Catherine & Paul's crafty and nerdy science museum wedding #Real Weddings: Global#atheist#crafty wedding#DIY#diy bouquet#dungeons and dragons#fascinator#geeky#humanist#kilts#museum#origami#paper flowers#role playing games#scotland#vow examples August 10 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride We may have featured elements of Tribesmaid Creepingminx's wedding one, two or… three times before. And now that we've got the full story, you'll see why we couldn't help ourselves. Photos by Julie Tinton The offbeat bride: Catherine, Quality and Process Analyst (and Tribesmaid) Her offbeat partner: Paul, Web Developer Date and location of wedding: Our Dynamic Earth, Edinburgh, Scotland — April 13, 2012 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We tell people that our theme was "stuff we like" as that is really the best way to describe our day. We wanted to have fun and do things that we enjoy, which is why a candy floss machine and a magician were at the top of the list. We both grew up in Irish Catholic families but we are both atheists and knew we wanted to find our own path and create our own traditions. In Scotland, Humanist ceremonies are legally recognised and are a wonderful alternative to the usual church or registry options. Tell us about the ceremony: The Humanist ceremony allowed Paul and me much more flexibility in what we wanted to say during our ceremony. References to Battlestar Galactica, Dungeons & Dragons, science, our cat, and the zombie apocalypse were all included. We opted for a simple format for our vows. We knew it would be difficult to recite large pieces of text to each other or even repeat after the celebrant. We worked out what things we should always aim to do within our relationship to help keep us strong, happy, and healthy, and this is what we came up with: Paul and Catherine… Do you promise to always be friends and love each other, until the heat death of the universe? We do! Do you promise to help each other not to take yourselves too seriously, and try to laugh every day (but not always at the cat)? We do! Do you promise to share the good times and support each other in the bad, caring for and comforting one another, always being patient and understanding? We do! Do you promise to recognise your strengths and accept your weaknesses, encouraging and inspiring each other to do, and be, better? We do! And finally, do you promise that, in the event of a zombie apocalypse, if the other should become infected, you will not hesitate? We do! Our readings were excerpts from "The Pale Blue Dot" by Carl Sagan and "He Wishes for the Clothes of Heaven" by William Butler Yeats. Don't be afraid to look for readings in strange places. Our biggest challenge: Project management! Paul and I are both procrastinators. In the first two months of our engagement, we had booked our venue and then suddenly we realised we had to get everything else ready for that date. We struggled to get our heads around the complexity of planning an event like this — the closest we managed was a housewarming party! Sitting down together to talk about what we wanted from it was great. It meant we were on the same page and knew what work was ahead. We split the main responsibilities in half and used Google Docs to keep track of the budget and our plans. Communication is key to a relationship and even more so when undertaking something as stressful as wedding planning. We feel like our relationship got stronger and we become better communicators because of it. I didn't think we could feel closer, but working together on this showed me that we are an awesome team and we can do anything we put our minds to. My favorite moment: Walking down the aisle was a big one. I was outside waiting for a few minutes before going in and I was getting impatient, telling people to get a move on. As soon as I stepped inside and saw my friends and family I turned into an emotional mess. Seeing Paul helped ground me again — it felt like I hadn't seen him in a thousand years. He looked amazing, and the look on his face just made my heart melt. The ceremony was great fun and I loved the fact that we all laughed and cried during it. It's well-known amongst our friends that Paul always rolls low in D&D. We wanted to make a joke about it and ended up with this: In the knowledge that she is probably going to win, Catherine has asked that they roll a d20 to see who exchanges rings first. However as most of you will know, Paul always rolls low in Dungeons and Dragons so they figured that wasn't fair. They therefore have done something that shows us all why their relationship is so strong. They compromised and decided that the only fair option was Rock, Scissors, Paper. We drew on the first try and the Paul won the second round! Lastly, there is a tradition in Ireland where the youngest member of the family gives the bride a lucky horseshoe. I had forgotten all about it until my niece came striding up to me with one after the ceremony. It was really sweet! My funniest moment: I wanted the poem "He Wishes for the Clothes of Heaven" by Yeats to be read during the ceremony. I was chatting with my sister (also my matron of honour) about it. It's a powerful poem and needed someone with a great voice and timing to pull it off. She volunteered to read it for us as it was one of her favourites too, and she understood what I was looking for. When she got up to read it, she managed to only get the first line out before bursting into tears. We all just laughed and cried as she made her way through it. Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? Chocolate fountains and candy buffets are pretty popular in the UK, but hiring a candy floss machine is much harder. We could only find one company in Scotland that provided the service. I think dealing with them before the event was the most stressful part of the planning. If we had another option we would have moved on from them as soon as problems started to appear. We kept with them, but really worried about the service we would get. Thankfully, the owner did everything he could to put the problems right and they showed up on time and were a great hit with guests. My advice for Offbeat Brides: Don't compare, don't compete — even in your head. Having confidence in yourself and your ideas is very helpful. If you don't have confidence, fake it! When the day has passed, you will laugh at yourself for getting so stressed out about things. I honestly feel silly about some of the meltdowns I had. Try to not take yourself too seriously and remember that you are not a special snowflake! What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? This was the first time Paul and I were responsible for a large project. At the beginning I was afraid to ask for things or push for our ideas. Once we got comfortable with the fact that we were the clients (the people signing the cheques) we felt much better about approaching vendors with realistic requests. If you are polite and friendly, you will get a lot further with people than if you act demanding and unreasonable. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Celebrant: Gary Smith Venue: Our Dynamic Earth Photographer: Julie Tinton String Quartet: Cairn String Quartet DJ: Music played through Spotify PA: Pegasus Sound & Light, Edinburgh Wedding dress: Charlotte Balbier "Loren" Bolero: Etsy seller Mary And Angelika Hairpiece: Jenny at Etsy seller Kanzahi Hime Shoes: Irregular Choice "Flick Flack" Makeup artist: Lucy Gourlay, LG Makeup Suit: Custom-made by A Suit That Fits Guy's ties: Etsy seller Scatterbrain Ties Groom's tie clip: Mark Wengryn Cake toppers: Etsy seller Spacecowsmith Invitations: Royal Steamline Magician: Lorenzo Novani, "The Magic Renz" Flowers: Handmade by the bride Chalkboards and centerpieces: Handmade by the bride and groom Paper cranes: Folded and strung by the bride and groom Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! This post features Offbeat Vendors! Check out their vendor listing to see how they cater to Offbeat Brides: Royal Steamline Get your daily dose of Offbeat AWESOME Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Traditional Swedish Smörgåstårta instead of cake? NEXT Wedding duds for your iPhones Show/Hide comments [ 24 ] Your wedding looks stunning! I'm absolutely in love with the flowers. What kind of paper did you use to make them? 1 agrees Reply Thank you My bouquet was made from our old copy of The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. I used a mix of watercolours to turn some of the pages red before cutting out the pieces I needed. The other bouquets were made from Spider-man comics and Ordnance Survey maps. 1 agrees Reply They look fantastic!!! Reply I LOVE your vows, and if you don't mind, I may borrow them (with a few tweaks). I also think that you, your dress, flowers, and everything are beautiful. We are also doing paper flowers, though ours are mostly kusadama flowers. Reply I've seen some stunning kusudama bouquets. I thought about mixing some of them into mine but decided not to add additional origami to our DIY list! Reply Your shoes are some of the most fabulous I've ever seen. I love them. Reply They are very pretty to look at but they are not very practical to wear. There is very little cushioning in Irregular Choice shoes and I ended up in bare feet once the ceremony ended. My back-up shoes were adorable little red ankle boots by Hush Puppies. They were much more comfortable! 1 agrees Reply Honest shoe reviews are something off-beat in themselves. Thanks for your honesty! I covet all their shoes and it's good to know that they're on the "eye candy" end of the spectrum 3 agree Reply Oh my god, your SHOES!!!!!!! *squee!!* Reply OMG all of these details are incredible. I LOVE LOVE LOVE the bouquets! Reply Catherine, your dress is STUNNING! It's one of the best I've ever seen. 3 agree Reply I was very lucky as this dress was from the previous season and was able to get it at a discount. I think this style can be difficult for many body types but thankfully it looks totally rocking for hourglass ladies. Reply Oh my god, everything about this wedding is just adorable! I love the paper cranes, the shoes, the everything! You guys look like you were having a ball Reply Gorgeous! Love the little red jacked (with fabric flowers worked in) to add some color to the ivory gown. It really makes the outfit unique! Reply I knew that I wanted a white dress with a splash of red. I found the Etsy seller through a recommendation from the Tribe. I got a lot of comments about it on the day too. Reply Ah! The vow about the zombies! I want a zombie apocalypse reference, but one that's less blunt than "I promise if you get bitten I will be the one to shoot you in the head." I may steal yours… Reply Yeah, we weren't sure how to word that one to begin with and my mum had to explain what it meant to my dad afterwards! Thankfully the rest of the guests got it. I'm really glad our celebrant had a sense of humour and was more than happy for us to write the ceremony how we wanted. Reply The photos are stunning! Reply Everything is so beautiful and full of love! You have some really great advice for those planning a wedding too. I definitely have been laughing at myself for some of the things I stressed about. Reply OMGosh, those flowers! You did a fantastic job. Is there a template or tutorial somewhere on the web? 1 agrees Reply This one from the Blog is similar: http://offbeatbride.com/2009/06/diy-paper-flower-bouquet These are the tutorials I used: http://www.scribd.com/doc/42701967/Shaped-Rose-Tutorial One video, one text. I used a 3 inch flower shaped hole-punch but I've seen other people use a template and cut out by hand. Reply Thanks a bunch! Reply I love, love, love this wedding. Such a beautiful couple! Your red shrug is divine, btw. And your vows are so special! Congratulations!! Reply What a lovely couple & a lovely wedding. The Pale Blue Dot reading = WIN. Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Participate in this conversation via email No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.