The offbeat groom: Nathan, construction sales
His offbeat partner: Alanna, writer/editor (and Tribe member)
Location & date of wedding: Canyon of the Eagles resort, Burnet, TX — October 30, 2010
What made our wedding offbeat: We had a Day of the Dead-themed wedding since Alanna has traveled quite a bit in Mexico and studied Spanish. She collects Day of the Dead images and art and loves the style of Mexican art as well as the family-centric and positive, often humorous, attitude of the holiday. We decided to toss out most of the wedding conventions since neither of us considers ourself traditional: no bouquet toss, no father-daughter dance, and no wedding march. And if the bride looks good in red, she should wear red!
We asked all of our guests to wear black. A few thought this was odd, but it resulted in some good pictures.
We also invited guests to dress up for Halloween at the reception if they wanted to. We provided masks and makeup, but some guests went all out. Halloween is one of our favorite holidays as well, and many of our guests were staying for the whole weekend with us since most had come in from out-of-town.
Alanna made as many things as she could to cut down on costs, including the cute postcard invitations, hand-painted tile favors, the silk fans carried by the bridesmaids, and the hairpiece and wire-wrapped necklace she wore.
The resort we stayed at was super cheap, let us bring our own alcohol, and was at the end of a road on a lake. It can't get more secluded and private than that!
Tell us about the ceremony: We got married in six minutes flat! We didn't realize how short it was until we watched the home video a friend recorded for us. From the first girl walking out to the final vodka shots to seal the deal was six minutes on the dot. It felt like time stopped for us, so we were shocked.
A good friend of Alanna's was the officiant. We dubbed her "Father Boyd" and made her a white-collar choker. I had been very nervous right before the ceremony, but luckily I got stung on the neck by a wasp, and the pain took all the nerves away.
The bride's sister read a poem by Rumi.
When I am with you, we stay up all night.
When you're not here, I can't go to sleep.
Praise God for these two insomnias!
And the difference between them.
The minute I heard my first love story
I started looking for you, not knowing
how blind that was.
Lovers don't finally meet somewhere.
They're in each other all along.
We are the mirror as well as the face in it.
We are tasting the taste this minute
of eternity. We are pain
and what cures pain, both. We are
the sweet cold water and the jar that pours.
I want to hold you close like a lute, so we can cry out with loving.
You would rather throw stones at a mirror?
I am your mirror, and here are the stones.
- The Essential Rumi, translated by Coleman Barks
Our biggest challenge: The unexpected. We were both sick for the whole weekend. That's one of the things you don't think about when planning for a wedding. Luckily, we had a ton of helpful friends and family who got all the decor and setup taken care of while the bride lay in bed thinking she was going to die. We powered through though, and in the pictures you can't even tell. Other than that, the whole thing went off without a hitch.
My favorite moment: Definitely the ceremony and reading our vows to each other. The sun was setting, the weather was perfect, and there was a breeze off the lake. Everyone around us was smiling and there was so much positive energy and love. The moment was endless and is imprinted on my mind forever.
My funniest moment: There were several (Alanna thinks Nathan getting stung by a wasp is one, but he disagrees), but one of the best was seeing one of our couch surfing friends, a guy dressed in drag, dancing very closely with the bearded older husband of another friend.
My advice for offbeat brides: Take care of yourself before the wedding. Exercise, eat right, and get enough sleep. Being sick for the wedding is something you can't really get around or ignore. Don't let the stress knock you out of the game.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? We learned to ignore some of the setbacks that occurred during planning. Alanna had tried to purchase a dress online and was actually scammed for most of her bridal budget. We tried not to get discouraged, and just moved forward trying not to focus on the loss, eventually finding a better dress for much less. We tried not to sweat the small stuff, and focused on each other, our family and friends, and the awesome time we had together made our day awesome.
Care to share a few vendor/shopping links?
- Photography: She-n-He Photography
- Venue: Canyon of the Eagles Lodge
- Dress: Signature Bridal, Maggie Sottero gown
- Hair and makeup: Erika Goetz
- DJ: Table Manners Crew, DJ Digg
- Cake: Fantasy Cakes, Round Rock TX
Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!