absolutely love it. Congratulations!! Reply Totally related post: Am I still offbeat if I love white chair covers? (Hint: YES.) 😛 Reply The picture of you and him with the cupcakes (is it supposed to be like the dog with the Dog-Super-Nanny gif?) is outstanding. Congratulations! Reply Oh my glob, a Cecil tattoo! Your wedding is entirely fantastic but I think that tattoo is my favorite part. Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Participate in this conversation via emailGet only replies to your comment, the best of the rest, as well as a daily recap of all comments on this post. No more than a few emails daily, which you can reply to/unsubscribe from directly from your inbox. No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.