Melissa & Lydia's intimate island getaway wedding #Real Weddings: Western US#colorful#crafty wedding#economical wedding#lesbian#literature theme#pie#plus size#ring warming#short hair#simple wedding#tattooed bride#two dresses#video games#washington April 15 | Offbeat Editors The last Library Week wedding features two lovely ladies (one of whom is a Library grad student!) you've seen before. Get ready to get a little teary when you read the poems from their ceremony. – Becca Photos by Desiree Haigh The offbeat bride: Melissa, library grad student/HR coordinator Her offbeat partner: Lydia, video game tester Location & date of wedding: Oddfellows Hall, Orcas Island WA — September 11, 2010 What made our wedding offbeat: We both started out pretty skeptical about weddings (and marriage). Since we're a same sex couple, our wedding wouldn't be legal, and we aren't religious, so we had to figure out what would be meaningful to us and build a whole wedding from the ground up. What we decided was most important to us was being married in the eyes of our friends and family, so we focused on that as we made wedding plans. Tell us about the ceremony: The ceremony was pretty simple. We read poems and had a ring warming. Lydia read the poem, "Valentine" by Carol Ann Duffy: Not a red rose or a satin heart. I give you an onion. It is a moon wrapped in brown paper. It promises light like the careful undressing of love. Here. It will blind you with tears like a lover. It will make your reflection a wobbling photo of grief. I am trying to be truthful. Not a cute card or kissogram. I give you an onion. Its fierce kiss will stay on your lips, possessive and faithful as we are, for as long as we are. Take it. Its platinum loops shrink to a wedding ring, if you like. Lethal. Its scent will cling to your fingers, cling to your knife. Melissa read this poem by Pablo Neruda: Tie your heart at night to mine, love, and both will defeat the darkness like twin drums beating in the forest against the heavy wall of wet leaves. Night crossing: black coal of dream that cuts the thread of earthly orbs with the punctuality of a headlong train that pulls cold stone and shadow endlessly. Love, because of it, tie me to a purer movement, to the grip on life that beats in your breast, with the wings of a submerged swan, So that our dream might reply to the sky's questioning stars with one key, one door closed to shadow. Our biggest challenge: We had no idea what we were doing. Neither of us is very big on event planning, so we hired a planner (Jubilee Event Engineers) to talk us through it. We had a lot of disjointed ideas, and working with someone with experience planning parties helped us bring them together into a cohesive whole. My favorite moment: Melissa: During the ceremony, we passed around our rings and invited guests to stand up and say something. All the people who decided to speak were touching, and thoughtful and funny. One friend wished us the patience and perseverance needed to beat a Legend of Zelda water temple. Lydia: We also read poems to each other as part of our vows. I cried with chin wubbles the whole time, no lie. (Melissa: I second Lydia's chin wubbles.) Watching our friends and family pull together to make the food and setup and takedown the decorations was awesome. My funniest moment: Dorky dance moves. During the ring passing, a toddler guest exclaimed "Ooh!" at the rings and tried to take them. Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? We were afraid that the food might not come together, since we didn't hire a caterer and were planning on cooking with our friends. Luckily, the friends who put together our menu did an amazing job, and dinner was perfect. My advice for offbeat brides: My most important advice: make sure you have underwear that isn't visible through your dress. Seriously. Especially if you are 3 hours away from home. Also, if you're planning on doing a lot yourself on your wedding day, people will not let you. Plan accordingly. Be picky about your vendors. We only had two vendors actually at our wedding, and they were both the kind of people we could go out for coffee with. This made working with them fun, and helped us feel more comfortable. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photographer: Desiree Haigh Officiant: Quinn Russell Wedding planner: Jubilee Event Engineers Melissa's dress: Igigi Lydia's dress: Mori Lee bridesmaid dress Melissa's shoes: '80s vintage, Flower On The Wall Lydia's shoes: Seychelles Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! allowFullScreen="true" flashvars="offsite=true&lang=en-us&page_show_url=photos%2Fsoul_toast%2Fsets%2F72157625559895258%2Fshow%2F&page_show_back_url=photos%2Fsoul_toast%2Fsets%2F72157625559895258%2Fshow%2F&set_id=72157625559895258&jump_to=" width="800" height="500"> This post features Offbeat Vendors! Check out their vendor listing to see how they cater to Offbeat Brides: Jubilee Event Engineers Quinn Russell Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS Should I tell my Christian grandmother about my Pagan wedding? NEXT Irregular Choice wedding shoes Toggle comments [ 14 ] You guys are awesome! I love your photos, as a fellow library graduate in May I wish you both the best. I'm engaged and getting married in July and my wedding is getting out of hand…. 1 agrees Reply DUDE. Lydia is a video game tester?? I can't believe jobs that awesome exist. Beautiful photos! Reply I simply MUST know what the dessert is that sort of looks like a stack of pancakes! Someone please please identify this yummy looking item. I'm drooling and I have to make this thing and eat it very soon or be driven mad with the not knowing how delicious it might be! Reply That's our wedding cake! It was some ridiculous flavor like blackberry lemonade or something. And yes, it was AMAZING. Rather than one large cake, we had an assortment of desserts from local businesses. We had that cake, that lovely pie, and half a dozen huge gooey chocolate cupcakes. I wholeheartedly encourage the re-creation of this cake. Its deliciousness would make the world a better place. Reply It's so unusual, with the pancake looking layers, I thought it might have a special name or something. Thanks for filling me in, although now I'm drooling besides the curiosity. Your wedding looked absolutely lovely, btw! And congrats!! Reply what a pleasure to read! you guys are gorgeous and so was your wedding. You chose terrific poems, too. Very inspiring. Reply This is absolutely gorgeous. Ths b&w photo of you two kissing melts my heart. ….and I LOVE Carol Ann Duffy. Reply oh this is so exciting!!!! we are getting married at THE EXACT SAME PLACE on July 16th!!!! Reply Totally f'ing gorgeous. I HAVE to ask where you guys got your cardigans, because I have been looking for those exact type of freaking sweaters for forever. I thought they would be easy to find! 1 agrees Reply They came from H&M and the Gap. Melissa bought them years ago. I had a lot of trouble finding cardigans too, which is why I ended up borrowing one of hers. Reply Congratulations! I love the photo of you two doing a grr (?) face with the white lights in the background! Reply You two are seriously one the most adorable couples I've ever seen! Good luck to you both and your wedding looked amazing! 1 agrees Reply Both of your dresses are super-beautiful. Reply these two women look so in love, it warms my heart to see such love Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked * Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. 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