All weddings are awesome — not just mine #Philosophizing#feeling competitive#special snowflake May 16 | Guest post by Sabrina Thanks to Tom Couture for submitting this photo. I am confused. I am confused by the attitude that surrounds weddings and costs and ideas and things. Maybe that's what makes me offbeat — I have this habit of loving everyone and being insanely optimisic even when it's probably not warranted. I give second chances. I love and trust until given reason not to. Every new person I meet, and can carry at least a five minute conversation, I say is my new best friend. I write a daily blog about something happy that happened to me that day. My problem lies in all the intense bitchiness that lives in the wedding world. "My wedding is better than yours because of such-and-such" and all of the things that go into such a feeling. I was reading a blog where a woman commented that she had a courtroom wedding and blames opulent weddings for the high divorce rate. Then there are the haters on both sides of the world. My wedding (and marriage) are better than yours because I chose to have a BBQ instead of a five course sit down meal. [At Offbeat Bride, we call this "one-lowsmanship" -Eds] My wedding (and marriage) are better than yours because I paid for three party rooms and the ghost of Louis Armstrong to sing our first song. Can we all just chill the fuck out and be nice to each other for like… five and a half seconds? If I was rich, I can't say that I wouldn't spend $50,000 on a wedding. I'd like to say I wouldn't, but ideas change when disposable income does. My beautiful made of honor will be in our less-than-$10,000 celebration and was recently the maid of honor at a $50,000 celebration. They did the whole spiel: Catholic mass ceremony in a church with friends, family, family friends, parent's business friends, people they've never known, country club, five course sit-down meal, uplighting, etc., etc. And you know what? That wedding? … Absolutely beautiful. The couple has been together for nearly ten years, and they earned every second of that celebration. Just because they did things differently than me doesn't make them any better or worse. It's just different. We're all awesome, beautiful, wonderful brides planning celebrations. We're not all that different — we're just throwing different parties. The wedding industrial complex that tells us we need to lose weight, invite people we hate, and buybuybuybuybuy is slightly evil, yes. But it's not all evil, and the women who don't read Offbeat Bride are brides too. We all are. We're all awesome, beautiful, wonderful brides planning celebrations. There are bad apples in every bunch but mostly, we're not all that different — we're just throwing different parties. So I guess my issue is that everyone on every spectrum needs to realize that we can all get along. I promise. We really can. I love your wedding. Whoever you are. I love it. Whether it had all the bells and whistles or was private vows at the top of a mountain. Whether it had a DJ or an iPod. Whether it cost $200 or $200,000. It's one of most beautiful days in the history of ever. We don't need to be subtracting from other people's celebrations to help make ourselves feel better. We can appreciate everything even if it's nothing we would ever do in a million years. The girl with the big poofy dress, the fancy dinner, the expensive wine, the 14 bridesmaids? That's not me. But you know what? Her wedding is going to kick just as much ass as mine will because that's her celebration. If you can stand in that ceremony and say that the person across from you is the person that you're supposed to be across from on your wedding day — then nothing else matters. Your wedding is not a contest The dirty flip-side of "my wedding is too weird" is "my wedding isn't weird enough." Both sentiments make me sad because your wedding is not a contest. 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I love writing, designing, making crafty things, baking, and generally doing any project that will create a mess. I do not, however, like cleaning up those messes. I sleep with my fiance and a stuffed rabbit named Elvis. I'm almost always psyched to go for a run or do a bit of yoga. I am also equally as psyched to stuff my face with chicken wings and beer. http://fitlaughlove.com PREVIOUS Make festive ribbon wands instead of throwing confetti NEXT Teena & Eddie's colorful renaissance handfasting in the round Show/Hide comments [ 69 ] A sad fact of human nature: some people only feel tall when standing on someone else. Reply I think you're allowed to think your wedding is the best of all time, it's you're wedding! However, I agree, we should celebrate the awesomeness of all weddings from all walks of life, they allow us to better appreciate an experience unique to each of us. Reply Read more comments ‹ 1 2 Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. 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