Valery & Jon's buttons and games sweet tooth wedding #Real Weddings: Southern US#brides in glasses#button#candy buffet#christian#dry wedding#games#grooms cake#hat#oklahoma#tattooed bride January 17 | Offbeat Editors Photos by Alexandra Jordan Photography The offbeat bride: Valery, Student Her offbeat partner: Jon, Student Date and location of wedding: Stokely Event Center, Tulsa, OK — October 7, 2011 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Once we saw Stokely Event Center, we fell in love with it! It was perfect for us and seemed like it would be perfect for everyone else as well. Since we decided we didn't want any alcohol (for cost and personal reasons), we were concerned with people "not having as much fun." This venue had the perfect setting for a fun night: neon lights, a shuffleboard, pinball games, skee ball, etc. Our centerpieces were all different little things we love like owls, zebras, a pug statue (in honor of our pug, Snorlax!), a roll of film, cameras, etc. along with engagement pictures in frames I made with buttons on them. We also decided we didn't want to have dinner. We wanted to have a full-on desert and candy bar! We're both obsessed with sweets. We had cupcakes, cheesecake bites, pies (that my daddy made!), brownies, and all kinds of our favorite candies. Darkly dreaming about this cake. Jon's groom's cake was "Dexter"-themed, made by our amazing friend! We also fed each other candied apples instead of cake! We tried to DIY as much as possible. I made all of the button boutonnieres. Our save-the-dates, invitations, and centerpieces were made from engagement pictures my best friend/maid of honor took. My grandma made all the bouquets with fake flowers and feathers so I could keep it. One of my bridesmaids sewed buttons on my TOMS shoes. We made our own photo booth. I love photography, so it was an important aspect to include as well. We didn't have to decorate much because the venue is covered in neon signs! I told my bridesmaids to pick out a black dress to wear and the groomsmen black pants and a white shirt. We bought each girl a necklace and teal hair accessory and the guys' skinny ties! Tell us about the ceremony: We wanted a short and sweet ceremony. Our good friend and maid of honor's husband, Nick, performed our ceremony. Jon and I both wanted someone we knew and someone who knew God as well. We did a unity cross ceremony and wrote our own vows. Jon's vows made everyone tear up, while mine made everyone laugh. It was a perfect mixture of sweet and funny. The ceremony and reception were in the same place, in the same room. Everyone was already seated at their tables while we were getting married. Our biggest challenge: Keeping the wedding small. We wanted a small wedding, but we both have big families, so this caused a lot of difficulties. We ended up deciding on only inviting close family and very close friends. If we hadn't talked to them recently, we didn't invite them. It ended up being really nice because the people who care about us most were all there. Our closest friends were all in the wedding party, which was pretty huge for a smaller wedding. The alcohol issue came up a few times, but it wasn't a huge challenge. Some of our family and friends were a little disappointed that we decided against it. We stuck to our decision, as it was the best for us. We didn't want to have to worry about people getting home or issues going on during the reception! My favorite moment: Writing our own vows and ceremony. It meant more to me that we said what we actually felt instead of repeating something after someone. Kid magnet! My funniest moment: We had our three nieces and one nephew in the wedding. They were so excited about the candy bar that when they were walking in, two of them walked straight to the candy bar instead of down the aisle! They eventually weaved in and out the tables and made it to the front of the room! It was so cute! My advice for offbeat brides: Hire a videographer! I regret not hiring one. I thought the most important aspect was a photographer. While I am SO happy with our pictures, I feel like I missed some stuff, like our nieces walking the wrong way. Take a minute for you and your new partner. Right after we got married, our friends made us plates and we went and sat in a room by ourselves for about five minutes, just to hang out, talk, and be excited together. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Dress: Alfred Angelo Hat: Forever 21 Photography: Alexandra Jordan Photography Candy apples: Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! allowFullScreen="true" flashvars="offsite=true&lang=en-us&page_show_url=photos%2F72709997%40N03%2Fsets%2F72157628802430323%2Fshow%2F&page_show_back_url=photos%2F72709997%40N03%2Fsets%2F72157628802430323%2Fshow%2F&set_id=72157628802430323&jump_to=" width="800" height="500"> Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Offbeat Empire staff newsletter: Stephanie is moving to Portland! NEXT It's a nice day for a white bridesmaid dress roundup Toggle comments [ 14 ] A pug named Snorlax? I think I'm in love! 4 agree Reply Yes! Haha, we also have a cat named Scyther! We love Pokemon! 1 agrees Reply I love love LOVE the pug! And the Dexter cake is killer (pun!) Congratulations! 1 agrees Reply SUPER cute wedding! But I don't think Oklahoma qualifies as the South? Reply Thank you! And… I don't really know what Oklahoma qualifies as! Haha. Reply Where to stick Oklahoma (…THAT'S WHAT SHE SAID!) seems to be a question for the ages. We stuck it in the South. Your mileage may vary. Reply I grew up in Oklahoma, as did my whole family, and we've always called it the south (south central is probably the most accurate, but w/e) Reply Google searches and asking random people proved inconclusive for me as well. I deem it a province of Narnia. 1 agrees Reply I LOVE that last B&W photo. I love when you can just see how happy a couple is to be married. I hope my own photos end up looking like that! Reply Thank you! I'm sure your photos will be wonderful! Reply I am so sad I forgot to mention a couple of things on here! We had so much help from everyone in our families it was incredible! My sister-in-law was pretty much our wedding coordinator… Since I was so busy with all these DIY things I completely forgot about some of the little things.. Like tongs for the candy, etc, luckily my sister in law came to the rescue! So thankful for her! And also, Jon's aunt made our "guest book" it was a poster sized picture of us with our wedding date that everyone signed! We love it! Reply So, I love what you did with your TOMS!! I'm really into the shoes and want to incorporate them into my own wedding (whenever it happens). Congratulations on ur wedding and how awesome it turned out! 1 agrees Reply Hey valery! I am getting married at Stokley's this October and i just had a few questions if you wouldn't mind emailing me that would be awesome! =) Thanks!!! firstname.lastname@example.org Reply Yeah for sober weddings! Our's is dry too! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. 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