What to do when an uninvited guest RSVPs for the wedding you didn't invite them to attend
Friends & Family Advice
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on January 19, 2012
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I'd love to come to your wedding! Thank you so much for not inviting me! Photo courtesy of Photo Madly's intentionally awkward wedding photos
So, we've talked about How to tell your guests they don't get a +1. We've gone over 10 blunt-but-loving ways to tell people they're not invited to your wedding. But what happens when a non-guest takes it a step further, and actually RSVPs to your wedding? You know, the wedding you never invited them to. What happens then?
First: don't dodge
Clearly, there's been a misunderstanding. There are very few people who are rude enough that they bully their way into your wedding by RSVPing when they weren't invited. Not saying that there aren't folks like that, of course — but chances are pretty good that somehow this person really did think they were invited, likely because of something a family member or friend said to them.
The worst thing you can do when there's been a misunderstanding is propagate it by not being up-front in how you deal with it. Yes, it's going to suck, but you can't put it off. When you hear from Aunt Madge that she's coming to the wedding you didn't invite her to, you need to address the situation quickly and directly. Don't put it off, and don't use platitudes.
Second: stand your ground
Be genuine, but be firm. Here's an example of something you could say:
Oh, no! I'm so sorry: there's clearly been a miscommunication. Due to budget/venue size/whatever limitations, we're keeping the guestlist quite small. This means we just can't invite everyone we'd like, as much as we'd love to — we do not have room for you on the guestlist. I'm so terribly sorry that we can't extend an invitation, and even more sorry about this miscommunication. I hope you can understand."
You can also try genuinely expressing your surprise. Own up the awkwardness of the situation, while also standing firm: THIS IS NOT HAPPENING.
Oh my goodness, this is catching me off-guard! This is awkward and difficult, and I'm so sorry to have to say this, but we don't have space on our limited guestlist for all the family and friends we'd love to have there — we aren't able to invite you to the wedding. I'm so sorry — I feel just awful about this situation, and I wish there's something I could do, but the venue size/catering arrangements/whatever are fixed, and I'm afraid it's just not going to work. I hope you can understand.
Third: be gracious and appreciative
Remember that these people want to come to your wedding because, well, THEY PROBABLY LOVE YOU. Sure, sometimes there are weird family power dynamics at play that have nothing to do with you, but ultimately, these people are people who care about you — and who presumably you care about, too. (Otherwise, you'd just say "Fuck off, you weren't invited.")
Find as many ways as possible to be loving, appreciative, and gracious in your conversation. Repeating, "It means so much to both of us that you want to be at the wedding" and "It's so disappointing that this won't work out — I'm so glad you got in touch" can go a long way towards softening the blow of what boils down to, "You can't come."
Now, I know there are some of you newlyweds still reading — for those of you who dealt with this kind of thing, how did you handle it? Copy 'n' paste quotes are especially useful!
About Ariel Meadow Stallings
Author of Offbeat Bride: Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides, Ariel acts as the publisher of all the Offbeat Empire websites. She lives, loves, and dorks out hard in Seattle, WA.
Anali said
This makes me think of my friend who ago married a few years ago, they wanted to keep their wedding cheap so their idea was that certain people were invited to the ceremony and the dance, but not the dinner. (which to me is just confusing and doesn't make sense, maybe it's just me)
Anyways, he was so angry that some of these people who weren't supposed to be there for the dinner showed up anyways(I think 3 people in total) and to this day still bitches that they had to pay for those people's dinners.
How were they supposed to know they weren't there for dinner, you had place cards out for them? I feel like my friend was in the wrong on this one to be honest.
Shaya said
This post inspired me to go through my guest list to have A's and B's. Our first summer together some friends of ours got married, and I was little surprised to not receive and invite to the wedding since everyone else in our circle was going. I assumed it was a budget and space thing and I wasn't worried. I found out my fiance had been planning on attending and I explained to him about the invite. He happened to run into the groom at a party shortly before the wedding, and when asked if we were attending (since we hadn't RSVPed) told him we hadn't been invited. The groom was shocked, and looking through his bag for the "spare invite" he carried with him realized that he had been mistakenly carrying OUR invite in his computer bag to show people (another friend had designed it and he was bragging about their skills). We attended the wedding and had a great time.
ElleBee said
We had people write in names of extra guests on their RSVPs. Even though I literally put the names of the people invited and a column for yes and a column for no, and left no room for writing in extra names. They still did it. I know this is somewhat like having to tell people that they don't get plus ones, but when it's after they've decided to self-invite someone, even though you've gone to great lengths to explain why there is no room for plus ones, that's super rough.
It made me insanely angry. I couldn't invite some of my own more-distant family members, but my husband's 16 year old cousin's highschool boyfriend, who was not invited, gets to attend? I don't think so. This happened several times, all on my husband's side. I asked him to deal with it, because I had not even met these family members yet. It was a huge fight, that actually made us consider calling off the wedding. He was very disappointed when some of his cousins decided they wouldn't come after finding out that their uninvited write-in dates couldn't come.
My explanation to him was this:
1) It's awkward, but you didn't create the situation. They did. These people were being rude, and put you in a very difficult situation, so they must not have cared/thought much about you when doing that in the first place.
2) It would be rude to the extra person, not even knowing that they weren't invited and having resentful feelings directed at them during the wedding.
3) If the cousin decided not to show up because their date couldn't come, then they obviously weren't very committed to coming to the wedding to support you, and were only coming because it sounded like a good time. I'd prefer to have the room filled with people who are there because I love them and want to share in my day, not people I don't even know who are only concerned with free booze.
PlanningAhead said
Yet another reason why we're having a booze-free wedding. With no dancing.
We want to see the people who really WANT to be there and witness our ceremony even if we don't have a big bash (although we'll do our best to make it simple and inexpensive for them, and serve food and cake, and talk to them like gracious hosts), not those who just want to have a night out and would be on the fence if there was no bar.
Amy said
This post and all of the comments have been super-helpful!
My mother has a "more the merrier! invite the mailman!" attitude to parties, which is just fine for her barbecues, but is not what I want or can afford for my wedding.
I think sharing my guest list with her was really important to ensure that she's aware of who is invited and doesn't misspeak and accidentally invite someone. (Plus, my wedding is on the other side of the country, where I live, so she's been using the excuse of "Oh, you know Amy! She is having a small destination wedding" whenever she feels awkward about not inviting someone."
Fortunately, after I explained our criteria for the guest list, my mom has been pretty cool about me not inviting the vast majority of her cousins and friends.
Our guests must meet these four standards:
- Do I actually know this person? (Her potential guest list had relatives from Europe who I have never met.) Do they know us as a couple?
- Have I seen this person in recent years?
- Am I close with this person?
- Would I be happy if this person came to my wedding?
The comments do have me a little nervous about the online RSVP form that I'll be using on my wedding site. I think I'll just have to include very clear language, especially because half our guests will receive mail invites and half will receive Paperless Post (we did a survey to see who'd prefer an evite).
Sarah said
I've only been 'officially engaged'/planning for a week and I've already had at least half a dozen friends from school pull me aside to 'make sure they were invited to the wedding'. Add to that the nightmarishly long guest wish list my future MIL is preparing, and I think we have a perfect recipe for this article to be useful.
If it helps anyone else, my response to 'confirmation that so-n-so would be invited' is "As much as I view my school friends as family, we're on a very tight budget so I feel uncomfortable making any promises that we might not be able to afford to keep." It's worked well for me so far, since all my college friends are just as broke as me. Hope this helps someone!!!
Jay said
I'm happy this was posted, because it's a issue that I foresee dealing with at our wedding.
My dad's wife is a very difficult person to be around, and we have had serious issues with each other in the past. We are not currently having issues in large part because I have minimised contact, but in an ideal world I would not like to invite an emotionally abusive woman to our wedding.
My question is if anyone has had experiences with refusing to invite parents or their partners to their wedding, and how they've handled it.
Susan said
Do you want to invite your father and not his wife, or neither? How large of a wedding are you having? If you're having a very small wedding, then it might be easier not to invite her, your reason being that you're not close to her. But otherwise it might be tough. My fiance is not inviting his father and his current wife, but he broke contact with him a year and a half ago, in part because of his wife. The wife is very disrespectful, and my fiance's brother refused to let her see their baby after a big conflict, and their father refuses to go without her, so their son now doesn't know his grandfather at all. So if you want to have a relationship with your father definitely consider what would happen to that if you don't invite her. If you do decide to invite them hopefully you can seat them far away from you and try to put them with people she may get along with or at least won't fight with! Good luck!
Rachel said
I feel your pain truly, my stepmother is crazy. Her and I had a horrible falling out about a year and a half ago. However recently her and I have been doing well. Her and my father split up again it was a normal thing. So I went off on her the last time. I had more then enough of it, needless to say they got back together, always do. When they did I said things were not back to normal with her and I. That we had to start over to the point I didn't even want a hug hello. I don't know if its what I said or us restarting but we have been great longer now then since they have been together.
Talking to her about both of your issues is a good but not so easy conversation. Another option invite her because your dad will want her there and you don't have to spend time with her there.
Veronica said
The guest list is one of the biggest argument points between my mom and me. She and my dad are covering the cost, so she gets a significant say in guest list, but I'm still a little terrified at the number of people she's planning on inviting. Not counting any family friends or any of my FH and I's friends, the total she has is 415. These are all people who are non-negotiable. I probably don't know most of them. My FH and I's thoughts of having a small wedding (because we are both really shy and private people) has basically gone completely out the window. Le sigh.
I wish there was a way I could convince her to edit her guest list, but so far she's not budging.
Sarah said
415?! Holy shit!
No offence but if it were me I'd tell them to keep their money and I'd have my small wedding. 415 people from one side is madness!
Jenny said
You took the words right out of my mouth! If all I could afford were a trip to the courthouse and a nice dinner out with five friends, I'd rather do that and forfeit all the "big wedding" hoopla if it meant that my fiance and I got to make the decisions about our day. This mom sounds like she's trying to live vicariously through the daughter, and that ain't right.
Susan said
Yeah that is crazy!
Is there a way to discuss with her that the point of this wedding is to celebrate the two of you as a couple, and the lives you've built together, so it only makes sense to invite people who are a part of that life together, which doesn't include people you haven't even met.
If she really cares about the two of you, I would hope that she would come to understand that it is about what the two of you want, not her.
Of course you'll work together and compromise, but the two of you need a definite say.
Maybe you should consider not having her pay for the wedding and do something small for yourselves instead. Even if you don't have a traditional reception, if it would make you happier.. consider it. Another option could be to do the intimate thing another time, and let her throw the big party if that really makes her happy, but have what you want too. Or maybe compromise on having an intimate ceremony, and then a large reception.
You don't want to look back in 20 years and regret it. Of course all that matters is that the two of you are married and people you love are there to share it with you, but you definitely don't want to be unhappy on your wedding day!
Good luck
Susan said
I can definitely relate to this! And I am guilty of being someone afraid of confrontation and I know we have a problem and I haven't said anything about it. We have a close group of friends from college, and there's one person who was the roommate of one of one of my bridesmaids and she came along with big group things for several years, now we only see her when she gets invited to big group get-togethers, and neither my fiance or I really care for her (Ok, he can't stand her). I never initiate contact with her, but she's the type of person to send you a message just because she's bored. Anyway, we were at a big group together this summer and she asked me when the wedding was, so I told her, and then she said she needed to know because she needed to put in for the day off at work. Ack. We weren't going to invite her. And a lot of our friends think we should be nice to her because she's a mutual friend, and I feel bad now not inviting her because she assumes she's invited, but I know that my fiance will be upset if she's there because he can't stand her. But I'm so anti-confrontational that it's been months and I've been afraid to say anything to her. I don't know if she realizes she hasn't gotten a Save the Date and others have.. and I dread telling her, though I know I should sooner than later… ugh. And I feel guilty and feel like we should just invite her, but like I said, my fiance can't stand her and he'll be complaining if she shows up and I don't want negative feelings on my wedding day!
Katie said
Hi,
I know this was a long time ago, but I was just wondering how this all worked out. We are in a similar situation. We have a group of friends, but I can't stand one girl (who is also a coworker of my fiance, and dating a friend/coworker of my fiance's…that's how she ended up in the group, before I knew I couldn't stand her!)
Either way, we are inviting our group of friends, but we are not inviting this couple. However, our friends talk about the wedding all the time, and one of the girls is my bridesmaid. The boyfriend of this girl has said to my fiance and I multiple times how much he is looking forward to our wedding and how much fun it will be. We haven't told them they aren't invited (under the guise of "no coworkers"). I try to drop little hints, like commenting that my list of just family is more than we plan on inviting to the whole wedding, or flat out saying we aren't inviting coworkers at all. The problem? The consider themselves friends first, coworkers second (for us, its the other way around!)
How did you handle it with this girl? Did she get the hint from the STDs. That's what I'm hoping happens here…
Patti said
Just a cautionary note. My niece, and her fiance, have been celebrating their engagement pretty joyously on their facebook pages. My nephew to be had a professional photographer take engagement pics that are gorgeous (so romantic!). They've posted about several of their planning activities. Immediately, various fb friends started posting "I want to come!" and "Be sure to invite me!", etc. Knowing they have a tight budget and will have to have a limited guest list I've wondered if this isn't going to lead to some awkward conversations, particularly given they've each a few hundred "friends" and tons of relatives. I can't really offer any solutions to this, but wonder how etiquette is going to evolve to accommodate fb.
Ariel Meadow Stallings said
We've addressed the whole facebook + weddings thing:
http://offbeatbride.com/2011/0…d-weddings
More thoughts here:
http://offbeatbride.com/tag/social-network
Patti said
Thanks! Yes, and you did so wonderfully!
Cady said
Our crashers didn't RSVP before the wedding (since, after all, they weren't invited); they just showed up. I was annoyed, but we just shrugged it off. Some people we'd counted on didn't show up after all (death in the family, not rudeness), so we weren't short on food or anything, and even though it was rude, we dealt with MUCH worse that weekend, so in the big scheme of things it didn't seem so bad.
Lauren said
We had a small guest list of 25 people and no children. Hubby has 99 relatives on his dad's side (most in Mexico), so we def. had to limit it to only immediate family and a few close friends. However, right before the wedding, he suddenly tells me he saw one of his uncles at his dad's house and thought we should invite him (his dad's idea).
I was against it since I'd never heard of this uncle (who lives in the same city!), hubby hadn't seen him in years, and he obviously wasn't that important to our wedding considering hubby hadn't thought of him in the year of planning. Well, I caved and told him that was fine and sent them an invite (had to call FIL to find out his wife's name–should have been a sign they didn't need to be there).
Sooo day of the wedding their seats are empty. Super rude, but whatever, awkwardness solved. Or so I thought. They show up AFTER the freaking ceremony, during the pictures! Wait, wait, here's the best part…. with their kids AND their kids' DATES!!! UMMMMM, what?! +1s weren't allowed for anyone — MIL, best man, one of my girlfriends, etc!! (Our criteria was that they were married or we had to know them personally)
Our reception was at a bowling alley, and the lanes, shoes, food, etc. were reserved for only a certain #. I told hubby they couldn't stay and had his dad tell them there was no room. Okay, now problem solved, right? NOPE. We show up to the alley and BAM! there they all are. They paid to have their own lane. Why? Who knows… they didn't speak to us the entire night, no introductions, nothing… I don't even know any of their names!!! With such an intimate wedding, it was 1000x more awkward since they couldn't "blend" in the crowd. Still annoyed to this day.
Andrell said
Mine showed up anyways: my step sister-in-law said her kids were coming (met them once- at her wedding) period. This was 4 extra people.
Sanne said
This happened to me not once, but TWICE. The reason: I have about 30 first cousins. Both our budget and our personal wishes firmly capped our guest list at 75. We knew we were treading on dangerous ground, but I felt I had no choice but to, well, to make some choices.
The first time, I sent a carefully worded email, to the person, a teenaged cousin, as soon as I received her RSVP. She never responded – I think she was too mortified. We have communicated since then in a friendly way, however, so I think we've both recovered.
The second time, the person in question was another cousin who left my mother a voicemail THE NIGHT BEFORE THE WEDDING announcing he was on his way. Having a million things to do, I panicked and delegated returning his call to my mom. I really regret this. She called his mother instead of him, and was, well, a little indelicate. I feel I embarrassed and hurt both my cousin and his parents, and I wish I'd handled it myself – directly, honestly, and with compassion.
Meredith said
Really like this article, but there is a theme I've noticed in some of the offbeat bride articles that makes them a bit harder for me to implement. My wedding is NOT small. Both my fiance and I wanted a huge bash, so there will be around 250 people at my wedding. Even with a large number we have to be somewhat selective (250 is the max our reception venue will hold), there are still people (people we did theatre with in high school, college acquaintances, random church folk ect.) that we are not inviting. I'm pretty good at coming up with a nice, direct response to things like this, but it would be nice if one of the optional responses didn't fall back on the size of the guest list.
Amy said
I agree with you. I think that instead you can use the venue size in your response. That's what I've been doing with my 130ish-person venue.
Veruki said
I had two similar situations happen to us. Our rsvps had the max number of guests ( like ___ of 2 guest will attend)and someone actually scratched out the 2 and wrote in 3, and another person who "requested" an extra seat before sending in the rsvp. In both cases I flat out told them no and i didn't feel bad about it. The first person ended retracting their rsvp altogether, and the other came without the "extra". I also recently had a situation where someone came up to me at a family funeral and tried to make me feel guilty for not inviting them, and that they've been unable to let it go for the past 4 months and have been taking crap about it to anyone who will listen. Mind you, this person is neither related to me, or a friend of ours.
I've never been insulted or felt that someone was obligated to invite me to anything, but unfortunately many people feel otherwise
Susan said
I had been thinking of doing the same thing with the RSVPs- "_ out of 2" so we it would be clear and make things easier. At least you didn't have more people adding guests! I wonder if you'd have had more if you hadn't done it that way.
Since our guest list is only about 56 people, and only 38ish separate invites, I'm hoping we can pull off the Online-only RSVP. I've set it up on my website and the only way you can RSVP through it is to type in your name and it will check for it on our guest list, and then it should show up with only the names of the invited guests for that party and you can respond yes/no and enter dinner choice, and it's all integrated into our online guest list, and will gather all the dinner info for us easily into one list too… so I don't lose any invites
I'm hoping that will work out OK for us and keep us from having any unexpected guests! 
Ann said
My future mother-in-law has put a date for her brother (a widower) on our guest list. I have taken the date off as my fiance's uncle is not seeing anyone. I have a feeling the date topic is going to come up again. My solution will be to explain to who ever that if he gets to bring a date then my aunt (recent widow), my uncle on another side, my mom, and my dad will all be allowed dates (all not seeing anyone). That is five extra people! Plus I would feel guilty about not letting one of my brothers and one of my sisters bringing dates. Then there are three cousins two of which I am close to that might need dates beacuse what is 3 more? I'm already allowing serious relationships so I don't feel guilty about not letting anyone bring random dates. Plus, not ever meeting any dates of my parents in the 26 years they've been seperated I would feel weird allowing them dates.
Becky said
Perhaps it's a bit cowardly of me, but part of my contingency plan for this situation is the location of the wedding/receptions. I don't expect much of my family in OH to drive to NY for a wedding, so that alleviates my worry about some 400 people on that side. We'll have a second reception in Ohio catered by a dear family friend and his wife (a Chinese family that has adopted my parents as their own) to include that side of the family. And if they don't care for Chinese food and choose not to come, it's their loss: Sheng is a heck of a cook!
Secondly, Fiancee and I are planning to start a wildlife rescue and/or education center, so I think it would be a Great Idea to have the ceremony and/or NY reception at the center where we work now… with its many inhabitants as invited guests/entertainment. But, by making it known that yes, our ENTIRE New York family will be there– scales, feathers, fur, and all– I know some people will send regrets because they're put off by the animals we work with… and that's okay. While it's not as though we'll be serving punch from the top of the rattlesnake enclosure, we know that what we do isn't for everybody. Those that decline have an excuse (There are snakes!) but we've welcomed them into a day we're going to enjoy the heck out of, whether they're there to share in it or not.
Amy said
I'm SO thankful that I recently read this post. I just had to deal with this exact situation. Some crazy friends of my uncle's emailed my Grandma begging to be invited to our wedding (they live in a nearby state and want to see my Grandma when she's here for the wedding). She emailed back and CCd me "Consider yourself invited! See you in July!" I immediately called her and politely/calmly explained that we couldn't invite them and she needed to tell them that. They're welcome to spend time with her while she's in town, but they're not coming to my wedding or any of the events.
I explained that we're already at capacity for our venue and we want to have our closest friends and family as guests because that's the wedding we want and that's the wedding we can afford (we're paying for our own wedding, so stressing what we can afford seems to usually be effective with our families).
She was kind of upset at first but then she understood and she regretted her off-the-cuff email invite. I just sent her and some other outspoken people the guest list so that this hopefully doesn't happen again.
Anyway, thank you, Offbeat Bride! I used a lot of the tactics you suggested — I tackled the situation immediately and held my ground while also trying to appreciate the fact that these people just want to be part of a fun event with my family.
Rachel said
I know I am a little behind as far as reading this but I am just now dealing with this situation and its annoying since the invites have been out to everyone for a few weeks. I have been blessed by the fact my father has been traditional by offering to take on a large chunk of our budget. The downside is my father isn't the type of person who says okay this is your budget but let me know if you need a little more, it sometimes might as well be threats bad with staying on exact budget and not even a dollar over his budget. Granted its fair for him to do its an amazing gift and I have 4 sisters and 1 brother he got screwed for weddings haha. So understanding this along with the fact there is no way for my fiance and I to have a small wedding due to divorces and remarriages of all our parents we will have 8 parents and 13 siblings when we get married….no way to do anything small with that army. So keeping this in mind and us both having big close families his mostly in Seattle and Ohio then mine mostly in West Virginia and Ohio. We are having the wedding in Ohio since we currently live here, anyways we have invited some extended family members like 3rd cousins but that's due to us talking to them and seeing them as often as we see first cousins. Due to that we did invite a few people we only see once or twice a year because we do love them and want them to be there plus to do what we thought would avoid the whole why do they get to come but not us thing. Now our wedding is kid friendly but we did not invite the kids of 3 out of the 4 people we wanted there but did it more to save face. Now at this point you are probably wondering why we didn't invite the kids…well once person is my grandmothers sister who is in her mid 80s, her daughter and husband are 2 more of the 4. They have 5 kids plus 2 or 3 are in serious relationships and 1 has a child. Then the 4th person is her son who I don't know how many times he has claimed to be married but the last count of kids he has that I herd was 13. I have met more since I herd that count but he has I believe only 5 who live with him and all 4 girls have babies and his son creeps me out like tried to make out with me creep me out…I don't care how far the cousin rang goes were still blood and that's ICKY! His kids/mothers are between the ages of 16 and maybe 25 and their kids are between the ages of about a year and 6 I believe I have not met them all. So needless to say to invite them all would be a huge cost. Now after knowing this I sent the invites just to the adults, now my 88 year old grandmother is on my back trying to guilt me into letting just the husband and wife couple bring their kids well its not that I don't love them and wouldn't really enjoy them being there but then where do I draw the line. Plus just that family 7 to 13 people if the kids have dates is another 150 to 250 in food cost, not to mention cost of another table center piece, the cost of table liens and all that other stuff I don't think people think about or know goes into each person who attends a wedding. That is my current problem so any advice on how to address them or my grandmother about it please do help. I have told my grandmother that its not that I don't want their kids to be there or that I don't love them because I do but I cant afford for all of them to be there and so we invited who we felt had to be there to stay on budget. Any other steps please I should take pleases let me know, because again the invites have even been to the people in Seattle for a few weeks and my wedding is in less then 60 days away!
Hayley said
My sister just broke up with her boyfriend (who I'm not fond of anyway), though they're going to try to be friends, and one of the first things he asks her is "I'm still invited to the wedding, right?". Umm, no, I don't think so! There's enough time before the wedding that it shouldn't be too much of a problem, but still it worries me.
And don't get me started on the drama my mother is causing with the guest list, inviting and even UNinviting people all over the place!
TLR said
I so feel these posts! My fiance had some relatives that he hasn't talked to since 1998 contact him to ask why they didn't get a save the date card. Really?!? How ridiculous is that? And his mom threw him under the bus because they contacted her first and she (knowing we are having a smaller wedding) told the relative to contact him and ask. Ridiculous.
Rachel said
Since my wedding was yesterday I can let you know what ended up having happen with mine, the guest I didnt want to invite but got invited via my grandma and dad showed up. I can honestly tell you I didnt notice, you will be so busy having people taking your picture, talking to you and trying to get your attention that unless its a small wedding you wont notice. After the wedding was over I was exhausted, starving and felt like I was unable to talk to 50% of the people in attendance just because going to get a drink took me almost a half hour by the time you talk to everyone between where the drinks are and where you are sitting haha. It was a fantastic time and honestly in the end those people ended up way better behaved then I had expected and I had some people I thought for sure were going to be there and didnt show so I didnt go over head count or anything. So it all worked out beautifully!
Natasha Harper-Madison said
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Killapea said
I'm very much a people pleaser so I tend to invite way more people than I can handle. Also, I tend to friend people who can be really thunder stealing, not really good in a wedding situation. Our wedding was really awkward because we invited people from all over that we knew and they didn't really mix well. I wish I had the balls to tell them to "f" off.