The Offbeat Bride: Kim, Material Buyer
Her offbeat partner: Doug, UW Student
Date and location of wedding: EM Fine Art Gallery, Seattle, WA — August 31, 2012
Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Doug and I enjoy eating street food and wanted a laid-back atmosphere, so we decided to have a food truck cater our wedding. This led us to hiring Skillet Street Food as our caterer and bartender. The food truck was a silver Airstream that was parked in front of the art gallery where we chose to have our wedding ceremony and reception. They served the food in paper boats and alcohol in jars.
The art gallery where we chose to have our wedding and ceremony, EM Fine Art Gallery, is a space made for moving around and mingling cocktail-style. We made sure there were some tables and chairs available for guests who wanted to eat sitting down.
Since I'm a buyer for a living, I like to find deals and ways I can save money. Here are several ways I cut costs:
- I wore a bridesmaid's dress as my wedding gown
- We had our wedding ceremony on a Friday night
- We made sure to choose a venue that allowed us to bring our own alcohol and hire our own caterer
- We bought our flowers at a local market, Pike Place Market.
- For decor, my sister and I used empty wine bottles as vases and wrapped ribbon to hide the label.
Tell us about the ceremony: We had a simple unity candle ceremony. For the wedding party, we had one maid of honor, my sister Krista, one best man, Doug's brother Jeff, and two flower girls. During the processional, we had my mom walk down in a purple traditional Filipino dress with Doug's dad and stepmom. My mom was excited to wear that gown!
We incorporated "The Hands Ceremony" wording, which a friend of mine found:
These hands are the hands of your best friend, young and strong, that will work along your side, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, and as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.
These hands are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.
These hands are the hands that will provide head rubs after a long day or put socks on your feet when you're not feeling well.
These hands are the hands of two driven individuals, but when joined, create an unpenetrable force of love and security.
Our biggest challenge: The guest list was a huge challenge for us. We were trying to plan a budget wedding in six months. We had to set some hard and fast rules to help control costs, while at the same time make sure everybody we love dearly was invited. One decision we made was to not invite co-workers and children. We allowed children of family members, and we ended up bending the rule for less than a handful of folks.
My favorite moment: I loved the toasts from our family members. Their words of humor, love, and wisdom really moved us. Additionally, my dad potentially has Multiple Sclerosis, and he's been having a difficult time standing or walking for periods of time. In preparation for our wedding day, he went on a lot of walks to help build up his strength. When the day came, I was really touched when he was able to walk down the aisle with no problem, stand and share a toast without losing his train of thought, and twirl me around during the father/daughter dance. I was so proud of my dad!
Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? Our wedding wouldn't have happened without the help of close family and friends. My brother-in-law was the DJ and a good friend of ours was the MC. I was afraid that the timing of music and the schedule wasn't going to flow well since they hadn't talked about it before the wedding. There were some mishaps here and there, but in the end, it didn't matter and we didn't care.
My advice for Offbeat Brides: Pretend you are super glued to your partner and don't leave each other's side. During the wedding, each of you will be pulled in many directions, and it's easy to spend most of the night without each other if you're not careful.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Have someone outside your circle of friends and family coordinate the day of the wedding. That way they can relax and you leave it to a professional who has done this before.
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?
- Bride's earrings and necklace: JCrew
- Groom's suit: Ludlow suit at JCrew
- Flowers: Dahlia's from Pike Place Market
- Hair and makeup: My sister, Krista Clanahan
- Caterer and bartending: Skillet Street Food
- Venue: EM Fine Art Gallery
- Photographer: Peter Wagner
- Boutonnieres: Christina Ross
- Men's green plaid ties: The Tie Bar
- Mason jars: Ace Hardware
- Guestbook: Michael's
Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!