The Offbeat Bride: Stacey, Spanish Teacher/Livery Owner
Date and location of wedding: Hill-top family farm in the mountains of VA — September 29, 2012
Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Our wedding was a product of the hard work of our family and close friends. We held it on my husband's family farm, and did most everything ourselves. Family grew the flowers, friends and family made the centerpieces and bouquets. Ben made the cake stand with a chainsaw and his forge. He even built the gazebo we got married under. It was truly a labor of love!
Our sweet dogs were in our wedding party. I wore a second-hand wedding dress that I got from recycledbride.com.
Our dessert table had yummy cheesecake and an assortment of homemade pies and cupcakes. We served pulled pork BBQ and home-brewed beer. For partying down, we had a bonfire and lots of lawn games, and I made a bunch of hula hoops. Many people — including Ben and I — camped out on the farm, which made for late-night fun.
Tell us about the ceremony: Our officiant was a family friend. We pieced our ceremony together by scouring the internet for sources to combine. We wrote some and our officiant wrote a little as well. It was a non-religious ceremony.
My brother-in-law played acoustic guitar and sang as the ceremony music, which meant a lot to us. We chose two readings for two good friends to read, and we also asked my mom and Ben's dad choose their own readings. We had a handfasting ceremony that was beautiful. We loved the symbolism of the handfasting binding us together.
Our biggest challenge: Since we had our wedding on a family farm, there were a lot of extra things to plan for. We had to rent Porta-Potties, tents, tables and chairs, silverware, glasses, beverage dispensers, etc. We had to procure enough tablecloths to cover the tables. We had to do all the yard work and grass mowing. In the end, it was all worth the effort.
My favorite moment: The speeches that my dad, my sister, and Ben's brother made. Everything was meaningful since it was all done by family!
My funniest moment: One of my bridesmaids drank a whole bottle of moonshine and passed out sitting around the bonfire. We had to wheel her in a wheelbarrow to her tent to go to sleep.
Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? I forgot the handfasting cord that I had made. But luckily our officiant, Amy, was wearing a scarf for back-up.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? The most important thing that was reinforced to me is how important a support network is. I can't describe how wonderful it makes me feel to know how much our family and friends love us. All the hard work they put in to our wedding made it wonderful.
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?
- Dress: I wore a second-hand wedding dress from recycledbride.com
- Photography: Bob Donnan
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