Casual wedding invitations and the insanity of writing out "Two Thousand and Fourteen"

By on Jan. 31st

Love is in the Air Wedding Invitations

When I got engaged, I never thought that figuring out which words to use on our invitation would be harder than figuring out which invitations to use.

Choosing the invite was almost instinctual, whereas figuring out how to word the damn thing became a freaking internal struggle.

It became my tomboy-ish, anti-formal, easy-going ways fighting against the years of Cotillion training and the voices of my old-money-Southern-society family members chiding me about how certain things are "just done" in this family.

If my parents had it their way, the invitations (and the whole wedding in general!) would have been very formal.

According to them, and all the etiquette books, since my parents were paying for the wedding, our invitations should have read:

Mr. and Mrs. My Dads Name III
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter,
Megan Elizabeth
Mr. Aaron's Full Name
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Aaron's Dads Name
on Friday, the tenth of October
two thousand and eight

…and so on and so forth in way too many words.

[related-post align="right"]The thing is… did we somehow turn into British royalty when we became engaged? We don't talk like that! Isn't this invitation supposed to be for a ceremony that is all about our relationship? And I know, for a fact, that our relationship would never "request the honour of your presence" or "cordially invite you," no matter how much we wanted you there. Our relationship would never refer to ourselves by our full names — our relationship rarely ever even uses our first names! And our relationship would certainly never spell out the year 2008. In fact, our relationship is the kind of relationship that gets ANGRY when it sees dates and times spelled out completely in words!

When I first started planning the invites, I found myself actually stressing over the wording of the invitation. I even found myself Googling "the proper way to word a wedding invitation." And then, when I started the first draft, I caught myself actually spelling out "two thousand and…" — wait a minute! What am I doing?

So I changed tactics and wouldn't you know it… I stumbled upon a blog post called "Wedding invitation wording that won't make you barf." Yes! That's exactly what I was looking for! I clicked over to Offbeat Bride and everything changed. That's when I came to terms with the fact that there's no reason why your invitation can't be as personable and as easy-going as your relationship. It's okay to have an informal wedding invitation. In fact, sometimes informal invitations can seem more, well, inviting!

In the end, I went with my heart and decided on our informal wedding invations, including a jovial RSVP.

I decided to word our invitation thusly:

Please join
Megan & Aaron
as they exchange their marriage vows
Friday, October 10th, 2008
at sunset
on Keawakapu Beach, Maui

reception & rock 'n' roll to follow

When Aaron saw the last sentence he started shaking his head and said, "You're such a nerd." I stopped dead, "Oh no, do you not like it?" I had totally thought it was something he would appreciate. But then he started laughing and said, "No, it's perfect!" And then we high-fived.

And that, my friends, is why you will never be "cordially invited" to anything we do. But we WILL totally ask you to show up to our rockin' party.

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About Megan Finley

Megan Finley is the Associate Publisher for the Offbeat Empire. When she's not slaving away for the Empire, she's sharing her dork side on her own blog, Twitter @meganfinley, and Instagram @meggyfin.