Jess & Martyn's inclusive budget-friendly wedding

By on Jan. 24th
Wedding April2011

Photos by John Coles

The Offbeat Bride: Jess, Adult Nurse

Her offbeat partner: Martyn, Democratic services officer

Date and location of wedding: St. Mary's Guildhall, Coventry, UK — April 9, 2011

Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Not having a huge budget, we decided to keep costs as low as possible, whilst still throwing a big party. I have 35 cousins, who have started having babies, so we knew it would be a lot of people.

Wedding April2011

Wedding April2011

Wedding April2011

We DIYed as much as we could: I made the "yay" flags, invites, programs, and seating plan. There wasn't a theme per se, but there was a lot of green, and the centrepieces and table names were children's TV shows, LEGO, and Pick 'n' Mix sweets. The buttonholes were LEGO men that represented the personality of who wore it. Martyn was a pirate captain and Ben, his best man, was first mate.

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Our cake was gifted from my auntie. When we told her what we'd like, she really took up the challenge. It was a three-tier green cake that represented Switzerland, where we'd visited six months previously. There were cute cows dotted around, with our tent at the top and us hiking up to see the view.

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Tell us about the ceremony: The program had an excerpt from the Velveteen Rabbit at the top, explaining what love is and means to people. We couldn't find a place for it in the ceremony itself, but we wanted everyone to hear it, so we plonked it at the top and it worked really well.

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Martyn's sister read Edward Monkton's "A Lovely Love Story" about a grumpy male dinosaur who finds his mate and thaws into loveliness. This is fairly accurate for us since Martyn has always been a grumpy boy.

We wrote our own vows, which were filled with gentle humour and love. I promised to listen to him talk politics, and he promised to always hold my hand.

Wedding April2011

While we signed the register, one of our friends sang a couple of songs in the background: Bob Dylan's "I Want You" and "All I Want is You" by Barry Louis Polisar, better known as the opening credits to Juno. Finalising our marriage to harmonica-based tunes was lovely.

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Our biggest challenge: I think the biggest challenge was getting across what we wanted to do. No one expected me to be in a floor-length ivory gown (it's just not me), but when I told people we were having LEGO-themed decor at the reception, we were met with "but it's just not right!" It seemed that they were quite happy for me to be myself day-to-day, but then I had to conform for the wedding, otherwise how would it be a real wedding?

Wedding April2011

We overcame all the "what?!?"-related questions by just not telling people all the details ahead of time. There was no need for them to know that my dress was green, or that we don't like confetti, or there's a high chance that the Volkswagen van we borrowed to get around could break down if someone looked at it wrong. They were our decisions, and it worked out just fine.

Wedding April2011

My favorite moment: Right before the wedding ceremony I had a massive attack of nerves, and I wasn't sure why. My dad took me to one side and calmed me down with a pep talk that only he could give. He doesn't really do emotion, so it was lovely sharing that one moment with him.

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Note the epic drawing of Lisa's wedding from The Simpsons!

In the invites, we'd included blank postcards for people to RSVP, requesting a doodle, drawing, poem, anything! They were then displayed at the reception for everyone to enjoy.

Wedding April2011

Wedding April2011

My bouquet was made of flowers brought by all my female relatives: aunts, cousins, grandmas, and second cousins, put together by my sister right before the ceremony. She only had about half an hour to do it, but she rose to the challenge amazingly. It was truly beautiful and I cherished it.

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Hot British boy band? Nope, just hot wedding guests.

My advice for Offbeat Brides: Listen to advice. You don't have to act on it, but you might just find a gem out there or an angle that you didn't think of. Don't write off someone's opinion just because their style isn't what you would want.

Wedding April2011

What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? I learned to pick my battles. There was some drama regarding who would walk me down the aisle: my dad or both my mum and dad, and if we could dance down the aisle. After talking it through and trying not to shout at each other, we understood each others' side and compromised by not dancing. After putting all my energy into negotiating having both mum and dad walk with me, it was not worth starting again with the dancing. Looking back, we both got something we wanted and the arguments were forgotten.

Wedding April2011

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Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!

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