Claire & Stevie's Sydney meets Edinburgh garden wedding #Real Weddings: Global#bagpipes#black dress#europe#garden#kilt#mismatched-bridesmaids#outdoor#scotland September 29 | Offbeat Editors Photos by Lauren McGlynn The offbeat bride: Claire, Architect Her offbeat partner: Stevie, Sailmaker Date and location of wedding: Kirknewton Stables, Edinburgh, UK — July 13, 2011 What made our wedding offbeat: I never dreamt about being a bride like other girls, so Stevie and I started from scratch with how we wanted the day to be. My black and white dress was a huge secret (only my mum and bridesmaids knew) and everyone gasped when I walked into the garden. I never wear white, so it seemed ridiculous I would wear white on our wedding day. I looked at amazing vintage gowns and had not really considered black until I saw the black tulle skirt in a shop window on Gertrude Street in Melbourne. The store, Sadotna, is full of black pieces and nothing else, so it was hilarious when we told the shop assistant it was for my wedding. Tell us about the ceremony: Juliet Wilson, our humanist celebrant, encouraged and guided the writing of our personalized vows. We had been to a Jewish wedding where the bride and groom alternately read vows to each other. We wanted to do something similar, with a splash of humour: Claire: I vow to strive to make you happy at every moment. Stevie: I vow to always go exploring with you no matter how old we are. Claire: to always comfort you when Hearts loses, and celebrate when they win. Stevie: to listen to your architecture stories attentively. Claire: to learn how to drive a manual car. Stevie: to praise your garden growing magnificent daffodils and gladioli. Claire: to stand by your side and support your choices whatever lies ahead. Stevie: to laugh with you in the good times. Claire: to struggle with you in the bad times. Stevie: I vow to you that this is a marriage of equals. Claire: I vow to be your best friend and companion. Our old friend Sarah read a beautiful story that she wrote about how Stevie and I met in Edinburgh and our time together there. It was one of my favourite parts of the day, as we only see Sarah every one or two years, and she knew Stevie and I from the early days. She has a beautiful way of speaking and telling stories (plus a great sense of humour) , and we wanted to share that with our Australian friends and family that had never met her. My sister Louisa, read a Samuel Taylor Coleridge poem that Stevie had found: To answer a child's question Do you ask what the birds say? The Sparrow, the Dove, The Linnet and Thrush say, "I love and I love!" In the winter they're silent–the wind is so strong; What it says, I don't know, but it sings a loud song. But green leaves, and blossoms, and sunny warm weather, And singing, and loving-all come back together. But the Lark is so brimful of gladness and love, The green fields below him, the blue sky above, That he sings, and he sings; and for ever sings he– I love my Love, and my Love loves me!" The celebrant had previously introduced my bridesmaids as my best friends, which had set Loui off crying. When she started to read her voice cracked and through tears, she said she couldn't finish the reading. Then, totally randomly, a nearby house/car alarm went off and the whole congregation laughed – so Loui was able to take a deep breath and go on. Finally, Stevie's grandfather, Lawrence read a blessing: In this place, In this period of quietness, Let us all think for a moment Of Claire and Stevie. This is a new beginning for them, With all their hopes and dreams of love. May these hopes and dreams be realised. May they believe in each other; May they be devoted to each other; May the warmth of their love for each other, In the kindness of their home, Allow them to be charitable To others as well as to themselves. Through their years together, May their love grow and deepen Through giving each to other. May they learn the great joy That comes from sharing. He read it in such a clear, stoic, Scottish accent, I was so glad we asked him to close with this reading. I feel there is more gravitas when you ask an elderly person to read such a heart-warming verse. Our biggest challenge: I met Stevie when I was living in Edinburgh nine years ago. We moved to Australia seven years ago, so I could finish my architecture degree. We now live in Sydney. Stevie's family assumed we would get married in Sydney, however I often feel bad that we get Stevie all to ourselves, so we decided to have the wedding in Edinburgh. Therefore, organising the wedding from Sydney was our biggest challenge. We did as much before we arrived as possible, as we only arrived in Edinburgh one week before the wedding. For example, we had a series of outdoor tables, with a simple single flower in glass votive arrangement. I printed a series of old maps of Sydney and Edinburgh, cut them in circles a little smaller than the table, and carried them on the plane from Sydney! Susannah from Event 88 organised all the table settings, flowers and decorations for us. We had a clear idea of what we wanted, but it was still difficult to communicate via Skype and email. In the end we were so pleased we asked Susannah, as she took all the stress out of the day and we were able to relax. My other huge challenge was finding a top half to my wedding dress! After I found the black tulle skirt in Melbourne, I searched for something, but I was either getting singlets/vests or structured work blouses. And then I met Melissa Kritsotakis! She had made my sister Jemima's dress and we were all on the same wavelength. She immediately knew what to do, and it was such an enjoyable process to see her design and mould the blouse to suit the skirt. My funniest moment: Craig, Stevie's best man, gave an amazing speech. He paced the lawn for an hour before, rehearsing in his head. The result was one of the best and funniest speeches I've ever heard. Practice makes perfect. Plus, he did a nice job of embarrassing Stevie! Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? Stevie found the venue, Kirknewton Stables, online. We could see the stable was a blank canvas, with beautiful timber ceilings and stone walls. However there weren't many photos of the venue setting, garden, and entry. We just crossed our fingers. When we visited the venue two days before the wedding, Edinburgh had put on some sparkling weather and the garden looked absolutely beautiful. The owner of the stables, Charles Welworth, suggested we disembark the guests from the coach at the opposite end of his private garden, weather permitting. On the day, the guests had this wonderful walk through his garden in full bloom arriving on the lawn where the reception was held. Later on, the garden was a beautiful quiet retreat for Stevie and I when we had our photographs taken. My advice for offbeat brides: Stevie and I planned this wedding together, and the guests responded to the day because it was an expression of both of us. From Stevie's cricket in kilts, to my Australian flowers and our combined vows, we achieved a nice balance. Therefore, my advice is to brides is to include your husband in the planning (except for the dress)! What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? I never wanted bridesmaids because I thought the idea of having a maid was old-fashioned. My sisters were my bridesmaids and we could not have planned this wedding without them. Louisa found our amazing hair and makeup stylists, and Jemima attended week after week of dress fittings and shoe hunting. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Halfway through the process of organising the wedding, I realised how lucky we were to have found all these amazing people to help make our ideas real. I really enjoyed the creative process, especially with Melissa Kritsotakis and Gerard Wollaston. I'm an architect, so I'm usually the one designing something for someone else. It was such a pleasure for it to be the other way around! Photography: Lauren McGlynn Black tulle skirt: Sadotna, Melbourne Blouse: Melissa Kritsotakis, Sydney Food: Catriona Staddon at Hyndberry Catering Coordinator: Susannah Armstrong at 88 Events Makeup: Janice at JD Bridal, Edinburgh Hair Style: Lynne Mills at Eye Candy, Scotland Hair clip: Joyce Paton, Edinburgh Shoes: Leona Edmiston Strapless bridesmaid dress: Aurelio Costarella Other bridesmaid dress: Melissa Kritsotakis, Sydney Rings: custom designed wedding bands by Gerard Wollaston, Sydney Humanist Celebrant: Juliet Wilson, Edinburgh Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! allowFullScreen="true" flashvars="offsite=true&lang=en-us&page_show_url=photos%2Flaurencleaves%2Fsets%2F72157627397194165%2Fshow%2F&page_show_back_url=photos%2Flaurencleaves%2Fsets%2F72157627397194165%2Fshow%2F&set_id=72157627397194165&jump_to=" width="800" height="500"> This post features Offbeat Vendors! Check out their vendor listing to see how they cater to Offbeat Brides: Lauren McGlynn Photography Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Seven rice tossing and send-off alternatives for a very dramatic exit NEXT How to make your own "Lady Gaga" mini veil Toggle comments [ 16 ] Gorgeous! I love every single thing about your wedding; both you two and the venue were STUNNING! 3 agree Reply Wow.. This has to be one of the most GORGEOUS sets of pics I have ever seen on OBB. Your venue, omg. That dress, OMFG! And I absolutely love the reason you chose to have the wedding in Edinburgh. So sweet. 3 agree Reply I love Edinburgh! Beautiful venue and I love the dress. Congratulations! 1 agrees Reply I have a question. Were all of your Australian friends and relatives familiar with the tradition of men wearing their own tartans? My fiance is Scottish and wanted to dress his whole party in his tartan, however 2 of our American groomsmen SHOCKED us by saying they had their own tartans and would love to wear that. Which we are totally stoked about! However, I'm worried that my all American family will be confused by some of the men being in one tartan while two are in different tartans? How did you explain that to your non-Scottish guests, if at all? I'm thinking about a blurb about tartans and families etc in the program…. Thanks in advance, A confused Yankee Reply Hi Jess, we had lots of Aussies ask us about wearing tartan, but we said, why don't you just let the Scots do their thing and you wear what you normally wear to a wedding? so pretty much we only had Scots in kilts – I know that probably doesn't help you very much…Good Luck! Reply If it helps, at Scottish weddings there are always lots of different tartans. Usually the Groom's party will all wear the same one (Groom, Best Man, Groomsmen etc) but the guests will just rent whatever one they like or their family one, or they may have a kilt of their own they will wear. Doesn't all have to be matchy Reply Your venue is the most beautiful place!! Also love your dress and who doesn't love a man in a kilt! Congrats!! Reply WOW. It's a good thing I didn't see this months ago. I might have thrown my dress to the curb. This dress ensemble is pretty much what I had in my head but never found. Just goes to show that you need to go custom to get what you want! STUNNING! This is such a simply elegant and stunning wedding. I adore. 1 agrees Reply absolutely breathtaking! Reply For a wedding that seems like SO much fun, it also lools very couture! 1 agrees Reply Girl you absolutely ROCKED that skirt & blouse! I have seen some beautiful wedding gowns on this site but your blouse and skirt combo just looked superb. It looked wicked on you, and your hair set the whole look off perfectly! Oh, and that picture of the stable all done up for your wedding looks just spectacular! (I've saved it onto my computer because I love the look of it so much! And I'm not even getting married!) 4 agree Reply First of all, that outfit – A M A Z I N G. I am seriously drooling! Second, that blessing is beautiful, it made me tear up. Congratulations on a gorgeous, meaningful wedding! 1 agrees Reply I love your wedding, and it might be closer than anything else I've seen on OBB to what I'm planning for my own… except my bridemaids are the ones in black and I'll be the one in champagne. Everything came together so beautifully! I'm saving this one 😉 Reply *GASP* Love the wedding dress!!!!!! Reply Was it difficult to arrange the legalities for Australian to be married in UK? Did you simply contact/register at local civic office, and on a Tourist Visa? I am thinking of marrying my English fiance in June, but not sure if I can arrange this in advance? Reply Goregous photos. I am looking for a venue in/around edinburgh and was wondering if the stables were decorated completely by yourself or did the venue provide tables, fairy lights etc? Again, stunning wedding, just wow!! Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked * Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. 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