The Offbeat Bride: Alysa, (Freelance Illustrator)
Her offbeat partner: Ansell, part time filmmaker
Date and location of wedding: My in-laws' front yard, Buxton, ME — September 8, 2012
Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We tried to incorporate a lot of our favorite things, such as our favorite colors (his: purple, mine: green). Our cake topper had little action figures of Rogue and Gambit from X-Men, since that is really the reason we started talking to each other way back in high school. Also repping our geek pride, I made a TARDIS as our card box. We really wanted to make it fun for everyone, so we also included a bounce house and sno-cone machine!
We saved a TON of money just using Ansell's parents' house as the venue. We also made friends with the local meat market, Hoggy's, and turned our event into a BBQ/potluck sort of thing. People could bring dishes if they wanted to contribute to the party. One of my friends/bridesmaids made our cake for us. Friends and family really helped out a lot!
Tell us about the ceremony: We didn't want a long ceremony, so we really kept it short and sweet. We also added a little pagan blessing in there, since I am pagan, and Ansell is very open-minded.
Our biggest challenge: My biggest challenge was accepting the fact that Mom wasn't going to be there. She passed away in 2009 and it's been really hard getting over it, and I probably never will. I was sad for the whole week before, but while the wedding happened, I was as happy as could be because I knew mom would be smiling down on me.
My favorite moment: Mostly spending time with friends and family who we don't usually get to see. Some of my mom's friends from Minnesota even came. It meant a lot to see them, since my mom couldn't be there (even though I know she was there in spirit for the whole thing).
My funniest moment: We lost power a few times! It was super windy that day, and losing power made the bounce house deflate, then inflate, then deflate again!
Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? I actually didn't expect anything disastrous. I made it a point not to. It was tough at first, but eventually I just let things happen how they were meant to, though the loss of power several times did take me by surprise!
My advice for Offbeat Brides: Keep a checklist! If I didn't have one, nothing would have gotten done.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Don't sweat the small stuff… most people don't notice or care.
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