Shannon & Tim's Neo-Victorian steampunk wedding #Real Weddings: Western US#arizona#at home#bearded groom#corset#multi-colored dress#ring warming#secular#short engagement#steampunk#tattooed bride#top hat August 2 | Offbeat Editors Photos by Stephanie Ashby The offbeat bride: Shannon, Retail Store Manager and Zumba Fitness Instructor Her offbeat partner: Tim, Sprint Technical Consultant Date and location of wedding: Cave Creek Museum in Cave Creek, AZ — November 11, 2011 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We had only a few months to plan, on a practically non-existent budget. We chose a steampunk theme, with some Neo-Victorian flare. We got to work on a ton of DIY projects as a couple, which was a lot of fun. I cannot tell you how many Nerf guns and parts I had all over the house waiting to be primed, painted, and put back together for some reception fun. I was pretty adamant about personalizing this wedding and not following any traditions that weren't important to us since this is wedding number two for both of us, and both previous weddings were too traditional for our tastes. Tell us about the ceremony: Our friend Allison was our officiant, and it was her first wedding. She was amazing, and exactly what our ceremony needed. It opened up with some lines from Phantom of the Opera, and also had some readings from Mr. Rogers and Vicki Feaver. We wrote our own declarations of love and vows. My declarations of love: He has unconditional love for me, even when I don't deserve it. He has a kind and generous heart, and he supports me in my many endeavors. I'm a jack-of-all-trades, but a master of none. His declarations of love: She sees the best in me and what I can become. She has a smile that can brighten even my darkest day, and she has the ability to be positive in the most hectic situations. We also included a ring warming ceremony wherein family and friends could say a thought or prayer for us as they passed around our rings. It was deeply personal and moving. Steampunk ring box! Our biggest challenge: The biggest challenge was how to write our ceremony. We had some trouble finding good examples. Luckily, we had an amazing officiant who put together one of the most heartfelt ceremonies I've ever heard. Don't miss her birdcage 'bouquet!' My favorite moment: Hearing the vows my husband wrote completely on his own was definitely so powerful and meaningful. And the fact that this big, burly man with a giant beard couldn't stop himself from getting emotional. My funniest moment: The aisle of the church was extremely small, and I had a giant hoop skirt. That hoop skirt got in everyone's way. And it continued at the reception, where people kept getting their ankles hit, and couldn't figure out why — that is, until I walked by. Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? Having over 70 people in my house for the reception was a terrifying thought. I was stressed about having enough of everything: chairs, tables, food, seating, etc. But my 1400-square-foot home ended up being just fine. It was a gorgeous night in Phoenix, lots of people milled around outside, while family and old friends got to see each other again and catch up. It was wonderful to see all the people I loved all in one place. What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Time management! We were up until the wee hours of the morning the day of the wedding trying to finish a million projects. If we had taken more time earlier, we wouldn't have been so rushed at the end. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photography: Stephanie Ashby Corset: Etsy seller LouiseBlack Skirt and bustle set: Lovechild Boudoir Top: Body Central Shoes: Target Hat and hoop skirt: Easley's Costume Shop. The hat originally had black roses, which I took off to add red roses instead. Jewelry (the clockwork owl necklace and gear plugs): made by my husband, Tim Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! allowFullScreen="true" flashvars="offsite=true&lang=en-us&page_show_url=photos%2Fshannontoboggan%2Fsets%2F72157628504694159%2Fshow%2F&page_show_back_url=photos%2Fshannontoboggan%2Fsets%2F72157628504694159%2Fshow%2F&set_id=72157628504694159&jump_to=" width="800" height="500"> Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Wedding dress code: 5 clever ways to tell guests what to wear NEXT Display your photo sharing info cards in a camera-shaped holder Toggle comments [ 4 ] Your corset, wow! The ring box, awesome! Your declarations of love totally melted my heart, what a beautiful wedding. 2 agree Reply Uunnnff! There is nothing about this not to love. I got all teary reading your declarations. Many many congratulations to you both! 1 agrees Reply love your rings omg so cool 1 agrees Reply Oh my goodness, very awesome! I love all the pictures! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked * Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. 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